We both work, so when we get home with the two small kids there is a lot to do. Cooking, cleaning, baths etc. We finally put the kids in their room and hang out before they go to sleep.

This is you rationalizing and providing excuses for poor performance on your part.

I also have 2 children and yet I'm getting the exact type of sex I want nightly. How? Because I make those everyday pieces of married life a part of my 'game'.

Every 'normal' action in life is an opportunity for growth. You can grow as a Man and husband by recognizing that flirting during your meal, some kino during dishes, some dread while chasing kids around lawn with shirt off and neighbors wife watching, these are all opportunities for you to get what you want from your wife a submissive woman who follows and fucks and is happy because she is filling the vessel of a Masculine Man.

Once asleep, we cuddle on the couch and watch some TV.

This

At this point, we go to the bedroom

And this destroyed your night.

You guys are existing in this routine of complacency. Forget the snuggles and TV and take your wife on the kitchen table. Why wait until it's dark, bed time, or after your shows??? You're a Man, take her to the bathroom and tell her it's shower time and fuck her brains out in there and then you guys can snuggle up while you know your seed is leaking from her.

Raise your standard.