while there may be female buddhas I doubt any are of large enough significance

There is a well known female Bodhisattva called Guan Yin. She's actually one of the most important and well known buddhist figures. Even though it is true that most are generally male.

secondly, buddha isn't considered a god, he actually dislike or disregarded gods, or at least the version of buddhism I'm familiar with as it depends on the denomination.

This is incorrect. It comes from deliberate disingenuity on the part of westerners where they mistranslate deva just as god, so the part where buddha says he's not a deva (or a human) since he's an even higher tier of god is bungled by them to him saying he's not a god as if it meant he was a human. One of his titles is devatideva, which even if you translate deva as god means god above the gods, to show that while regular gods are advanced and spiritual relative to humans, he is similar in terms of hierarchy to all life in samsara, even that you consider gods. And he didn't disregard gods as a concept. He simply placed himself above the hindu gods, saying that worship should be directed at him for main religious observance, and they were mere helpful spirits. To anyone who is a practicing buddhist in a majority Buddhist place, the idea that buddhas aren't gods according to the traditional religion would not make sense to them unless they were one of a small segment who had a hangup about westerners using a western name and concept / definition of god and so misinterpreting how they function.