I'd like to chime in on this.

I feel fairly impartial in this context. I'm able to see both sides of the equation. On the one hand, you feel the comment was unwarranted and, joke or not, was inappropriate. On the other hand, the original post had no indication of distress or otherwise inappropriate contexts that would have made the link comment much worse.

So I can see where the confusion would take place. Thinking about it further, I thought about what if some of us are particularly predisposed to going on the defensive from minor, to some insignificant setbacks or happenstances (IE: Being an anxious person, socially phobic, or other IRL illnesses.). Then I thought about whether it's a personal responsibility to know about these things in yourself and sort of, colloquially "check yourself before you wreck yourself." My personal thought processes determined an equally shared responsibility of understanding between the two, both yourself knowing and trying your best to maintain composure and the person on the other end understanding that this is a possibility and trying to accommodate that.

But that definitely gets more into the territory of handle-me-with-kid-gloves than I'd like it to, regardless of whether it's a reality.

In this case I am completely torn because the comment in question did not seem incredibly distasteful, but the replies did escalate beyond the ordinary.

I'll actually admit this right out, in a recent-ish post I had made I remember you java making a note to me about something, although I forget the context and particular scenario details (right this second - maybe the ignorant term post?) and simply remember it happening. It definitely took a minute to compose myself and be able to understand and respond properly, and I know that it could have been much worse if I wasn't mentally stable at that time, or was legitimately freaking out for whatever reason. In fact, I had a few comments from people that were negative to things I said and even though I understood them, it hit me hard emotionally for a few days and made me shy away. It could have gone much worse, in other words, and I'm glad it didn't. But that took immense emotional effort on my part.

I do feel a one warning only was mildly harsh, considering his history of otherwise supportive comments. I actually have a very similar sardonic nature and must carefully watch where I place it, which does sometimes make it feel like stepping on eggshells but is a small price to pay for an otherwise awesome community to be a part of. I can see the humor in Kotik's reply, but I also see the reading of it.

So, overall, I'm very torn but I do hope that this will be a learning experience for everyone involved (including the readers of this post, as it's educational for what is and isn't acceptable, etc) and I do hope Logan decides to return in the future, as I for one will miss his presence regardless of this one off comment.