You are acting like all gay people can't handle a joke.

No. Not at all. Zero percent. Just because some can handle it does not mean the joke is not homophobic or negatively effects other people.

Or can't tell the difference between hate speech and a joke

The two are not mutually exclusive.

Since it is impossible for your ideal (of no gay jokes ever) to come to fruition, you are basically tilting at windmills. You are Don Quixote, asking the impossible and complaining when nobody takes you seriously.

So because something is "not possible" we should not be working towards limiting the negative aspects. Give me a break.

Gay men suck a lot of dick, and jokes about that are irresistible to unserious people who subscribe to this sub.

Sucking dick is not intrinsic to being a homosexual male. It is absurd to suggest so, and you are doing a disservice to homosexuals across the world. You being one is irrelevant.

And this guy looks gay, so laugh at jokes about him sucking pole.

Yep. Let's laugh at everyone that looks like they _____. Your views are incredibly backwards.

Accept that and go fight real homophobia if you want to feel like you are helping me and other gay people.

Implicit bigotry is "real" homophobia. And the more people like you that perpetuate it as normal and acceptable the more explicit homophobia has an environment where it can thrive. You are helping no one.