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Question/Guidance. Talked about marriage first time (dating 3 years), Gf been acting out in self destruction. Am I ready to propose or is this going to be a disaster? (self.marriedredpill)

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[–]abdadaHARD CORE RED 20ポイント21ポイント  (18子コメント)

I married a woman who got drunk. It cost me 7-figures.

Women who get drunk are not worth marrying -- I've watching this over and over again in the marriages of people I respect. Alcohol is a masculine trait and hobby, women and alcohol don't mix.

I would personally next her for the obvious disrespect. You don't pave that over with flowers and gold.

Your post feels trolly.

  • She gets drunk and acts out -- BPD?
  • She wants to bang other dudes and has talked about it. Often?
  • She needs drugs to fall asleep.

This is not an LTR you should be in. Instead of fixing yourself you are spinning down the toilet drain with her. Why are you in a relationship with a total and complete loser? She's accelerating into the Wall.

[–]over60_stupid_lonerRP S.O.B. 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yes, you are hearing gospel. Went down this rabbit hole too.

I second the motion, before she sets a trap you can't get out of…..

Ditch this Bitch.

[–]ScurvemuchMRP APPROVED 2ポイント3ポイント  (7子コメント)

totally agree with you on the ten thousand red flags, even outside the alcohol.

But this person doesn't seem to value himself enough to not eat shit and like it.

[–]stonepimpletilistsHARD CORE NAVY RED 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

I don't think he's aware he's allowed to.

[–]ScurvemuchMRP APPROVED 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

But...( insert beta shit goblin/hamster comment here)

  • edit : Oh I see he did that already

[–]theultimatewarriors[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

That's just it, I played the hookup game for a long time and checked off things on my list through my 20's. I think she could be jealous of my experiences, but I don't know. I've been the one that encouraged threesomes because I like that stuff, but her talking about other dudes in any way was a complete first (and I wrote above it was because of a talk she had with her friend while on her trip that was her friend taking about "free love" where nothing is considered cheating).

[–]stonepimpletilistsHARD CORE NAVY RED 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

You put up with what you deserve.

her bullshit isn't your problem. PROTIP: her bullshit won't get better when her commitment bug is fed

[–]theultimatewarriors[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I'm not describing the situation outside of the shitty part. This girl has been a great partner in most senses of the word up to the last month or so and that coincides with talking about marriage. I'm asking if others had the same experience.

[–]ScurvemuchMRP APPROVED 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

consider this a preview

[–]ScurvemuchMRP APPROVED 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Also, if you want a partner, join a law firm, open a business.

if you want a wife, look for WIFE material.

this is showing itself not be it .

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    [–]abdadaHARD CORE RED 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Women in 'love' don't act out. They act goofy happy.

    I only LTR women who get to goofy-retardo mode for me. When they fall out of it, I end the LTR immediately, because there is no repairing it.

    I wouldn't marry a gal unless she was totally goofy-retardo for me, for a very long time.

    This one is broken and you can't glue pieces back together again.

    [–]theultimatewarriors[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

    Not trying to troll, just frustrated and trying to hear what others have to say.

    She's definitely not a loser and is a catch, but you know the kind of role models women have right now. I played the fuck around game for a long time and know it's a lot easier to be single than in a relationship but we were good together for the period leading up to this. Things have been great for a while which is why I put it under the "acting out" umbrella. She took the sleeping pills because she had a long flight back from another time zone and needed to reset from jet lag, it wasn't hard drugs, it was from a healthy standpoint of helping her body.

    This is the single first time she has ever brought up talking about other dudes, and I've since found out it was only because a girl she respects a lot was talking about her form of "free love" that essentially is anyone anytime and it's not considered cheating. I laughed at that and said good luck to that girl finding a man who will take her seriously because testosterone is a hell of a drug. I don't think she brought up another guy in any assumption other than this girl sounding really confident that it worked for her and everybody was happy. I think she literally just doesn't understand what testosterone does to a person and why I don't think that other girl will ever have a relationship with kids that would work.

    [–]over60_stupid_lonerRP S.O.B. 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Let me attempt to translate this for you. I actually do know this ancient language as I have much experience in that foreign space.

    She talked about a girl she had a crush on, and then proceeded to talk about a threesome in the future (normal, we've talked before about it). And then she talked about wanting to watch me have sex with another girl (not normal, never talked about that and I said I could see it being fun), next though she said swinging or couple swapping (not normal) and I immediately said I could never see anything with another dude involved to which she thought I meant I could never see it happening or watch it, and asked about if I didn't watch and I said not even that to which she responded disappointed. She then mentioned that she wanted to "let life happen" on the subject of another guy involved

    This is girl code for:

    I want to be married and ride the CC at the same time. I want you to hold my purse while I fuck other guys in front of you. I will offer you the same, but when I say 3-way, I really mean 2 guys and me. Swinging means I get more than 2 guys and you are on your own.

    Lastly, I will go to my therapist and get the validation, authority and permission to jam this down your throat because I want you to be happy with it and help me get the quality men I want, and, of course, help pay for it and hold my purse.

    Again brother, none of your post is new to me……. Run like a bunny.

    And I'm betting that you will stay and play.

    [–]CaveatEmptorLex1Married 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I'm not convinced you haven't met the Three Billy Goats Gruff, and I'm really not convinced on her quality.

    For me, unless you're one of the "open minded" cuckold wannabe folks I encounter more and more these days, the mention of "other men" is a deal breaker. "Where time takes" any woman I'm with is to my bed and worshiping my dick.

    From a guy older than you and married who grew out of the high volume scene. Either you or her have not had enough partners to be content. In my experience, couples that raise their n together don't stay together.

    [–]over60_stupid_lonerRP S.O.B. 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

    couples that raise their n together don't stay together

    That is downright poetic. And true, for all but a few.

    [–]irateMDMRP APPROVED 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

    Your post feels trolly.

    Either a troll or a guy with a complete lack of common sense. So much drama. I wonder what he's smoking...

    [–]theultimatewarriors[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Swear I'm not trolling. I explained only the bad parts and wondered if anybody had experience about their wives starting drama when they proposed. I've been extremely confident in this relationship up to this point since this is the first time anything like this has occurred.

    [–]abdadaHARD CORE RED 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

    It feels trolly for sure but he's got Reddit history so I guess it's real.