do anti-choice people not realize or not care that forcing someone to carry a pregnancy and then deliver is literally torture?

I’m going to lean towards “they don’t care”, and it’s disgusting.

like one thing I REALLY want abuse survivors to know is that emotional abuse is a very serious type of abuse because I get a lot of emotional abuse survivors saying things like, “I know others have it worse, at least they never hit me. I feel bad that I’m complaining when people experience physical abuse too.”

Please, please, I beg you, as someone who experienced a lot of violent, physical abuse, I want you to know that I find your abuse to be just as valid as my physical abuse, and I never, ever want you to downplay the damage your emotional abuse did. Emotional abuse was a very real part of my abuse as well, and it was just as damaging as the physical abuse I experienced. and I have permanent injury from my physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is horrifying, and the pain it’s caused you is absolutely valid. never downplay it. never act like you should be grateful it wasn’t worse. you deserve to feel what you’re feeling because it should have never, ever happened to you.

one thing that I think that causes capitalists to misunderstand discussions of anti-capitalism is firmly rooted in the fact that many of them mistake their own cultural values for human nature. one of the most popular arguments I hear against socialism is that it will always fail because human nature dictates that you must have personal incentive to work, and without that, most people won’t work if they don’t need to.

however, one of the very first things you learn in the field of cultural anthropology and related studies is that the things we often take as basic human nature are often wildly different or completely lacking in other cultures because the cultural values are entirely different. it’s one of the major reasons for inter-cultural conflict and fuels xenophobia. “those people are different from me in a way that I do not understand. they do not play by rules of basic human decency, and, therefore, they must be Bad.”

if you as a society value work that benefits the whole community, people will work to benefit the whole community. if you as a society value people over money, people will put people over money.

capitalists always pretend that nobody will want to be a doctor without monetary incentive, and personally I think it’s really telling about them as a person that they think “saving lives” couldn’t possibly be incentive enough for someone to become a doctor without a shit ton of money pouring in as well.

if you’ve noticed, older generations tend to think millennials are rude for being on their phones, but millennials sometimes find it rude when someone interrupts them when they’re on their phone

I don’t have a problem with people trying to talk to me when I’m on my phone necessarily, but when they act like I owe them my time more than whatever I’m doing on my phone, or like I’m rude when I was already busy, I have a serious problem with that. (ftr I’m not talking about people checking Facebook rather than interacting with who they’re having dinner with, so don’t pretend I am.)

I think part of the issue arises because older generations are used to a very small concept of the world, whereas millennials, who grew up in a digital revolution, are used to having practically the entire world community at their fingertips.

I mean, if you think about it, once older generations left the house, the only things connecting them to the world around them was other people and non-interactive media such as newspapers, books, magazines, etc..

older generations are used to the idea that the Internet is full of anonymous strangers, closer to NPCs in video games rather than actual people on the other side of the connection.

so the world for them is basically who’s in the room. whereas for millennials, they have entire social networks at their fingertips. they work on the go. they get things done their phones. their friends and work connections are always with them, in a sense.

older generations find it rude when millennials don’t drop everything to talk to them, but millennials often find it rude that it’s demanded that they give up their time to someone who feels entitled to it for no reason other than the fact that they walked into the room.

do you know how many people I know that flirted with adults as children and are still traumatized by the experience with adults who reciprocated and took it further? they were children, and it was the responsibility of the adult to realize that the relationship is wrong and to not act, I don’t care how much a child is flirting with you. they do not have the impulse control of adults and are not emotionally mature enough to consent to a relationship with an adult.

and the worst part is, these people even as adults blame themselves because of all the assholes absolving pedophiles of any guilt all the time.

if you were a child that ever flirted with an adult, it is not your fault if they took advantage. you were a child being a child, and they were an adult being an abuser, taking advantage of a child being a child.