Quick backstory. Wife texts me , hey when you get home im gonna be wearing something nice and sexy. I would love a massage in it. I get home she is lingerie. I massage her etc. The wife are ready to have sex and i try to go down on her. She really doesn't like me going down on her that much. I push the issue a little. Try and break out the blindfold to help her out. No dice. I was ready to walk away from sex but chose to have sex.

So after we are done she starts to chat it up. I listen. She tells me she doesn't like it when i force oral on her. If she doesn't want then she doesn't want it. She says that this week i mentioned something about lingerie and she put on lingerie yesterday. She tells me if i ask her for it constantly it sounds like i am nagging.

She says she remembers all i tell her and that if i just mention it and leave it alone eventually she will do it. She said same goes for oral and certain things in the bedroom.

Am i reading her wrong or going about it wrong. I will send her texts sometimes like hey when i get home put on some sexy heels. She told me that is really a turn off . Im a little confused about this.

I stopped with being angry about not having sex and that approach worked , as we are having more sex.

She said sometimes she still feels bad when i ask and she says no. She asked me maybe if i can stop asking her and if it happened it happens . I tell her no , when im horny i will ask for sex just like when she is horny and asks for sex. I tell her if you don't want to have sex no big deal. I have other things i can do.

So she tells me sex with me is hot. She says she loves it when i grab her by the edge of the bed and pound her to orgasm. She says i love the way you look , it feels great and i cum. She then asks me if sex is hot. I take second to answer. I tell her it is great everytime we have sex , it is, she is really into it. I tell her at times it can be hot and give her examples of when it was hot.

So i am curious on how i can approach this whole situation.