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Why don't trans date other trans? (self.GenderCritical)

Snowdivaah が 投稿

I'm a Lez, never seen it ever. In my experience every trans I have ever known/been acquainted with tries to date the straightest passing straight or femme passing lez. If you advocate so much that it is not a fetish, why not be inclusive and date other trans, the creepy awkward ones that will never pass, they need love too right? Seems more discriminatory than anyone else you accuse. I find a real lack of credibility that I never see awkward trans + awkward trans.

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[–]cutiemccuterson 17ポイント18ポイント  (0子コメント)

Why don't MRAs date other men? Heterosexual men are attracted to women.

[–]aelesiaa 13ポイント14ポイント  (1子コメント)

Honestly I don't think it's true. I've seen a large number of transgender couples on AskTG.

[–]GCnewbundercover bi 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, I've known plenty of trans-trans couples. In fact, they generally seem to be the most chill of all trans people I know.

[–]Mortongransname 9ポイント10ポイント  (0子コメント)

They do. They "get" each other, it's all rather sweet but they do tend to go off to live fun, fulfilling and mutually supported lives together rather than go trolling seperatist lesbians for kicks.

The ones who want relationships with people that aren't attracted to them though? Just, whyyyy?! All the sex they've seen is from porn, so loveless, coerced sex is what they think they should aspire to? They've absolutely no love for themselves and want a partner who also hates them? They're rapists who get off on their partner's unwillingness to be with them?

All are plausible and there's no way people should be campaigning for sub-optimal relationships like those. (Looking at you here Liberal Feminism...)

[–]iamfromthefuture_ama 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

I actually kind of differ from the norm here in that most of the trans people i know date other trans people

[–]_the_metatron_ 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm FTM and would prefer a trans partner, common ground and mutual understanding

[–]Meowzz12 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

They do - but not enough. If trans people would start dating each other en masse there would be far fewer attacks on lesbians (and sometimes gay men).

[–]babydesu 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Well, the ones who won't date other transgender people are simply hypocritical. A MtF will expect straight males and lesbians to find them attractive despite having a body of the sex they're obv not attracted to. Yet the MtF who is let's say "lesbian" (straight really) won't find another MtF attractive because well it's not a female. They would never admit that they don't find other MtFs attractive though.

[–]BimblebyWombic Suffering 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Mm, I disagree. Most of the trans people I have known have dated other trans people, and certainly for casual sex have tended to pair with other trans people. And actually a lot of the trans people I've known were fine with 'chasers' or whatever and were aware that they were in a difficult situation, dating wise.

I think it's another of the differences between the online and offline trans communities. The trans people I've known personally have been pretty chill about the whole thing, and approached dating like most people do - aware that you can't force someone else to like you, and not wanting to.

My impression is that - for the very troubled group that makes a lot of the noise online - it's another one of the painful reminders that their delusion is a delusion, so they try to force it to be different as if that's going to alter reality. I don't think most trans people are like that, but I could be wrong - I've only know probably 3-4 personally.

[–]explains_heteros 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Because that would involve dating someone else who was also oppressed instead of showing off how powerful you think you are.

[–]Sojourner_Truthold man TERF 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I see plenty of FTM and MTF pairs on reddit. But I think there are the group of AGP transbians who want an actual woman to validate them, I've seen some on AL and AskT specifically say that they wouldn't date another MTF.

[–]radisheold and smells like crystals 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I am acquainted with a trans couple, one MtT and one FtT, irl. They don't like gay people or being included with the "gay" community at all, and feel that the only way they can avoid being gay or seen as gay is to be in a relationship with another trans person.

I've also known two drag queens involved in a relationship with each other, but they also know that they're gay men.

[–]Eclectic58MiddleAged Malcontent 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think it's like the bathroom issue. Public restrooms are not just a place to pee for them, but serve as regular "validation stations" to them. In the same way, dating isn't just a way to form personal relationships, but is yet another validation opportunity, and it's not quite as validating when dating one of their own, to whom they are "preaching to the choir" with.