I would also love to contribute to this project! I have so many peaktransmoments (that often directly tie-in or overlap with generic liberal “feminist” politics and queer theory/activism). There’s just so many instances of realizing how harmful these politics are to women and girls and how destructive they are to Feminism that I’ll probably have multiple contributions.

One of my most major peaktransmoments is the promotion of pro-rape politics from queer/trans activists and their rampant lesbiphobia and/or homophobia.

Similar to sexually entitled MRA logic, in trans activism: refusing to have sex with a male person (who claims a trans-identity and insists that they are female) is considered an act of oppression or bigotry. The majority of the time, lesbians are the ones targeted for this kind of trans activism.

Lesbians are also given the derogatory “cisbians” label, as if there exists a distinct subset of lesbians that aren’t “really lesbians” but rather are a special, bigoted, privileged/ “cis” sort because our sexual orientation is “exclusionary” to male people.

Lesbians are pressured by trans activists to “fix”, “correct”, “examine” or “unlearn” our male-“exclusionary” lesbian sexual orientation.

We “cissies” are told that we deserve to be harassed, coerced, and shamed into sexual relations with transpeople (i.e.: transwomen, or other males who claim a queer gender identity or “non-binary gender” like bigender, demigirl, genderqueer, or genderfluid).

Here are some screenshot examples of pro-rape politics coming from trans activists on Tumblr. Trigger warning for mentions and threats of rape, and mentions of suicide.

Screenshot #1): A trans activist disapproves of women establishing sexual boundaries that deny male people sex. An anti-rape advocate says that “If a woman does not want to have sex with a penis she is not a bigot” and that “Her feelings are valid and her boundaries should be respected”. This apparently amounts to, according to a trans activist that responded, “TERF logic [that’s] used to justify transphobia and transmisogyny …”

Screenshot #2): This trans activist believes that “Cis people who say they would never date a trans person should be equipped with a collar that shocks them every time they come within 12 feet of a trans person because a) they deserve it, b) it will force them to realize that there are way more transgender people out there than they think and that they are all just as attractive or unattractive as cis people, and c) they super deserve it.”

Screenshot #3): This trans activist encourages a “dfab”/female person who “probably wouldn’t have sex with anyone with a penis” to “examine why exactly [they] wont have sex with a penis.” The pro-trans responder also seems to assume, conveyed through a rhetorical question, that if a woman uses a sex toy that is a “phallic dildo” or “a strap-on” that that is exactly comparable toactually consenting to having sex with someone that is biologically male. Hint: it isn’t.

Screenshots #4): Screenshots of threats and harassment sent to a lesbian feminist by [presumably or obviously] trans activists and/or their allies.

Trigger warning for abusive, misogynistic threats and statements, encouragement to commit suicide, and hostile sexism.

Trans activism is hellishly misogynistic, regressive and anti-feminist in so many ways. I’m just so glad to see women and teen girls, RadFems or not, becoming more outspoken about this and organizing to share our experiences with trans politics, and learning how to cope and defend ourselves.

Stay strong sisters.

Peak trans moment: What do Hatshepsut, Sappho, Mulan, Joan of Arc, Queen Elizabeth I, Harriet Tubman, Sojourner Truth, Wonder Woman, Kya (Legend of Korra), Buttercup (Power Puff Girls), Michonne, Andrea (Walking Dead), Xena the Warrior Princess, and pretty much every female character or historical woman who in any way wasn’t 100% gender conforming to 21st century gender standards have in common? ALL have been ‘claimed’ by the trans cult as trans 'women’.

My peak trans moment was when I thought about my childhood. I hated wearing dresses, I would play kickball/soccer with the boys, I got into fights, I had short hair, I hated dolls, I loved legos/hot wheels and I can even remember telling my mom how much I hated being a girl. If had been born just a few years later I would have been labeled trans, when I just didn’t like doing feminine things that were expected of me. I wonder how many little girls are being put on blockers for the same thing.

Peak trans moment: I, a fourteen year old girl, being violently threatened by trans activist anons to stop posting about having my period because it was triggering for trans women.

My peak trans moments are many.

When I realized I hated what my future would be as a trans man and was going to look into other ways to treat my dysphoria, I was told by a Leader of the FTM Community that I would be miserable and shallow and probably commit suicide for not transitioning, even if I seem like I’m happy. I was also used as an example to other questioning FTMs about how transition is the only option.

I was mobbed on the transgender subreddit for expressing disgust over the concept of the “cotton ceiling”. I had several topics made for me and how as an “AFAB” person I had no right to have an opinion, how I was being “violent” to trans women for not supporting pressuring women into sex, and how I should be banned from all “safe” places for being such a “self hating transphobic trans.”

I and my fellow FTMs were driven out of several forums throughout the years by transwomen, who would come in and be fairly bigoted towards us but “not mean it that way”. Their favourite one was to announce repeatedly the “testosterone is poison!!” but if we talked about how we hated menstruating or whatever we were being ‘insensitive’ to them.

I was told repeatedly that I’m not allowed to criticize trans women, or even speak badly about them. As a trans man my job was to sit to the side and keep my mouth shut because trans women are far, far more important then any AFAB, binary or nonbinary. If we complain about lack of representation or how our medical care is so far behind trans women, we were being ‘insensitive’ to the transwomen’s blight.

There were many, many others, but these are the ones that made me stop and wonder what the hell I was doing with my life, and start seriously looking for an alternative way to treat my dysphoria.

My peak trans moment came in waves. I started out as a libfem, who bought into all of that nonsensical genderqueer stuff, before I slowly started to realize how horrible, fucked up, and cult-like the movement was. I’d have to say that for me as a lesbian, the red flag that really hit home the most is the “cotton ceiling theory”. I was harassed on here multiple times, and sent death and rape threats, for simply saying that I was repulsed by penis and shouldn’t be forced to have sex with, nor date, anyone. I’m legally a minor — these people doing this to me were literal adults. I was terrified. I’ve only been out as a lesbian for about three years, and seeing this stuff, not too long after coming to terms with my sexual orientation, was terrifying. I was being called a “vagina fetishist” and being told that I wasn’t a real lesbian because I wouldn’t have sex with, nor date, all women.

People were telling me absolutely ridiculous things; accusing me of contributing to the deaths and violence of trans women simply because I wasn’t attracted to them in that way.

Even after those horrors, I continued to try to buy into the movement. The next red flag was the whole “OP is a TERF” brigade, which felt fairly cult-like to me. I remember thinking, ‘Oh my god, they’re literally controlling what people have to think and forcing them to not think of anything critically.’ It was ridiculous, as a lot of these posts had nothing to do with anything that might be “TERF” related, they were posts about things such as BDSM being abusive and the horrors of the porn industry — all completely unrelated. Only after people started accusing me of being a “TERF” before I even began my journey into radical-leaning feminism did I make the connection.

It’s a silencing tactic.

The final straw for me was the abundance of posts that I saw pop up on my dash, e.g. “Trans women can have sex with their penises and be confident in, even love their penis and have no sexual dysphoria and still be trans! You don’t have to feel sexual dysphoria, nor any discomfort with your sex and gender, to be trans. You just have to say you’re trans and you are!”

I was terrified.

I knew so many violent men were going to take advantage of this and use being “trans” (even though they were not) as an excuse to be awful, predatory human beings. Only when I got called a “stupid b*tch”, a “c*nt”, and a “cisdyke” by a non-dysphoric “trans women” who presented male, had a full beard, acted male, and went by a male name for saying that I would not have sex with a penis did I start to make this connection: This behavior is identical to that of a manipulative “cis” male.

This is common, too. Non-dysphoric “trans women” referring to women as “b*tches”, “wh*res”, “sl*ts”, “c*nts”, and other degrading terms for something as simple as having bodily autonomy or doing something that they even vaguely do not like.

After all of these awful things happened, I ventured into my journey of radical-leaning feminism and out of genderist hell. I now know why people refer to it as a cult, and are wary of it

Like most people, my peak trans moment came in waves because I started as a major libfem. Sorry for the length, I just have a lot to say about this!

1. The first thing that ever piqued my interested in radical feminism was realizing that the community was so large. I was scrolling through a post that was made by a radfem and reading all of the URLs that had reblogged or liked it. It didn’t make sense to me. Why were these women calling themselves feminists if they didn’t truly accept all women? Or maybe I wasn’t getting the full story and they knew something that I didn’t? I quickly tried to push the thought from my mind, and didn’t revisit it until months later.
2. My grandpa pointed out a magazine with Laverne Cox on the cover. “Can you believe that’s a man?” He asks me. I shake my head in disbelief at his ignorance. “That’s actually a woman.” I replied. “Well, biologically-” He starts, but I cut him off. “Biology doesn’t matter, it’s what they feel that does. To say otherwise is transphobic.” He looked confused. “So, what makes someone male or female to you?” He asked me. I replied with “Whatever they identify with.” Even as I said it, the words felt strange and I felt very, very silly.
3. I noticed that a radfem reblogged something from me, so I visited her blog to see what she was about. I was horror-struck at what I thought then as terrible transphobia, biphobia, among other things. I know realize I just wasn’t used to seeing a critical analysis. What jumped out at me though, was a post she made asking what made someone feel like a woman or a man. She explained that liking dresses didn’t make you a female. It simply made you someone who likes things outside of their gender role, which is normal and to be expected. I thought of my friend whose partner at the time thought he were trans because he liked feminine things and felt a little disgusted. I realized how misogynistic that idea was and was a little ashamed to not have seen it sooner. If this blog made that connection, maybe radical feminism wasn’t all bad.
4. I started visiting other radfem blogs ravenously. It was like I was starving for a type of feminism that made sense.
5. A post showed up on my dash about cis privilege. Attached, there was a screenshot of the wikipedia violence against women page and the words “female privilege”. I realized that the term cis was complete bullshit. You can’t be privileged and oppressed for the exact same thing! And to say that women are totally comfortable in their gender role, the one forced upon them to make them subordinate, was astonishingly misogynistic! I felt like it was the 50s, back when people believed that women actually liked their oppression and pain. It registered that that wasn’t just a belief of the past.
6. After a while of reblogging gender-critical posts, I seemed to get asked if I was a ““terf”” weekly, which was infuriating.
7. In general, just the amount of backlash I got from saying things like “liking the color pink doesn’t mean you’re a girl” and “I think that abolishing gender would make things better for all people, especially trans people” and “we should have female-only spaces as well as women-identified space as well as trans women-only spaces” made my head spin. The sides have been flipped, and I now saw the other side, the more liberal choice sex-pozzie side, to be misogynistic bigots and brats.