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[–]lurkallthethings 32ポイント33ポイント  (93子コメント)

What is wrong with wanting to have a little fun? If both people involved want a theme how is it weird? Not every wedding has to be cut from the same cloth, they should be personalized and special for the couple.

[–]Cannondale1986 85ポイント86ポイント  (69子コメント)

I'm all for non-traditional weddings. But if you wanna throw a themed party, do that. Don't make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy just because you can afford it. It's the same thing as ultra-religious dry weddings, but on the other end of the uncomfortable spectrum.

[–]monkeedude1212 13ポイント14ポイント  (1子コメント)

But if you wanna throw a themed party, do that. Don't make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy just because you can afford it.

If those fuckers did it to me, they are getting it right back at them >:(

[–]lujanr32 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I personally don't care, hey, free food and booze.

[–]lujanr32 9ポイント10ポイント  (20子コメント)

Right, because it is required that you go. If you are willing to spend the day celebrating someone's happiest day, why are you going with the notion that they have to cater to you? It's about them, not the guests, not the mom or in-laws or anyone else.

Yes, it can be a little cringey, but at the end of the day you are all there to celebrate the joining of the two people even if it's a nerdy fantasy thing. Some people enjoy it, others like yourself don't, and there's nothing wrong with that. Most people will only be doing this once or maybe twice in their life and they want to make sure they like it.

Maybe if you have a wedding someone else will think "boy what a shitty boring wedding" but maybe you think it's the most awesomest thing in the world. You can't really please everyone.

[–]Cannondale1986 -1ポイント0ポイント  (19子コメント)

It is required that you attend 90% of time when you get invited to a wedding. How often have you been invited to a wedding where the people could care less if you show up? My guess is not very often.

That being said, I guess I just can't relate to this type of obsessive behavior.

[–]GetSomm 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

Tons of people have weeding themes, just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it shouldn't be allowed, the wedding is for the bride and groom, not the guests..

and nobody makes you go to a wedding, its entirely your choice.

[–]Cannondale1986 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm not saying it shouldn't be allowed. That would be absurd. I'm just saying it has a lot of negative potential.

How do people in this thread seriously not understand the social obligations that are attached to weddings? I guess someone who can relate to doing a videogame themed wedding, isn't typically someone who isn't one to typically think about that type of stuff.

[–]GetSomm 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

We understand social obligations just fine, but most of us wouldn't care what are friends fit for their wedding. Even if they did have a massive nerd fantasy they want to flesh out, I'd still show up because that's what friends do, it's not my day it's theirs.

[–]Valek27 -1ポイント0ポイント  (15子コメント)

Those rules you are stating are just some obsessive behavior that was nailed into your stupid little brain when you were young.

[–]Cannondale1986 0ポイント1ポイント  (14子コメント)

So, if I'm reading your comment correctly, you're saying that you think that common social obligations that come with being an adult is obsessive behavior we were taught as children? Do you really think being taught manners and social awareness is in the same realm as being obsessed with a videogame?

[–]Valek27 -2ポイント-1ポイント  (13子コメント)

Yes, they are just used so you can judge people who don't know of them.

[–]Cannondale1986 -2ポイント-1ポイント  (12子コメント)

Politeness isn't something you're taught for fear of people judging you. It's showing awareness of other's feelings.

[–]Valek27 -1ポイント0ポイント  (11子コメント)

And yet it never really does.

[–]tacobelldog420 -2ポイント-1ポイント  (10子コメント)

it does it if your not completely fucking autistic

[–]This_Land_Is_My_Land 28ポイント29ポイント  (13子コメント)

Don't make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy

The wedding is for the couple getting married, not the guests.

[–]ButterThatBacon 55ポイント56ポイント  (4子コメント)

Common misconception.

[–]Cheese_Pancakes -4ポイント-3ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm not sure how it's a misconception and not just a subject of debate.

I honestly don't even understand how anyone could think that a wedding is not for the bride and groom. It's their special day. They put it all together and invite people who are close to them to celebrate with.

Sure, I guess there are weddings where the couple choose things to appease their families, but it's just my personal opinion that this shouldn't be the case.

[–]SexyGoatOnline 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

You're on /r/gaming, where 99% of the people on here aren't even out of their 20's. People are retarded, people on default subs even moreso. You'll never break the circlejerk, don't bother

[–]Karpe__Diem 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Our plan was to pick stuff we liked, and just make sure to provide plenty of free booze and great music. Don't shut down the bar during dinner or stupid stuff like that. Pretty much any wedding will be a great time if the majority of people are drunk. If you want people to leave an hour after dinner then have a dry wedding. Most people won't have fun, but I guess they'll feel better in the morning.

[–]Cannondale1986 9ポイント10ポイント  (4子コメント)

Oh, so that's why they spend thousands of dollars on food and everything else... for them, and not their guests.

[–]lujanr32 9ポイント10ポイント  (1子コメント)

With that logic, why don't people who are getting married just ask their guests what they'd like to eat, drink, the theme if there is one, the colors, etc, etc.

[–]Cannondale1986 -4ポイント-3ポイント  (0子コメント)

They offer options in food and drink usually, and even when they don't it is typically stuff that is universally liked. How many times have you heard of someone's colors making anyone uncomfortable?

[–]databyss 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, that's pretty much how it goes. If you've gotta spend a lot of money on a wedding, you should enjoy it.

[–]360walkaway -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hahahaha, god that's funny... oh wait, you're serious.

[–]MissEvieBones 10ポイント11ポイント  (6子コメント)

My boyfriend and I have discussed this. If we do something nerdy, it won't be a requirement for any guests to be involved. We've thought about offering some fun props if people want to get involved (like masks or themed pins or something). We've also decided on keeping with a classic wedding style with nerdy bits thrown in so it won't be so overwhelming for people who aren't interested.

But, if anybody would get pissed off at us having the Princess Bride vows, they're no friends or family of mine. It's a good way to weed out imposters.

[–]landon34 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

Yeah, but I feel like setting an "optional" theme is either gonna be super weird for whichever group is the minority (those not wearing the theme, or those in theme)

[–]MissEvieBones 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

That's true. I didn't think about that.

I thought something small like wearing a button or pin wouldn't be so alienating though.

[–]lujanr32 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah but to a lot of people in this thread according to them, wearing a Mario Pin on your tuxedo will make grandma uncomfortable and everything socially awkward.

"Cringe! Amirite guize?"

[–]landon34 -2ポイント-1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yeah, I'm all for free expression and such, but weddings are typically an obligation rather than a desire for some of the guests. It would suck if 3 people were in costume, and the other ~100 attendees were, or vice versa

[–]MissEvieBones 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I understand that.

No costumes, still formal but nerdy accents are welcome but not necessary. (Console controller cuff links etc)

I would find it awkward to dress up like that for a wedding. A costume reception though would be more understandable to me. People can still come for the ceremony but kip out if they would find the reception overwhelming.

[–]rmphys 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

My cousin asked me to officiate her wedding. Ultamitaley, I declined for other reasons, but I told her I would begin with "Mawiage, Mawiage is what bwings us togetha today". (she was cool with it).

[–]jes-ka 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I wasn't aware that we required anyone attend our wedding. We invited people and they showed up. It took place among friends who really enjoyed it quite thoroughly, and our families got a kick out of it.

Also, it was a very affordable wedding. Thanks for asking.

[–]wtfuxpaigerz 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

I know plenty of people who are put off and uncomfortable with traditional weddings because they're boring, long, and generally just.. yeah, just boring. Whatever works for the couple, dude. It's the same as any other wedding: if you don't like what the couple is doing, don't go!

[–]TacoNinjaSkills 3ポイント4ポイント  (16子コメント)

Who is the wedding for? That is the question. If you have the wedding for yourselves, fuck everyone "who cares about you". If you are having the wedding for them, different story.

[–]Cannondale1986 11ポイント12ポイント  (15子コメント)

If your having a wedding for yourself then why would you spend tons of money on food and a location?

[–]automated_reckoning 6ポイント7ポイント  (14子コメント)

Because you're throwing a party to celebrate your marriage? If they want to dress up weirdly, nobody's business but theirs.

Edit: Apparently a lot of people think that having fun at your own wedding is horribly selfish, but forcing your kids to throw an expensive party they don't want is perfectly normal and fine. I don't understand you guys.

[–]Cannondale1986 18ポイント19ポイント  (6子コメント)

So throw a party then, like I said originally. Don't put your family (and others who are obligated to attend) through your weird-ass Klingon ceremony because you're an awkward fanboy who found an awkward fangirl.

[–]automated_reckoning 7ポイント8ポイント  (5子コメント)

Why on earth should the geeky couple be obligated to spend an insane amount of money throwing a party they don't like? Screw that. If Mom and Dad and guests are paying, then they can get input. Otherwise, shut up, sit down and try and have fun.

[–]faceshitter 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

The guests are paying, though. They're paying for a flight, they're paying for a hotel, they're paying for a gift, there's probably an expensive dress being purchased, and so on.

I'd be really pissed if I flew out for a wedding and it was...this.

[–]automated_reckoning 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Sure, it would be bad if the guests were not informed from the beginning. No argument there.

[–]Captain_Toadette 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

No one is obligated to do anything and if I'm at a party which sucks I won't have fun and I will leave early.

[–]automated_reckoning 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm glad to see you're supporting my point.

[–]Captain_Toadette 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't know who I'm agreeing with. I think everyone should do what they want.

[–]BurningFox -3ポイント-2ポイント  (1子コメント)

That's an oxymoron though. If you are doing something for yourselves alone, why invite other people? If there are others around you, how can you consider yourself alone?

[–]automated_reckoning 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

What is that even supposed to mean? If you throw a birthday party, is it about the guests instead of yourself?

You are celebrating. You are inviting friends and family to celebrate with you.

[–]djangoman2k 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

The opposite is true. If you want to throw a stuffy traditional wedding, by all means do it, but don't make the people who care about you have sit through boring speeches in an uncomfortable suit just because you can afford it.

Weddings are ridiculous spectacles. Why not have fun with yours?

[–]mygawd 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

What about a nerdy theme wedding would make people uncomfortable? If you expect guests to dress up and act out scenes or something that's one thing, but I don't see why anyone would feel upset for having to attend a wedding with themed decor from a gaming franchise. I'm sure there's food, friends/family, and cake, why is it a big deal?

[–]amen_hotep 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

If you don't like then don't fucking go to the wedding, it's their day, not yours. I'm sure they gave guests warning. If you can't quit worrying about your "comfort zone" for a few hours then there are probably bigger problems to worry about in your life.

[–]rararasputin 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think the thing is - this is the one time people are going to spend this much money on a party that represents them... So really the one chance to put the money into getting a theme party right and not just tacky.

I wouldn't do it, but I understand the thought of it being the one opportunity to really do it.

[–]MetaMythical 6ポイント7ポイント  (21子コメント)

This needs to be further up there. It's not your wedding, what the hell do you care so long as it's what they wanted?

[–]Apterygiformes 16ポイント17ポイント  (20子コメント)

I don't want to be part of their mario-peach fetish roleplay shit

[–]jkmonty94 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Then dont? You can probably attend dressed normally. It's still a wedding. If they're spending thousands of dollars, on a ceremony dedicated to them, they can do what they want.

If they're forcing all guests to do stuff, then yeah that isn't cool. But if it's just how they're dressed and some of the decoration you shouldn't throw a hissy fit over it.

[–]TacoNinjaSkills 9ポイント10ポイント  (18子コメント)

Then don't go. Easy.

[–]Dysfu 11ポイント12ポイント  (15子コメント)

It's not that easy. There are social obligations when you are close to someone. If my cousin threw a nerd wedding I would be pissed because I would have to go to that or be shamed by my entire family.

That being said, my family would make fun of that person for doing something that socially awkward for the rest of their life but we would never say it to that person's face.

[–]wtfuxpaigerz 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

"That's weird and you're weird for doing it. Do the things everyone else is doing instead in order to be normal."

Sounds stupid to me.

[–]jes-ka 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can politely decline. It is not unheard of. Trust me, if you are going to be a grouch sitting in the corner anyway, they probably would rather you not go.

[–]TacoNinjaSkills -3ポイント-2ポイント  (7子コメント)

There are social obligations when you are close to someone.

Sure, ones you force on yourself.

[–]Dysfu 7ポイント8ポイント  (5子コメント)

How do you function as a non-awkward, socially acclimated adult with no obligations to anyone else?

How can you achieve this without being viewed as a selfish person?

[–]BurningFox 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

To be fair, being viewed as a selfish person is a disadvantage, but it can be offset, like any other disadvantage.

[–]WhoisBigRed 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

Dude, you need to realize what site you are on? While I'd say most on here are well adjusted socially, there is definitely a loud vocal minority of selfish, awkward, socially oblivious people that just wont get it.

[–]Cannondale1986 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

I've been struggling to phrase this since people started responding to my comment here. Well done.

I just can't believe how many people have such an obsession with something that they can actually relate to this.

[–]pooleboy87 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

It beyond amazes me that somebody who is expressing the belief that a couple should plan their wedding day around what would make YOU the most comfortable would have the gall to call anybody else selfish or argue that other people have shitty social awareness.

It's not your wedding. You go, you don't make a scene, and if you're not enjoying yourself you leave early.

Anything more, and you're just an asshole.

[–]TacoNinjaSkills 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maybe I am viewed as selfish. I only have obligations to others that I let myself have. If I don't want to go out, I say no. If I don't want to help with something, I say no. People who don't want honesty drop away and people who appreciate it become/stay my friend. Simple as that.

[–]Cannondale1986 -2ポイント-1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I am consistently blown away by the social-ineptitude of some people on this website.

[–]lujanr32 -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maybe that's just your buzzkill of a family.

You don't have to go, and if you are too embarrassed or "awkward" to go then I don't see how you could say you are close to that person if you aren't willing to go to a fantasy bs wedding for the sake of them, not you.

I could be wrong, though. I don't really know you.

[–]manofgun 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

If you can't indulge them having the wedding they want, then you're not a true friend anyway so who gives a shit?

[–]someguyinachair 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

That's not the point, the point is they're fucking weird.

[–]apathetictransient3 -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Nothing's wrong with it. I just think it's cringingly stupid and weird.