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Talking about trp with your therapist (self.TheBluePill)

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Hi there. I've been doing therapy with the same amazing therapist on and off for the last two years. In the midst of those two years a lot of things happened between me and my then-girlfriend, now-wife that led me to discovering trp. I don't want to get too much into it, but some of her behavior really did validate a lot of the points trp makes. And she cheated on me in the exact way I had read dozens of FR warning about. Luckily the circumstances made it so that they ended up only kissing (I know what every trp is going to think, but I have proof that it didn't went any further) so we're still together for the time being but idk if things will ever be the same again.

My personal take on trp is that everything they say regarding females is true for both sexes, when at their worst. I'm 25 and already married and used to dream about starting a family, but it really made me question the notion of family that I have, and honestly it made me realize I don't know any couple that has been together for a long time that is happy.

Things have been rough between me and my wife for at least the last year, and at some points I really hated her, so trp ended up becoming a kind of support group where these feelings found a depressing echo chamber. I've been fairly able to keep my distance from the worst parts of trp but in some levels it really did get me, and to this day I still lurk the sub.

So today I was having a therapy session, and the subject of my relationship came about, and I was almost going to mention trp but I ended up not doing so, in fear of being judged. I know a therapist is supposed to be neutral, and that she wouldn't ridicule me or be unable to have empathy for these feelings. But at the same time she's a woman, probably a feminist, and there's no way that at least at some level she won't be judging me. Maybe I'll talk about it in the next session, but it's going to be a difficult and unpleasant conversation for me to have, as unfortunately I tend to give a lot more importance to other people's opinions than I should.

Not really looking for advice, just wanted to vent and see if anyone had a similar story.

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[–]teslamintyツ 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

You might have a better a discussion over at /r/exredpill

[–]operanonthe last bluepill part left in this now MGTOW Adonis 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Seconding r/exredpill, good luck

[–]WestsideMoonWalkerHe Ain't Even Stretch Doe 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

First off, TRP makes men and women look terrible. I can't say it's like that. Secondly, I don't think you need to bring up TRP specifically, but you should absolutely bring up any insecurities that you do have. Also, stop reading TRP. Just entirely stop. It's unhealthy and makes people miserable. I'm glad you have been able to keep your distance from some of it, but you have to stop reading it if you want to feel better.

Also, when you say there are times when you have hated your wife, you have to ask yourself if you can ever forgive her. If you can't, the relationship is over without trust.

As for your therapist, it's probably fine, her being a woman doesn't have anything to do with her job as long as she is professional. Her personal views shouldn't influence what she is saying you if she is good at what she does. The fear of judgment exists in your head. The only way to get past those feelings is to be open and admit that maybe they are unhealthy and you want to get rid of them.

I know you weren't really asking for advice, but I thought I could give something.

Also, I know several couples that have been married for years and years (one for over 60 years, another for almost 30, and several more that have been together for over 20), and they are all very happy.

Anyway, you obviously respect your therapist, based off what you said at the top, so you should be open. Also, feminism isn't the big scary thing TRP makes it out to be, imo, but that's just my two cents.

Good luck. I hope it works, and I hope you do what makes you happiest.

Edit: Thirding /r/exredpill