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[–]InfernalWedgieLegbeard the Pirate 8ポイント9ポイント  (1子コメント)

You are so insecure. Work on you first. Start by deleting alpha and beta from your vocaulary for a while. Stop thinking about yourself and others in those terms.

TBP is a snark sub. We aren't really here to dole out advice, but someone of us will try to help.

Check out /r/exredpill, /r/GetFeminine, and /r/GetDisciplined. Work on real self-improvement. And maybe find a therapist to help you out of this brain-washed state and help you manage your self-loathing.

And see your ex for what he did. He was emotionally abusive. Repeat that in your mind regularly. He was emotionally abusive. You were emotionally abused.

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I know, I am working on that right now and getting myself to a healthy state.

[–]polyhoolyNever had a direct conversation with a woman 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

I complied as best I could, even though we still fought due to my errors of not being submissive enough or being too argumentative.... started hating myself, and hating myself for failing even though I tried so hard. I couldn't make him happy, there was always something wrong with me, with us. He became this version that I didn't recognize, controlling, angry in a scary way,

TRP is a how-to guide for abusive relationships. My best friend's ex-husband was, for all intents and purposes, a paragon of a RP man. When the relationship started out, she was down with his "I'm the man in this relationship, the leader, and you are my first mate" attitude. Yet, as time went by, she found herself in a very similar situation to you. He would nit pick everything she did, and of course she was always wrong, and was just trying to test his patience with her. She thought "if I just tried harder, he would treat me better. Its all my fault." This eventually devolved into him "physically disciplining" her for stepping out of line, and then into him having a bad day at work, coming home to find he had forgotten to pay the cable bill, and it was shut off, so he almost beat her to death.

TRP is for insecure men who feel like they need to control every aspect of human interaction around them, and even if they do, they are still terrified of any power they have being lost. They see relationships as adversarial, and teach men that they always have to have their guard up, because if you don't keep her in line, she WILL fuck you over. That's how he saw you. You weren't his partner, his lover. You were a belligerent child who needed kept in line.

I'm glad you got out, and I hope he is reevaluating his choices, but knowing terps and their knack for beig completely fucking useless at introspection, he's on TRP whining about how AWALT.

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

because I'd you don't keep her in line, she WILL fuck you over

this tenet I think was what resonated with him...it became this all consuming irrational fear.

Thank you for this, I never thought I'd find myself in that kind of situation as I'm sure many women don't also, and now it seems stupid to blame love or hope. I really hope your friend is ok.

[–]theomegaconstant 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm terribly sorry for what happened to you, but I really appreciate you telling us your story. It helps keep this sub in perspective.

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I had to or I'd burst lol, thank you for letting me. I wasn't sure if it'd get deleted. I was hoping to see similar stories

[–]operanon 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Thanks for sharing this with us. I'm sorry you were treated so terribly. Are you doing okay now that it's over?

[–]dreamcatch2[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I have good days and bad days. I am not bitter about it, it was a learning experience. It only saddens me what he made himself into and how he doesn't see that he had greatness in him before. I am very pissed at TRP and their approach. This subreddit has helped a lot in the recovery to help my mind revert and heal.

[–]latelythere 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't know if he will ever realize or change, and it scares me to see a talented, funny, kind human transform into a dark, angry, manipulative, lost man.

I'm sorry. It really is sad to think that the subreddit and the BS in it have the ability to have such a negative impact on these men's lives. I'm glad you got out and I wish you will.