I feel compelled to add that, while I was working with Immigration Equality (who pointed me towards an amazing immigration lawyer who is gay himself and works extensively with LGBT clients with immigration issues, got me my green card amazingly fast) I learned that there were so many thousands of people in the same position as me - separated from family because same-sex-marriage was unavailable.

Some gay/bi, some trans, some HIV-positive, some asylum seekers, some like me just wanting to be with the person I love and sick of waiting 6 months to a year to see her again for maybe two weeks.

Gay marriage is a huge deal when the alternative is being sent back to your home country - and for me I'm fortunate that the worst part was hugging goodbye at the airport not knowing if I'd see her again for another year. For others, 'going home' isn't just sad... it's dangerous.

Just because it's not important to some people, doesn't mean that it's not important to the LGBT+ community as a whole. It is. It's hugely important.