its really hard to recommend "alternatives" to TRP because there really... aren't any, in the sense that I think you're looking for. People who gravitate to TRP want a step-by-step rulebook and a means of quantifying life's gray areas. Real life doesn't fall neatly into the roles and patterns that TRP prescribes and, honestly, the reason I think they avoid getting close to people is to prevent the collapse of that ideological house of cards. As long as you're keeping an emotional distance from someone and avoiding really getting to know her you can keep up the charade that she's just "an HB7 slut i met at my job last week" and not a real, dimensional person with hopes and dreams and fears and insecurities and feelings of her own.

Nobody here with argue with the "red pill" advice to get fit, sleep enough, eat right, and maintain interests and hobbies. As much as TRP likes to claim some kind of ownership over it, that advice is universal. Focus on yourself, getting and staying healthy, making friends, indulging your interests and building your education or career. Don't make your quest for sex or a relationship the center of your existence... I know a lot of people, men and women, who have lost years of their lives to needlessly worrying about meeting someone. I really think there's something about that kind of desperation that other people can sense and tend to stay away from.

Don't feel bad if you want casual sex and don't feel bad if you want a relationship, but be forthright about whatever it is with the girls you meet. Don't think that hanging around being "nice" to a girl will eventually get you laid... if you want to take things to the next level with someone be honest and assertive. If she says no don't sweat it, there's a world of reasons why she's not digging it aside from "ohmygod she hates me I'm such a loser."