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[–]lgaroualpha 14 points15 points16 points  (5 children)
what happened to women being strong and independent without needing to have a male figure around? now all of a sudden OP is being a man and saying that no i don't want to woman that has someone else's kid and everyone is hating against him. why the fuck is he in the wrong for not wanting to take over a lease he doesn't even own. so for all of the bullshit comments saying he's not mature or not ready to be a father, that's not it. he just doesn't want a woman who's basically screening for a bank account. why the fuck else would she be dating while she's pregnant? look at the truth, not the bullshit comments. should you flip the situation for example he has a kid who is four months old because obviously men can't get pregnant, then he would be thrown in the fucking fire. if he were to ask those same questions everybody would be defending the woman saying no no no he's only looking for you to raise his kid and wash dishes and clean clothes so please, shut the fuck up with your double standards. if a man doesn't want to date a woman that presents almost immediate financial requirements and parental figure, he doesn't have to.
[–]Lord_NShYH 9 points10 points11 points  (0 children)
You're absolutely correct. Disregard white knights, acquire clarity.
[–]The-Ban-Hammer 2 points3 points4 points  (3 children)
Because women are both independently strong and, simultaneously, victims of patriarchy. So, any topic can easily be thrown on either side of the "wall," based on their argument at the moment.
When actively man hating, it's: "I don't need no man to help me support my baby."
When being slightly more passive (but still active), it's a shaming tactic: "Man up and stop being afraid to date a single mom (even though she clearly just processed recent sperm and growing somebody else's baby). A father isn't the person who conceived the child, but the one who raised them" .... and other bullshit posted in memes all over Facebook.
A woman with a 5 year old or even a 2 year old is not the same as literally processing new sperm to make a human.
[–]lgaroualpha 3 points4 points5 points  (2 children)
i agree. but still. none of this oh you shouldn't be scared to try to be a father. bitch some people just want to get their dick wet and not care about a kid afterwards. he's not wrong in saying i don't want a relationship with her because of the kid but i still want to fuck her brains out. yet if a woman says i want to sleep around and don't want any commitments suddenly she's queen of the hill and she can do whatever she wants cause she's independent. it's a retarded double standard that women hold because they want the same status as men without the responsibilities.
[–]The-Ban-Hammer 1 point2 points3 points  (1 child)
Exactly. Equal but without responsibility because "men did it first" or "it's all men's fault" or whatever silliness we have to hear.
[–]lgaroualpha 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
thanks for backing me up.
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