what big EYES you have!
Hey! My name's Charles but you can call me Charlie. I'm an autistic bisexual boy who likes Luke Newberry and Freddie Fox a whole lot!!
he/his/him pronouns
Normal URL: joshnewberry
Hey! My name's Charles but you can call me Charlie. I'm an autistic bisexual boy who likes Luke Newberry and Freddie Fox a whole lot!!
he/his/him pronouns
Normal URL: joshnewberry
Ok so I’ve talked about this before but I think it really really needs to be said again:
Every time a person who’s autistic says something like “hey autistic people aren’t inherently abusive” a terrifyingly large number of allistics feel the need to reblog the post with a comment like “actually, autistic people CAN be abusive, don’t erase abuse victims who’s abusers were autistic!!”
And…. Look, Here’s the thing. I’m an abuse survivor. There are so many autistic abuse survivors. MOST of my autistic friends have dealt with abuse in some form. In fact, autistic people are incredibly likely to be abused and taken advantage of due to having trouble interpreting actions and words and thus being easily manipulated, and due to people just really fucking hating autistic folk. None of us (or at least the vast, vast majority) are trying to erase the abuse that you may have suffered from an autistic person. Of course autistic people can be abusive. Anyone regardless of neurotype can be abusive.
But the fact of the matter is that autistic people suffer from a huge stigma that tells society that we are inherently abusive. We’re told, and society is told, that autistic people are selfish, that autistic people won’t care about you, that autistic people will only do things for their own gain, that autistic people are incapable of forming emotional bonds, that autistic people can’t learn from our mistakes or won’t try to, that autistic people won’t care if they hurt you, etc etc etc. At best this leads to it being incredibly difficult to form close relationships, at worst this literally leads to us being murdered.
If you see a post saying “autistic people aren’t abusive” and you feel the need to remind us that “autistic people are CAPABLE of abuse,” you are directly in compliance with and perpetuating a stigma that harms all autistic people. You are ignoring the pleas of autistic people who have had to face the consequences of a dangerous and harmful stigma, and your claim to be speaking for abuse victims is directly speaking over autistic people who were abused due to this stigma. Autistic people can be abusive, anyone can be abusive, but we are not fucking abusive because we are autistic, and you are not an ally or friend of autistic people in any way if you feel the need to remind us of our “ability to abuse” every time we try to talk about the dangerous stereotypes we face.