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[–]Mach1_85 -1ポイント0ポイント  (26子コメント)

The third photo is your sexiest!!!!

In what way's should a guy approach you? Or do you want to catch more guys check you out?

[–]abicus4343[S] -3ポイント-2ポイント  (25子コメント)

If guys just made the first move at all id be impressed these days. Men are feminized now though, those days are done.

[–]ImFromTheSouth 3ポイント4ポイント  (8子コメント)

If guys just made the first move

Why should we have to? If you're interested in a guy, why can't you make the first move?

[–]abicus4343[S] -3ポイント-2ポイント  (7子コメント)

Because its a turn off to me, and if im turned off from the first second how would it ever work. A huge part of my attraction to a man is his masculinity and dominant nature, those are the first things that get me. If i have to make the first move those things are gone for me right from the start, then there is no sexual tension or attraction. Polarity gets me, feminine/masculine, dominant/submissive, aggressive/receptive, otherwise the energy is dead, instant freindzone. If i make a move it would be subtle, nothing more than eye contact, maybe a slight smile, a tilt of the head. If a man doesn't pick that up and make a move its dead in the water. It is what it is. You can't help what you are sexually attracted to. Its like trying to tell a man to be attracted to an overweight woman because its 'whats inside that counts' regardless of the fact that he normally gets hard for slim fit women, its not going to happen. Same for us, women are generally attracted to strong masculine men, especially beautiful feminine women, thats how nature made it.

[–]ImFromTheSouth 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

You're hot. You're just very entitled and judgmental.

[–]abicus4343[S] -4ポイント-3ポイント  (5子コメント)

In what way was i judgemental? You asked me why i wont make the first move, i told you, sorry it wasnt the answer you wanted but it was the truth. Im naturally attracted to what im attracted to, its not a choice. That's not a judgement, its just the reality of life. In your view then is a man being judgemental for his attraction to beautiful women over unattractive women? And is a gay man being judgemental of women for not being attracted to them? But im being judgemental for what im attracted to?

Anyway, no point in defending myself here, people will put me in whatever box they are comfortable with and thats where i will remain. Its not like i asked for the moon, i just asked for a man to take a risk and make the first move. 20 years ago this wasnt even a debate, men just naturally enjoyed chasing women, now they want to be passive and sit back while the women chase them, well women will only chase alphas so by that theory the rest of the men will be left out in the cold, that seems a worse fate than risking a little rejection.

[–]ImFromTheSouth 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

I called you judgmental based on the rest of your comments in this thread and in your posting history. It wasn't simply based on that one comment to me.

And, on top of being judgmental, you have an uncanny knack to generalize based on your small view of the people around you.

men just naturally enjoyed chasing women, now they want to be passive and sit back while the women chase them, well women will only chase alphas

Talk about putting people in boxes.

[–]abicus4343[S] -4ポイント-3ポイント  (3子コメント)

Ok, well i expect you to feel that way, i won't change your mind here and its just become a circle debate at this point. Generalizations are just observations based on a persons experience, of course there are always exceptions to the rule, we all know that. You calling me judgemental and entitled based only on a few amisexy posts is also very judgemental. So we are both painted with the same brush at this point. Ill let it go now, as a human race we are all judgemental on some level anyway.

[–]ImFromTheSouth 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Well, good luck to you anyway. I hope you find what you're looking for.

[–]abicus4343[S] -3ポイント-2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I believe i will, because i know exactly what i want. I hope the same for you. Take care.

[–]abicus4343[S] -3ポイント-2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I find it interesting tho that you have personally attacked me as a person here and if you read back i have never said one disparaging thing about you or how you feel so you seem to be taking my world views personally for some reason. They are not meant as an attack on you, they are just my observations and experiences. Im feel as i do and that is ok, one day that may change but it is what it is at this point.

[–]Skatelife31 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Seems I was born two decades too late. I love where your heads at keep on keepin on, oh yeah.. great photos sexy as hell.

[–]Marsh2 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Would this work for a younger man with you (someone on his 20)? Say, if he approached you confidently on the street.

[–]abicus4343[S] -2ポイント-1ポイント  (0子コメント)

No but thats because im not interested in men in their 20s, i would be flattered and respectful, but nothing would work as far as picking me up.

[–]Mach1_85 0ポイント1ポイント  (12子コメント)

It's sad on both sides

You are gorgeously sexy Do you ever wear a ring on your wedding finger by any chance?

I'd like to be able to approach a woman in public to give her a compliment but there are so many ways I feel my genuine compliment will come off poorly to her.

[–]abicus4343[S] -4ポイント-3ポイント  (11子コメント)

I dont have to wear a ring, men never approach me, i catch them looking when they think i dont notice but thats it. Only drunk guys and assholes talk to me, and thats even rare, i may as well be invisible.

I think the whole problem with men now is that they care too much how they will come off, if she will judge or reject him, but strong men shouldnt give a shit either way, strong men need strong egos that dont give a shit what a woman thinks so they just go for what they want. Thats what women find sexy. Men are so afraid of everything now. It never used to be like that.

[–]johnny121b 3ポイント4ポイント  (6子コメント)

Only drunk guys and assholes talk to me

Bingo! Men can feel that attitude. Look at it from our perspective. "Just by talking to her, there's a high probability she's going to presume I'm an asshole" Think you're the first- not-a-chance.

strong egos that dont give a shit what a woman thinks so they just go for what they want.

We've just established- as a guy, I'm (1) automatically burdened with a high probability of being presumed an asshole. (2) guilty even if proven innocent in any confrontation involving a female.

Men are so afraid of everything now.

You know what men are afraid of? Afraid of a society and a legal system where a woman's word can send you to jail without evidence. But that's a bigger issue, and I suspect, not why you're not being approached.

It's easy to lay everything on OUR shoulders. We're weak. We're afraid. We're timid. That's nonsense!! Stop waiting for US. Say "Hi" Let us know you're approachable, and we'll take the reins. Goodness know, we don't need a lot of encouragement, but we DO need less hostility.

[–]Mach1_85 -1ポイント0ポイント  (3子コメント)

You're right, it's not like I'd go up to every woman and try to pick up. Only every now and then I see that woman who I find for whatever reason absolutely stunning in her own stylish way. I just don't want her to think I another one of those assholes chatting her up.

It's seems we're all doomed

[–]abicus4343[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (2子コメント)

We are if it doesnt change. Who cares if she thinks your an asshole for chatting her up?! Then she is obv just a bitch, walk away and dont give her a second thought but id be willing to bet if a guy talks to a woman more than likely she will be flattered. I just dont understand why men became so afraid of women in just 20yrs, one generation and its all dif now.

[–]DieFledermouse 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

I just dont understand why men became so afraid of women in just 20yrs

It's a cultural shift due to most women making it clear they don't want random dudes hitting on them. Most men are nice and don't want to annoy women. Now, most men meet women through friends, activities or online. It's no surprise that most of the men who hit on you are assholes. Those are the only guys who persist in hitting on strangers. Dating has changed since you were 20. Hop on match.com and you'll get hundreds of msgs from dudes.

[–]abicus4343[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hmm, yes, you are right, but id love random men to hit on me, it used to be so fun in the 80s! The girls that say they dont are just trying to brag to their friends "omg!! This total creeper hit on me! Ewwwww!! I just cant leave the house without getting harassed everywhere i go! Poor me! Im just so hot its such a burden!" its the only way for young girls to brag about being hot without looking conceited so they pretend to complain but they really love it.