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[–]whats_the_deal22 59ポイント60ポイント  (52子コメント)

People can do whatever the hell they want but how do you even explain that to your family?

[–]Cannondale1986 42ポイント43ポイント  (47子コメント)

I just don't get themed weddings in general. Someone posted one that was medieval themed the other day, and even that seems like it would be pretty strange.

[–]flamingeyebrows 4ポイント5ポイント  (3子コメント)

Hey man, when they are spending tens of thousands of dollars, if they want to be Batman or Elsa, I say it's their business.

[–]Cannondale1986 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

But you're not considering the fact that most people are obligated to attend a wedding. But fuck it, maybe I just can't relate to adults who get infatuated with things to this degree.

[–]flamingeyebrows 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Well, grown ass adults also shouldn't feel that their friends are obligated to attend wedding, especially if they are planning to let their freak flag fly. Maybe I am just giving people too much credit.

[–]Tyg13 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's not that anyone is actually obligating anyone to go (except in the case of family where it an actual obligation) it's just a polite social expectation. Is there any way to not sound like an asshole in saying, "Yeah, I didn't go to my friend's wedding. What? No, it was because they had this really weird nerdy shit and I wasn't comfortable going."

Or what if you really want to celebrate your friend's wedding, but you really don't want to get behind the weird cosplay shit they're doing? Sometimes it's nice having an expectation of "Okay, I'm gonna need a suit and tie/dress whatever, we're gonna sit down and have the ceremony and then dancing/cake." A traditional wedding is still a beautiful celebration of the love that two people are coming together to share. You can throw an after party with all the weird shit without having to make grandma and grandpa sit through it.

[–]lurkallthethings 15ポイント16ポイント  (40子コメント)

What is wrong with wanting to have a little fun? If both people involved want a theme how is it weird? Not every wedding has to be cut from the same cloth, they should be personalized and special for the couple.

[–]Cannondale1986 46ポイント47ポイント  (27子コメント)

I'm all for non-traditional weddings. But if you wanna throw a themed party, do that. Don't make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy just because you can afford it. It's the same thing as ultra-religious dry weddings, but on the other end of the uncomfortable spectrum.

[–]monkeedude1212 9ポイント10ポイント  (1子コメント)

But if you wanna throw a themed party, do that. Don't make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy just because you can afford it.

If those fuckers did it to me, they are getting it right back at them >:(

[–]lujanr32 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I personally don't care, hey, free food and booze.

[–]lujanr32 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Right, because it is required that you go. If you are willing to spend the day celebrating someone's happiest day, why are you going with the notion that they have to cater to you? It's about them, not the guests, not the mom or in-laws or anyone else.

Yes, it can be a little cringey, but at the end of the day you are all there to celebrate the joining of the two people even if it's a nerdy fantasy thing. Some people enjoy it, others like yourself don't, and there's nothing wrong with that. Most people will only be doing this once or maybe twice in their life and they want to make sure they like it.

Maybe if you have a wedding someone else will think "boy what a shitty boring wedding" but maybe you think it's the most awesomest thing in the world. You can't really please everyone.

[–]Cannondale1986 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

It is required that you attend 90% of time when you get invited to a wedding. How often have you been invited to a wedding where the people could care less if you show up? My guess is not very often.

That being said, I guess I just can't relate to this type of obsessive behavior.

[–]This_Land_Is_My_Land 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

Don't make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy

The wedding is for the couple getting married, not the guests.

[–]Cannondale1986 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

Oh, so that's why they spend thousands of dollars on food and everything else... for them, and not their guests.

[–]lujanr32 -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

With that logic, why don't people who are getting married just ask their guests what they'd like to eat, drink, the theme if there is one, the colors, etc, etc.

[–]Cannondale1986 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

They offer options in food and drink usually, and even when they don't it is typically stuff that is universally liked. How many times have you heard of someone's colors making anyone uncomfortable?

[–]tmotytmoty -3ポイント-2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Actually, the wedding is for the bride.

[–]TacoNinjaSkills -1ポイント0ポイント  (11子コメント)

Who is the wedding for? That is the question. If you have the wedding for yourselves, fuck everyone "who cares about you". If you are having the wedding for them, different story.

[–]Cannondale1986 15ポイント16ポイント  (10子コメント)

If your having a wedding for yourself then why would you spend tons of money on food and a location?

[–]automated_reckoning -2ポイント-1ポイント  (9子コメント)

Because you're throwing a party to celebrate your marriage? If they want to dress up weirdly, nobody's business but theirs.

Edit: Apparently a lot of people think that having fun at your own wedding is horribly selfish, but forcing your kids to throw an expensive party they don't want is perfectly normal and fine. I don't understand you guys.

[–]Cannondale1986 17ポイント18ポイント  (4子コメント)

So throw a party then, like I said originally. Don't put your family (and others who are obligated to attend) through your weird-ass Klingon ceremony because you're an awkward fanboy who found an awkward fangirl.

[–]automated_reckoning -1ポイント0ポイント  (3子コメント)

Why on earth should the geeky couple be obligated to spend an insane amount of money throwing a party they don't like? Screw that. If Mom and Dad and guests are paying, then they can get input. Otherwise, shut up, sit down and try and have fun.

[–]Captain_Toadette 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

No one is obligated to do anything and if I'm at a party which sucks I won't have fun and I will leave early.

[–]RobotVandal 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

I think you have a very self centric view on what a wedding means for your family and this is coming from somebody who is selfish as fuck. If you just wanted to have a marriage ceremony for you then go to the city building and get the papers, go home, watch netflix. If you're throwing a party it's as much about your guests as it is you.

[–]automated_reckoning -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Noooo, I really don't think so. Weddings /are/ about the couple. If mom and dad want to pay, then they get some input. If the couple is putting the money in then yup. They get to do it as they like. Call it selfish if you like, I don't give a single fuck.

[–]BurningFox 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

That's an oxymoron though. If you are doing something for yourselves alone, why invite other people? If there are others around you, how can you consider yourself alone?

[–]automated_reckoning -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

What is that even supposed to mean? If you throw a birthday party, is it about the guests instead of yourself?

You are celebrating. You are inviting friends and family to celebrate with you.

[–]MissEvieBones 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

My boyfriend and I have discussed this. If we do something nerdy, it won't be a requirement for any guests to be involved. We've thought about offering some fun props if people want to get involved (like masks or themed pins or something). We've also decided on keeping with a classic wedding style with nerdy bits thrown in so it won't be so overwhelming for people who aren't interested.

But, if anybody would get pissed off at us having the Princess Bride vows, they're no friends or family of mine. It's a good way to weed out imposters.

[–]landon34 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yeah, but I feel like setting an "optional" theme is either gonna be super weird for whichever group is the minority (those not wearing the theme, or those in theme)

[–]MissEvieBones 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

That's true. I didn't think about that.

I thought something small like wearing a button or pin wouldn't be so alienating though.

[–]wtfuxpaigerz -2ポイント-1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I know plenty of people who are put off and comfortable with traditional weddings because they're boring, long, and generally just.. yeah, just boring. Whatever works for the couple, dude. It's the same as any other wedding: if you don't like what the couple is doing, don't go!

[–]MetaMythical -4ポイント-3ポイント  (11子コメント)

This needs to be further up there. It's not your wedding, what the hell do you care so long as it's what they wanted?

[–]Apterygiformes 16ポイント17ポイント  (10子コメント)

I don't want to be part of their mario-peach fetish roleplay shit

[–]TacoNinjaSkills 5ポイント6ポイント  (9子コメント)

Then don't go. Easy.

[–]Dysfu 8ポイント9ポイント  (8子コメント)

It's not that easy. There are social obligations when you are close to someone. If my cousin threw a nerd wedding I would be pissed because I would have to go to that or be shamed by my entire family.

That being said, my family would make fun of that person for doing something that socially awkward for the rest of their life but we would never say it to that person's face.

[–]TacoNinjaSkills -2ポイント-1ポイント  (6子コメント)

There are social obligations when you are close to someone.

Sure, ones you force on yourself.

[–]Dysfu 9ポイント10ポイント  (4子コメント)

How do you function as a non-awkward, socially acclimated adult with no obligations to anyone else?

How can you achieve this without being viewed as a selfish person?

[–]WhoisBigRed 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

Dude, you need to realize what site you are on? While I'd say most on here are well adjusted socially, there is definitely a loud vocal minority of selfish, awkward, socially oblivious people that just wont get it.

[–]BurningFox 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

To be fair, being viewed as a selfish person is a disadvantage, but it can be offset, like any other disadvantage.

[–]TacoNinjaSkills 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maybe I am viewed as selfish. I only have obligations to others that I let myself have. If I don't want to go out, I say no. If I don't want to help with something, I say no. People who don't want honesty drop away and people who appreciate it become/stay my friend. Simple as that.

[–]Cannondale1986 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I am consistently blown away by the social-ineptitude of some people on this website.

[–]lujanr32 -3ポイント-2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maybe that's just your buzzkill of a family.

You don't have to go, and if you are too embarrassed or "awkward" to go then I don't see how you could say you are close to that person if you aren't willing to go to a fantasy bs wedding for the sake of them, not you.

I could be wrong, though. I don't really know you.

[–]whats_the_deal22 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

Me neither. Like, it isn't a Halloween party.

[–]SlaebNi 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

Me neither. Like, it isn't a Halloween party.

It also isn't your wedding.

[–]uh_oh_hotdog 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

Why do they have to explain anything other than "This is what we like"? This stuff isn't my cup of tea, but a wedding should be about the couple getting married, and they should be able to have whatever theme they want. Maybe it's because I'm Asian, and we're generally pressured into planning these events around our parents' wishes instead of our own, but it's nice to see a couple plan their special day around what they like.

[–]whats_the_deal22 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

I get that, it doesn't have to be about what your parents want at all. Like I said, people can do whatever they want, I just think it's a bit tasteless.

[–]databyss 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's pretty easy when most of your friends and family are into games. Also, I uttered "old school scuba man" a few times that night.

[–]jellytrack -3ポイント-2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Perhaps they had to elope.