I’ve just come across this post by /u/ladyaznthrowaway. I took some time to deconstruct the psychology. Here are some key observations.

I've been feeling pretty uncomfortable in the Asian Reddit community lately. On the main /r/asianamerican sub, it seems like every post about Asian women's issues winds up actually being about dating white men and either:

Oh uh. Somebody’s feelings are being hurt now that people are getting better acquainted with the mechanisms underlying her “preferences”.

A. how even considering dating a white guy is terrible and wrong and contributing to white supremacy, and a white person could never actually love an Asian woman and want to date her for non-fetish reasons (and by extension, Asian women are brainwashed to crave white dick and could never actually love a white guy and want to date him for non... why do they say we want to date white guys again? non whatever reasons), and how we should all date the poor, emasculated Asian men instead because they have dibs;

This is not an argument. It doesn’t refute the argument about how AF dating “preferences” are influenced by and contribute to White supremacy. Its just a complaint that people are talking about it. And of course they passive-aggressive mocking and belittling of AMs.

B. how we have it so good and need to stop complaining because creepy white dudes hitting on us means we've made it and are accepted by mainstream society (what fetishization?) while the poor Asian men are outcast and don't actually benefit from male privilege in any way because of racism that Asian women apparently do not experience;

Again, there is no rebuttal or a counterargument presented. Just whining about people dissecting and analyzing the dynamics of AA community in White America.

C. completely unrelated complaining about how Asian women insult Asian men, don't support Asian men, or don't understand Asian male issues (because we clearly don't hear about them often enough); or

Here she insinuates (in a mocking manner) that the accusation of AFs not supporting AMs is false. But lo and behold, she herself has belittled AMs in this post (see point A) and isn’t supportive of AMs and AM issues.

Frankly, I am sick of it. I'm sick of hearing about this thing that's essentially a non-issue being used to shame women for making their own choices. If Asian women are dating interracially more than Asian men, the solution isn't to yell at them until they stop, and honestly it's not like Asian men really do that terribly in the dating scene. Last I checked, it was 2015, and it was nobody's damn business if adults decided to date adults of whatever race.

There it is. Little geisha slave is sick, sick of you discussing her support and benefiting from White supremacy. Its 2015 people, why can’t you let poor little geisha slave and her white master enjoy their colonial raceplay in peace? Pointing out the racism in their raceplay makes you the REAL racists!

I'm sick of the victim-blaming and the derailing every time Asian women's issues come up. One of the biggest complaints is that Asian women don't support Asian men, but I'm not exactly feeling the love here.

Ironic. She wants to refute that AFs don’t support AMs in a post that is bashing AMs.

Also notice the mindless use of a SJW buzzword – “victim blaming”. What victim?

Can we please do something here -- maybe even in conjunction with the mods over at /r/asianamerican -- to make it clear that this kind of talk is not okay and not good for the Asian-American community?

This is the most important part.

First its an appeal to authority to squash any dissent. These are the type of mentally colonized garbage who report on their own people. These Anna Lus would report us to the FBI if thought crime was prosecutable. How dare we question White supremacism and her pretty White masters! Such talk must be hushed up! Its not good for the “Asian-American community”!

Now I want you to pay close attention to the use of "Asian-American community". She says that this discourse is not good for the "Asian-American community" because it exposes the hypocrisy of AFs and their contribution to and benefits from White supremacy. Basically, in her mind, "Asian-American community" is just AFs. If its bad for AFs, its bad for "AA community". AMs do not come into the picture at all. Whether something is good for you, me, and other AMs is just immaterial in their minds. We are not part of the "Asian-American community" in her mind.

This supports my pet theory that AA activism and AA feminism is nothing but mentally colonized AFs demanding access into White America. AMs are either ignored (if we are lucky) or props to be shit upon (usual case just like this one) so that AFs can demonstrate their loyalty to White supremacism.

By exposing how AFs benefit and support White supremacism, /r/AM has basically killed their golden goose. These mentally colonized AFs are now reacting to the death of their golden goose. They will go through the 5 stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. Most MCG AFs (like the one who posted this) are still stuck in stage 1 and 2 (Denial and Anger). A few ones who frequent the DMZ threads on /r/AM are in stage 3 (Bargaining).