this is the answer. Some people may not like to hear it but there is a bit of a general cultural difference in how women are treated in different places in the world. I had a friend who joined the Peace Corps and went to Morocco to teach young girls to read, write and learn basic math. She studied Arabic. She got regularly spit on in the street and threatened. She maintained a love for the culture and the people, I don't know how.
But from my experience traveling around the world I am not surprised at any of this. I mean, you think people would catch on with that whole "cover most/every bit of exposed skin or else you deserve what you get" part of Islamic culture but they don't. Liberal/white guilt makes people say, "it's just a cultural difference, we should respect it." And no we shouldn't.
This is what you get from cultures that treat women as second class citizens, even if the women agree with it. You import this into western culture and this is the inevitable result. If you want to bring these guys in you need to be prepared for this kind of culture clash.
By their mentality they're not doing anything wrong, any more than construction workers in New York catacalling at girls in the 50s thought there was anything wrong with it.
The whole thought that you can just grab a million people and take them out of their culture and drop them into someone else's and nothing "bad" would happen is hilariously naive.
I mean if you took a million Americans from the midwest and dropped them into Mecca you'd have a mess of people not knowing how to behave to conform with the local expectations.
You drop them into Tokyo and you get the same mess. Japanese have Japanese-only restaurants and clubs, and if you go to Bangkok they have similar things, not because the Japanese are racist just that it relieves the stress from having to interact with people from cultures who "just don't get" how to behave according to Japanese standards and requirements.
To the overly liberal point of view though, everyone is good, everyone means well, we need to help people who need help and when we do that we'll just be helping good people who will be grateful and respectful and show kindness and goodness back to those they help.
They never think that there are wolves amongst the sheep and those who are determined to get to the land of milk and honey are sometimes the most ruthless, conniving and able to and willing to break and abuse the rules if necessary to do so. And you put the wolves in amongst the sheep and what do you expect?
This whole thing is a huge mess of good intentions plus ignorance plus willful blindness plus hope plus optics.
Ukraine has been ripped in half by war and people are struggling and lost their homes there. Where are the planes picking them up to resettle them in western countries? Nobody gives two flying fucks. One dead boy shown on the TV and everyone wrung their hands over this and determined to do something about it, except everyone else in the world being raped and fucked over by their fellow kind and gentle citizens of their wonderful cultures, well fuck them. They didn't get a dead kid on the internet so we don't help them.
The whole thing makes me sick.
We all have homeless people and disadvantaged people in our own societies who are being fucked over and nobody is extending any hands to them either.
ugh. Turned into a rant but man, this is so disillusioning that people lined up to clap for this stupid political charade.