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submitted by Throwit29
I was really upset/confused when I posted a couple weeks ago. When I wrote it I was angry, hurt, and felt betrayed. The more people that replied, my feelings changed. 90% of the comments called her horrible names and accused her of the worst and all I wanted to do was defend her.
The crux for me: some asshat linked my post to that redpill nonsense sub. They called me a beta (whatever the fuck that's supposed to be) and her a whore. I think a good way to live in do the opposite of what those idiots think.
I called her. We had coffee and a really great conversation. We met up again the next day, this time with a girl she works with to provide me some insight into their agency. We've been talking for the two weeks. I've expressed my concerns, as well as new concerns that popped up with my post replies (like her being found out, jeopardizing her career). She has been amazing through all of this, like she usually is, listening and open and working with me to find a place where we can both be happy. Her initial firmness on quitting on her terms stemmed from a prior experience where her ex made demands on her. This time she was affable and understanding.
She told me she loves me. I 100% believe that and feel the same.
There were a lot of questions to her actions, understandably so. I was vague on some details to try to protect identities. Her day job does pay her basic bills. The moonlighting is to help pay down her loans and give money to her sister in university.
We've made some really big decisions about our lives and future together. Primarily, that we WANT a future together. We've devised a plan to get where we want to be and I am stupid happy at the prospect.
In response to most of the comments I got on the last post:
  • IDGAF that she jacked off a bunch of dudes for money. I work in advertising, I've done way worse. I was surprised and upset because she wasn't honest. I'm over it.
tl;dr: UPDATE: My girlfriend and I worked it out. We mutually agreed to plan and we're moving forward.
Edit thanks, /u/24carats, for the gold. That was surprising.
Thanks everyone for the support. To those who don't agree - I appreciate your concern. To those spewing hate - lulz, I'll be over here bein' happy and shit.
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[–]colakoala200 1133 points1134 points1135 points  (30 children)
IDGAF that she jacked off a bunch of dudes for money. I work in advertising, I've done way worse.
I just wanted to say that I love this.
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[–]Babylonius 479 points480 points481 points  (7 children)
I think a good way to live in do the opposite of what those idiots think.
Both of these quotes indicate that OP is a rational thinking human being, which can be rare on the internet.
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[–]oncemoreforluck 99 points100 points101 points  (1 child)
Yea I just want to high five thus dude. He took advice decided what he wanted and went and did it. His girlfriend got herself a good one.
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[–]GobsOfficeMagic 18 points19 points20 points  (0 children)
Yeah, they sounds like a nice couple. Good luck, you crazy kids!
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[–]Colossus_of_Clout comment score below threshold-11 points-10 points-9 points  (4 children)
I'd be interested to see the reaction from females if it was the guy getting paid to finger women multiple times a week. I would assume (and take that for what it is) that we wouldn't have as much support and sympathy for the sex-worker. That being said, to each their own. If it works for you, more power to you. It would be a deal breaker for me though.
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[–]TheBorax_Kid 17 points18 points19 points  (0 children)
"Female" here. No judgment on sex workers of any gender related to their professions. I'd be impressed as hell if a guy could earn money as a hetero sex worker, if anything.
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[–]Hooty__McBoob 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
Well since that's not really a thing that exists, it's not really worth bringing up is it?
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[–]Babylonius 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
I agree that the chance for support would be much much lower. However, I don't think many people agree with or have sympathy for sex workers, but that wasn't the point of the thread. Most people are choosing to support the OP who said that he has come to terms with it and made plans with her to stop.
There was a thread a few weeks ago of a girl who "turned" to sex work and the whole thread just tore her up, it was a bloodbath.
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[–]WheresMyCurtain 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
It's an interesting comparison, but personally I'd say while swapping OP's girlfriend with a guy fingering women wouldn't trigger the same response as in this topic, it should in a better world.
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[–]muskovitzj 27 points28 points29 points  (0 children)
Had me rolling. Fuck the haters, what a line
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[–]NeedsNewPants 10 points11 points12 points  (6 children)
I've heard several people saying that a career in advertising is the worst. Why?
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[–]NeedsNewPants 4 points5 points6 points  (1 child)
Fuck this is some heavy shit. Does this happen on advertising everywhere??
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[–]laissetomber 7 points8 points9 points  (0 children)
That is not every ad firm. That's on the extreme end, but advertising as an industry is an extremely demanding field and at the very least demands so much time that it drains a lot of people. Burn out is a big problem. High turn over rate in that industry when you're trying to get in, too.
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[–]Lennvor -1 points0 points1 point  (1 child)
Was that advertising though? I'd somehow assumed it was something financial.
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[–]Katlix 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
It literally says advertising at the start of the first post.
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[–]mynameisacoolname 3 points4 points5 points  (0 children)
I don't know and I've worked in advertising for almost 20 years. I must not be doing it right.
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[–]yupxfile 7 points8 points9 points  (0 children)
Yeah, if I was dating someone who spent 40hrs a week trying to find loopholes to revoke health insurance policies (pre-existing conditions type horror stories) that'd probably be a deal-breaker for me.
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[–]samababa 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
it's so refreshing to read, especially for this sub. kudos, op.
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[–]Thrownawayrangers 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
No truer words ever written. We've definitely made a poorer career choice than giving handies.
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[–]Dookie_boy 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
I really need a longer explanation for this.
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[–]hgdusnjjv883 -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
I was about to post this exact thing. And OP, you sound really awesome I hope things work out for the two of you, good luck :)
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[–]jsan8 -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
As a person who also works in this industry: we do stuff way worse than that indeed.
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[–]BroSheaga comment score below threshold-109 points-108 points-107 points  (3 children)
I just wanted to say that I hate this.
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[–]cat_romance 37 points38 points39 points  (1 child)
Judging from your comment history, you're TRPer who linked his post.
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[–]grisioco 11 points12 points13 points  (0 children)
what a piece of shit
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[–]JenM 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
I'm happy you wiped enough Cheetoes dust off your fingers to be able to type legibly, good for you.
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[–]curiiouscat -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
I know, that comment made me laugh and want to snap my fingers in agreement.
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[–]curiouscur -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
Roger sterling?
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[–]ed_lv 161 points162 points163 points  (14 children)
As long you're both honest, and are OK with what happened and can get passed it, great.
I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully a happy future with her.
Will she quit her massage job now?
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[–]Throwit29[S] 242 points243 points244 points  (6 children)
She's quit the agency and is joining a legitimate massage/chiropractic clinic soon for weekend work. It was her choice and I'm supportive.
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[–]fifathrow 156 points157 points158 points  (5 children)
compromise gives me such a relationship boner
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[–]mattyisphtty 25 points26 points27 points  (0 children)
Good communication is like that little extra rubbing
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[–]tfresca 21 points22 points23 points  (0 children)
This isn't exactly a compromise. She stopped sex work but I applaud him staying with her. I hope this works out. Fucking student loans man. I'd jack women off to pay for them if I had the option. I don't blame her.
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[–]nokernok -5 points-4 points-3 points  (2 children)
Maybe OP's girlfriend can take care of that.
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[–]ivanover 6 points7 points8 points  (0 children)
too soon
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[–]mrgoodnoodles -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
Take your up vote and get the fuck out!
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[–]honestly_honestly 13 points14 points15 points  (6 children)
She should quit, since her actions compromise the integrity of the whole massage profession.
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[–]altxatu 8 points9 points10 points  (3 children)
Not to mention its prostitution, and illegal as hell.
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[–]apple_kicks 5 points6 points7 points  (2 children)
depends on country, some wont give sex workers a criminal record if caught due to it ending their choice to find other jobs later on
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[–]altxatu 0 points1 point2 points  (1 child)
That's a fair point I hadn't considered. Duly noted.
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[–]kekdaungs 3 points4 points5 points  (0 children)
Downvotes for...the truth.
I wonder how the downvoters would refute this point. It's sex work that isn't even defined as such before the act. How is that okay? In the defense of the "victim" doing the job? It boggles the mind.
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[–]youngmakeupaddict 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
what??? what do you mean?
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[–]areyoumyspiritanimal 51 points52 points53 points  (9 children)
IDGAF that she jacked off a bunch of dudes for money. I work in advertising, I've done way worse.
Well, at least you aren't a sales guy. /shudder
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[–]Liebonaut 19 points20 points21 points  (2 children)
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[–]C_Eberhard 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
I'm a suckered for marketing, and totally thought you were actually advertising a good product. I was intrigued, until it hit me.
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[–]darkskinnedjermaine -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
I started reading everything faster and louder after "Sales-away!".
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    [–]TorchedBlack 21 points22 points23 points  (3 children)
    I hate statements like this because it implies that any one group is more important than another in a company. What about the people creating the products being sold? Can't sell something that doesn't exist. Or the IT guys keeping the internal network from imploding and killing any chance of making a sale? Everyone doing their job is the backbone of a business.
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    [–]ewbrower 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Yeah, but he's only saying it since everyone's taking a shit on that entire field. It would be like me commenting how useless IT is in /r/talesoftechsupport, what response do you expect I would receive?
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    [–]throwaway45619187 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    It's worth noting that it's much more rare to hear, "well at least you aren't in XYZ dept" with the same negative connotation that is attached to it like the above comment implied about sales.
    Sales is where you make money and generate revenue, the goal of most businesses. The backbone of a body is (loosely speaking here) the central point that everything connects to and allows for movement forward. You can't live without a kidney in the same way you might not be able to succeed without a Dev team, absolutely critical as well, but I don't find anything wrong with referring to sales as the backbone of a business though given that it's the last touch-point to $ which is the end goal.
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    [–]areyoumyspiritanimal 5 points6 points7 points  (0 children)
    It was sarcasm.
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    [–]ilchymis 8 points9 points10 points  (0 children)
    After reading your original post, OP, I would just be careful of her "trickle truthing" and figuring out what your acceptance limits are. There's definitely a chance that she does more than gloved handjobs, as she wasn't as forthcoming with this information as she could have been in the beginning. Ultimately you have to ask yourself: Are you OK with her sleeping with other dudes for money? Are you OK with her being persuaded into sex acts for money she may not be into doing with you? Based on your comments, it sounds like this wouldn't be a make-or-break deal for you, but if it is it would be good to lay it down on the table now so you can talk about it before things get too serious.
    Since it sounds like you probably won't believe she's done anything more than a glovejob before you see a video of her with your own two eyes, it's good to be on the same page ahead of time.
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    [–]cexshun 39 points40 points41 points  (29 children)
    Glad it worked out for you.
    One thing I noticed from your previous post and several other posts on here is that while Reddit loves and approves of sex workers, Reddit seems to despise sex worker's clients. While I never visited a sex worker myself, I can't quite wrap my head around the hypocrisy of this attitude.
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    [–]Throwit29[S] 33 points34 points35 points  (20 children)
    Laura had some really awesome insights for the kinds of men she's had as clients. Most are married men who want/need some physical attention but don't want to cheat. We all know that physical touch is basic human need and I actually think it's sad but understandable.
    This whole thing has made me really think about my preconceptions of monogamy and how to maintain a loving, fulfilling relationship.
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    [–]kiyamachi 93 points94 points95 points  (10 children)
    Pretty sure most people consider happy ending massages to be cheating, just saying.
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    [–]AeonSavvy 15 points16 points17 points  (4 children)
    Yea wtf op
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    [–]OneTwoWee000 1 point2 points3 points  (3 children)
    It's totally what OP needs to be believe to be okay with staying in this relationship. It's a rationalization that she's helping poor touch starved dudes in need instead of the alternative (she had her hands on countless dicks, jacking dudes off to completion for money).
    Meh, to each their own..
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    [–]AeonSavvy 3 points4 points5 points  (2 children)
    Jacking dudes off for money is exactly what she was doing.
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    [–]OneTwoWee000 0 points1 point2 points  (1 child)
    Exactly, he's reframing it so he can stay with her. OP is in denial.
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    [–]AeonSavvy 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    I mean if it doesn't bother him it's fine, but he shouldn't lie to himself
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    [–]fauxhb 11 points12 points13 points  (2 children)
    one girl i know: "well this guy was bugging me to have have sex and i didn't want to but eventually agreed, with a condom though. it doesn't count if the skins doesn't touch, right?"
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    [–]Noellani 5 points6 points7 points  (0 children)
    By that standard, I know a lot of virgins.
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    [–]ferretsRfantastic 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Haha right? I think if I went to one of those, if I was married, and got finger banged by a hot guy, my imaginary husband would be pissed lol
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    [–]lonepenguin95 -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
    Think he means that get clients don't consider it cheating.
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    [–]cexshun 15 points16 points17 points  (0 children)
    That's cool. Challenging our views on sexuality can be a valuable experience. Just make sure that you are examining your preconceptions on monogamy from your own moral grounds and not necessarily forcing them to change in order fit this girl into your life. There's a subtle difference, but one is healthy and the other can really fuck you up.
    If you change your views on monogamy, please be sure you aren't just making a concession so that you can stay with Laura. Make sure you are changing your views because of self searching and revelation.
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    [–]NotGoodAtUsernames1 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    I am not sure if I can offer much insight publicly here. But I have been in committed relationships with sex workers in the past, and infact both of my current partners work in the industry. We are polyamorous and all care for each other dearly. I don't want to leave too much out her publicly because I know how people like to attack men like me for many different reasons. But if you ever wish to talk about any of it feel free to PM me.. this is my normal account and not a throw away
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    [–]AMerrickanGirl 8 points9 points10 points  (4 children)
    My husband and I are nonmonogamous, and one of the things he likes to do is to get a professional massage with a happy ending. I'm ok with that as long as the woman doing the massage isn't a victim of human trafficking and being forced to do it.
    And we do have a sex life, by the way. And lots of cuddling. He just likes variety and his drive is stronger than mine, so whatever works.
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    [–]honestly_honestly 20 points21 points22 points  (3 children)
    If there's a happy ending, it's not a "professional massage."
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    [–]cattheotherwhitemeat 16 points17 points18 points  (0 children)
    I think she means "professional" in terms of "receiving money for services" as opposed to a shoulder rub with a handie at home.
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    [–]spikeyfreak 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    If there's a happy ending, it's not a "professional massage."
    Professional just means that it was done for money, or more specifically as someone's main money-making occupation. A handy may not be a "certified massage," but it can still be a professional massage.
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    [–]AMerrickanGirl 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    It's professional if they're getting paid, which they are.
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    [–]cheeseborito 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    I'm trying hard to consider this entire story not a troll posting, but this has me unsure. You are ok with her profession now because she explained to you that it's mostly married men that come to her to get rubbed off because they need "physical attention"? This is cheating, plain and simple. Or do you not agree? Where do you draw the line? I'm sorry, this whole thing seems ridiculous. You seem to want to appear open-minded, but there are limits to this shit. Just because they provide you with an explanation doesn't mean you have to go, "Well, OK, I guess." Your girlfriend and her coworker serviced married men for money. The fact that you cite your experience in advertising as a mitigating factor doesn't make what she did any better, it makes it sound as if you are equally bad. Your logic is backwards.
    But good luck to you. If you both are happy with the arrangement, past and present, then you deserve each other.
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    [–]Succubista 14 points15 points16 points  (2 children)
    Personally, I think Johns don't care if their partner enjoys having sex with them and that's a turn off for me. Sex workers are doing a job, that's cool, gotta pay the bills, I understand that. A John uses a human to jack off into. Even one night stands give both parties the option to talk about what they don't like and have a mutually satisfying encounter.
    I believe sex work should be legal, and safe, and everyone should be able to do what they want. But I could never be attracted to someone who could have sex with a person they know would rather not be having sex with them.
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    [–]cexshun 12 points13 points14 points  (0 children)
    I get where you are coming from. It's one of the many reasons I don't really like strip clubs. I'm not turned on by a woman that isn't remotely interested in me grinding on my junk. Unless my wife is with me, of course.
    However, I don't judge those that do. I pay people to do shit all the time that they don't want to do. Clean my toilet, wash my car, mow my lawn, etc. I don't have any moral qualms with someone forking over cash for a BJ or a hole to stick it in.
    I wonder what your take is on the escorts that really just escort. People that are paid to go on a date. Rich women and men often make use of these services to have a beautiful person on their arm at fancy events.
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    [–]Lennvor -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
    In an idealized "sex work is legal, safe and everyone is able to do what they want" world, sex workers could want to have sex with you though. Not quite in the same way that they might in a non-professional context but still a completely valid way of "wanting". The way that applies to anyone who likes their job; you like doing what you do and getting paid doesn't invalidate that. Some days you might rather do something else and you have to do your job anyway because professionalism, but most days you're happy doing what you're doing and it's what you want. And some clients are great and some clients are assholes (and in the ideal world where everyone were able to do what they wanted those would be easier to deal with), but clients aren't intrinsically dodgy when they pay for your services to do something they could do themselves or get someone else to do for them as a favor.
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    [–]acox1701 4 points5 points6 points  (3 children)
    If I were to try to understand it, it is similar to supporting the troops, but being against the war. The troops are just doing what they have to do.
    Alternatively, a sex worker is a (usually) woman who can be argued to be secure in her sexuality, but a John is some pathetic guy who can't attract the interest of a woman.
    There's some thinking here, but it's rather inconsistent.
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    [–]twistedfork 5 points6 points7 points  (2 children)
    I assume most people visiting sex workers are nto single guys who can't get a woman but are people in relationships who are stepping outside of them.
    That might be an unfair assumption, but you rarely hear about the lonely single dude who got busted in a prostitution sting. You hear about the married pastor with 3 kids or whatever.
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    [–]Sudonom 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    That's because a pastor with 3 kids is a better story.
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    [–]obeythed 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    That's because the single guy isn't newsworthy.
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    [–]bayoemman 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Don't bother trying to figure it out, you'll give yourself a migraine.
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    [–]Dolomite808 23 points24 points25 points  (0 children)
    As always, communication is key. Glad it worked out for you, OP.
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    [–]ImSoRude 55 points56 points57 points  (3 children)
    I'm willing to believe there is a direct relationship between people that call other people betas and the number of betas in that sub. I wouldn't really give a fuck what a nerd virgin congregating on a sub of closed minded nerd virgins say, neither should you. Props to you for being able to accept your GF, while those guys beat off to Internet porn for life.
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    [–]TheDigitalRhino 10 points11 points12 points  (1 child)
    I think I saw post a long time ago on that sub about how people try to humiliate men by telling them they're sexually inexperienced. I agree a lot of things on that sub are messed up, but people like you created them in the first place.
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    [–]ImSoRude 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    People like me? I wouldn't make general assumptions for someone you've never met. But given that they attacked OP without knowing anything about him, it shows the type of characters there. As for my personal experience, try telling them that you don't think anyone is trying to oppress men, and see how much they spam and curse you out. For what, disagreeing slightly. That's about all the interaction I've had with that group. If you hit first, don't be surprised when I hit back. Talk shit get hit was the motto I grew up with in New York City.
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    [–]Whynot79 23 points24 points25 points  (1 child)
    I love this happy ending!
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    [–]quiquedont 19 points20 points21 points  (6 children)
    This sub loves happy stories and down-playing the wrongdoing when committed by a woman. Did most people who read the update read the original post? She only revealed what she did after OP was confronted by one of her clients. She lied about not wanting to be monogamous to feel more okay with keeping her secret with being a sex worker. How long would this had went down if OP didn't rub elbows with one of her clients. If she lied about being a sex worker for so long, how do you know she is being completely honest about the extent of it now?
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    [–]Delror 14 points15 points16 points  (5 children)
    Man, don't even bother. No one is going to listen, look at how self-congratulatory they are. They're praising OP for not caring that his girl jerked off other dudes for cash. Fucking really? That's something most people would care about, especially if there was lying involved.
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    [–]hobiedallas 5 points6 points7 points  (4 children)
    I bet OP cant wait to tell his family his new GF is/was a literal whore.
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    [–]Delror 0 points1 point2 points  (3 children)
    Exactly! Like it's not even an insult, I'm not (necessarily) saying she's a bad person for doing this, but she was, quite literally, a whore. That's not really something to praise, and I'm not sure when it became normal to praise someone for being a literal whore.
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    [–]hobiedallas 0 points1 point2 points  (2 children)
    I'm more concerned with her hiding it if its me. I've got no problem with whores, you've just got to take them at face value and know how they normally operate. This girl was trying to hide all that and thats where Id be out.
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    [–]Delror 0 points1 point2 points  (1 child)
    I mean, I don't really have a problem with them, I don't think there's something wrong with them or anything like that. I just think it's weird how everyone is thinking she's all amazing. Like...she's just a prostitute. It's not that amazing.
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    [–]hobiedallas 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    And she's a agency girl at that. A real prostitute can often have some legitimate business skills and make big bank. This girl is rub and tugging dudes as Ms. Chans Push and Pull shack, giving away half her money to the owner and probably blowing dudes to make up the difference.
    Reddit is amazing sometimes. They LOVE the bitch wives who drive husbands to these providers, they HATE the men who go see providers, and they LOVE the whores who do the dirty deeds. Its an amazing dynamic.
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    [–]Girl_Scout_Motto 27 points28 points29 points  (0 children)
    Way to weigh the reactions and make your own decisions, dude.
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    [–]Nuriyuas 9 points10 points11 points  (5 children)
    So the rumors about giving head to her clients were only rumors?
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    [–]hobiedallas 4 points5 points6 points  (0 children)
    Maybe it was a rumor for OPs girl, but I promise there was SOMEONE there doing it, if not giving complete full service. The temptation is just too great to make such quick money; there is ALWAYS someone giving in.
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    [–]Throwit29[S] 3 points4 points5 points  (3 children)
    Yes. In fact, that guy at the gym was a once client that got pushy and she never saw again. I switched gyms and am over it. He's the fuckboy that has to pay for it, right?
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    [–]BitchinTechnology 11 points12 points13 points  (1 child)
    Are you really sure about that? I hate to break it to you but "gloved handjobs" yeah thats not a thing. No one would go to her
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    [–]swagasaurus5 3 points4 points5 points  (0 children)
    For real, lol. "He's the fuckboy that has to pay for it" Well in the real world, outside of r/relationships, people that actually engage in relationships with prostitutes are the laughingstocks.
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    [–]nostros 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    I'm glad you were able to come to terms with your girlfriend being a sex worker but gloved handjobs do not exist. This means that she lied to you again.
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    [–]thingmabob 8 points9 points10 points  (1 child)
    She probably gives a mean handjob with all the practise, so at least you've got that going for you.
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    [–]OneTwoWee000 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    lol! There's always an upside..
    Well, OP has made his choice is deciding to rationalize the jerking off dudes for money as something he can deal with.
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    [–]matrix2002 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    I guess it's good that you found a resolution you seem to be happy with, but it would be a deal breaker for me.
    1) She lied to you about it. Lies by omission are still lies. It's worse that she waited until some asshole told you instead of her.
    2) She might be lying about the extent of her "services". Sure, some girls who do this type of job only do "hand jobs", but many only admit to the hand job because it's the least worst to admit to. So, these girls often do much more than only give hand jobs, telling yourself that she only does them is probably lying to yourself. You will go through this whole again when she finally admits to having paid sex "with only a couple of guys".
    3) She lead you on for several months while you fell in love with her. Almost every stage of this relationship seems one sided. She didn't want to date you or be friends, you got her to be friends. She didn't want to date, you persisted and dated. She didn't want to be monogamous, you persisted and now you are together. It's just WAY too one sided. As much as she says she is "in love" with you, her actions seem to indicate otherwise.
    4) She seems to control the relationship with you pleading and begging to get her more into it.
    If a girl starts out a relationship by lying to you, I don't think it bodes well for the rest of it.
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    [–]Jrhosep 6 points7 points8 points  (1 child)
    This is a sweet happy ending. <3
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    [–]jesseaverage 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    Heyooo!
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    [–]MissCarrieNation 9 points10 points11 points  (9 children)
    I think a good way to live in do the opposite of what those idiots think.
    My applause for this. Glad you two are going to be okay.
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    [–]Venomroach comment score below threshold-16 points-15 points-14 points  (8 children)
    So those idiots say, eat healthy, lift weights, get active, find a hobby to grow your talents, put effort into furthering your career. Yea what shitty advice. Do the opposite of that.
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    [–]chinakat 9 points10 points11 points  (1 child)
    And that all women want to be treated like shit, but yeah we'll just ignore that part I guess.
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    [–]Venomroach 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    That's poor paraphrasing
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    [–]slipshod_alibi 6 points7 points8 points  (0 children)
    Willful blindness is best blindness!
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    [–]Sad_King_Billy 4 points5 points6 points  (0 children)
    Un that's not all they say, dude. You're twisting. It's like saying "Hitler said eat your vegetables and take your vitamins!" Because that's not all he said either.
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    [–]Societys_Claws 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Yeah, these guys saying to accept getting cucked daily have it all figured out
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    [–]HideTheDecay 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    They say do all that with a shitty attitude. Just do it with a good attitude and you're good!
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    [–]nancy_ballosky 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Where do they say that?
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    [–]MissCarrieNation -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
    Hating the people you want to spend the rest of your life with is the problem I have. Take it elsewhere.
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    [–]heykarlll 5 points6 points7 points  (0 children)
    your gf is a hooker dude
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    [–]ny2miami 7 points8 points9 points  (1 child)
    Wow... A man even looks at another woman and makes the GF/wife feel bad, reddit says "leave the asshole". Woman gets caught charging for happy endings and reddit says "dont judge her..."
    Cray.
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    [–]quiquedont 6 points7 points8 points  (0 children)
    This whole thread is insane but expected of the sub now. I don't know how you could read the original thread with all the lying OP's GF did and just post "yay, happy ending."
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    [–]Tr33xors 6 points7 points8 points  (0 children)
    I really appreciate how you were able to overcome this OP. :) Despite what people were saying about you, and especially about her, I'm really glad you found a way to be happy, and okay with what she does/did.
    My personal opinion is that at the end of the day, she was safe about it, and you said she did it what, 3 times a week? That's means of surviving financially, nothing more. In fact, I admire her for it. Good on you OP :D I love happy endings... No pun intended :)
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    [–]gargoyle30 3 points4 points5 points  (0 children)
    I've dated a sex worker before, just remember that she's with YOU, going home with YOU, her work is her work and it doesn't really relate to her personal life, it's a pay cheque
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    [–]FartyMcFartButts 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    Good for you op. I wish you both the best!!
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    [–]perogies 6 points7 points8 points  (1 child)
    You said it yourself, you felt hurt, betrayed and angry when you found out what she was doing. Somehow you've convinced yourself that you're okay with your girlfriend jerking off some of the grossest dudes on the planet for money.. Oh and FYI, those girls will suck you off and fuck you if you pay them enough money. So have fun with that.
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    [–]hobiedallas 4 points5 points6 points  (0 children)
    Oh yea they will. And these 'agency girls have no idea how the actual market for their services is so they do it dirt cheap.
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    [–]La_Fee_Verte 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    You know what? your behaviour about all this redeems all the shit you've done in the course of your work.
    You're a great guy, and I hope you guys will be happy together for as long as you both want :)
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    [–]MrsValentine 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    Congrats, OP. Glad you worked it out.
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    [–]OceanGoingSoul 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    Fantastic. Imagine how relieved she must feel as well. This is definitely what love is all about.
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    [–]sugartrick 2 points3 points4 points  (2 children)
    OP you are a fucking amazing human being
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    [–]perogies 10 points11 points12 points  (1 child)
    If being a piece of shit working in advertising (OP's description of himself), and dating a hooker, makes you a "fucking amazing human being", then i'm Nelson Mandela.
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    [–]sugartrick 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Just compare yourself to other people on reddit and you probably are!
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    [–]risenanew 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    ...Wait, did she or did she not agree to quit? I'm still confused on that one from your post.
    I think it's great that you don't give a damn about her hand-jobs and I hope you two are happy together. But it's still a red-flag for me that she wants to work with kids but somehow thought that a side-job of offering sexual services was a good idea!
    Needless to say, that's... questionable decision making skills.
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    [–]Scruffy42 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    I really hope this works out. Fuck that pill shit.
    But what I do care about is safety. I sure hope she takes care of herself. I don't want to see some guy demand more and not take "no" for an answer.
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    [–]afterthought9 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    Lol cuck
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    [–]Harroprease11 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Hey if you happy then nothing else matters. Go with it and see where it takes you. Good luck.
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    [–]knitwasabi 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    Good on you two for being adults. Best of luck for a happy future!
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    [–]thechariot83 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    I mean OP, if you can accept it and move on, good on you. I however would have been the fuck out of that relationship at light speed. To each their own, though.
    Edit: Also, if you're a Beta, it means you're not an Alpha. You ever hear the term Alpha dog? Leader of the pack? Basically, beta is the opposite.
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    [–]ivtecdoyou 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    To each their own. Hookers, Strippers, hand jibber givers, who cares as long as you're cool with it.
    Do what makes you happy.
    Most girls you'll date have jerked off plenty of guys and probably didn't profit from it.
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    [–]dcikid12 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    I think a good way to live in do the opposite of what those idiots think.
    You get it for free and they all those suckers pay? Sounds like you are quite the alpha...
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    [–]streetcornercain 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    I work in advertising, I've done way worse.
    Here here, brother. I know the feeling.
    Good on /u/24carats, too.
    You both are both doing the compassionate thing, and recognizing that it's important to do!
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    [–]archemil 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    I think you made the right decision, but she should find another line of work to move forward.
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    [–]CatsLovingCats 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    You're a wonderful person, and she sounds like she is too. I wish both of you all the happiness in the world. : )
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    [–]izzgo 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
    It's a wise person who recognizes happiness and keeps ahold of it, even when it looks different from the societal norm. Congratulations.
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    [–]s0v3r1gn 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    Yea, as long as you know what's up from the get go it's all up to you. I think 6 months is a while to wait to tell you, but I can understand the delay and it's not like it's been years or something.
    I'm glad you could talk it out and she is wanting to leave that line of work, it can't be easy for some one to see that kind of extra money and turn it down, so good on her for moving on.
    I wish you both luck and happiness.
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    [–]Prince-Gnarls 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    Woo-hoo! You're willing going out with a sex worker! :D
    Your life, your funeral...
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    [–]acokiko -3 points-2 points-1 points  (0 children)
    Uhhh, dude. I'm not even remotely a RPer but frankly, I think you're making a big mistake trying to work through this with her.
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    [–]Reddisaurusrekts 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
    IDGAF that she jacked off a bunch of dudes for money. I work in advertising, I've done way worse.
    You're doing advertising wrong...
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    [–]Liquidpresence 1 point2 points3 points  (0 children)
    Hey mr advertising scumbag, your SIGNIFICANT OTHER GAVE ME A HANDJOB.
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    [–]juliekthx -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
    I think you approached this in a great way and I am so happy for you guys! It doesn't matter what other people think. At the end of the day, it just matters what YOU think.
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    [–]plastix3000 -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
    Good for you
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    [–]laurelinien -3 points-2 points-1 points  (0 children)
    Great update! I'm thrilled for you!
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    [–]Ballsy12 -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
    Seems like your getting over it. That's awesome!!! Who cares what people say. The most important thing is that you two are happy together. Life is short be happy
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    [–]squirrel_statue -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
    Super glad to hear this dude. I was commenting in the other post and was really hoping it would be able to work out.
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      [–]grisioco -4 points-3 points-2 points  (2 children)
      so you only date people that give handjobs to strangers for free? I could never do that, but you do you man.
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      [–]Brah101 0 points1 point2 points  (1 child)
      How 'bout no handjobs to strangers, assclown? Money or no money.
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      [–]grisioco 0 points1 point2 points  (0 children)
      lol someone got upset
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      [–]Dragonache -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
      I LOVE this update. Congrats!
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      [–]GG_GL_HF comment score below threshold-10 points-9 points-8 points  (0 children)
      "I work in advertising and have done way worse"... Lol. Yeah right. Don't try and justify your feelings by saying that. Either you want to be with someone that does shot like this to set you up for heartache..or make the decision to end it.
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      [–]trainsacrossthesea -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
      Good on you both, I wish you both well.
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      [–]HotDogKnights -3 points-2 points-1 points  (0 children)
      I'm glad that you and your girlfriend were able to communicate honestly and come to a conclusion that worked best for both of you. Good luck!
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      [–]cathline -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
      I like your attitude!
      Good luck and I hope you two make a wonderful couple!
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      [–]0100101101011010 comment score below threshold-20 points-19 points-18 points  (0 children)
      So you blew a bunch of guys for money?
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      [–]LassLeader -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
      I'm glad things worked out in a way that makes you happy. It's your life so you have to do what is best for you. Sounds like your original post gave you lots of food for thought so not a waste even if you disagreed with most of the replies.
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      [–]funobtainium -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
      Technically, advertising is jacking off a bunch of dudes for money. That's a pitch meeting.
      Glad you were able to communicate with one another!
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        [–]missmisfit 0 points1 point2 points  (1 child)
        You are, by definition, a turd sandwich. Have fun with that.
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        [–]ShowMeYourBunny 2 points3 points4 points  (0 children)
        That's not an occupation.
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        [–]Rolla87 comment score below threshold-26 points-25 points-24 points  (0 children)
        beta bucks
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        [–]Brah101 comment score below threshold-13 points-12 points-11 points  (0 children)
        Lulz. Sloots gon sloots. Omega gon omega.
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        [–]Mattandsuch comment score below threshold-33 points-32 points-31 points  (0 children)
        lol beta mode, ACTIVATE
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        [–]DrYokozuna comment score below threshold-53 points-52 points-51 points  (1 child)
        LMAO, the hooker with a heart of gold!
        They need love too, thanks for taking one for the team broski.
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        [–]jizzlyn 4 points5 points6 points  (0 children)
        They need love too? What about the men that seek out these services. This is one of man kinds oldest professions.
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        [–]thisismyMelody -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
        Idk if I should believe this but at least you get all of the hand jobs so I'm hoping it is.
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        [–]huxley00 -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
        I think I could totally let this go as well. Would be hard if you ran into someone on the street or even worse, knew someone who was a client though.
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        [–]loolthrow -1 points0 points1 point  (0 children)
        Lol. Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
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        [–]Harmoniche -2 points-1 points0 points  (0 children)
        I'm glad you two could put aside your differences and compromise.
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