Summary: Outcome Independence is critical in any short or long term relationship. Women are, at their core, disgusted by any man who makes the woman their mission in life.

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I grew up in a small town out west (USA), and am kind of a country boy (Why is this relevant? Country boys are raised to want to start a family with a faithful wife, and to work hard to support that family. That archaic social conditioning is causing great conflict in the 21st century when faced with the reality of modern feminism).

My father is naturally Red Pill with my mom, and they have a really healthy marriage dynamic that continues into his retirement. As I am dealing with the disintegration of my own 5-year marriage, the crystal clear lens of hindsight has shown me one, simple, irrefutable truth about women: they do not respect your sacrifice.

Despite what the hamster will make them say, when a man derails his dreams and shifts the focus of his life to her happiness, her goals, and her dreams then this spells the beginning of the end of that relationship.

My parents lived where they lived because of my dad’s career. He said “this is where the work is in my field, let’s move there”. And she happily followed. He is great with his hands, takes on all types of woodworking and remodeling projects at home, enlists my mom for help and tells her what to do. He has a really high level of expectation for all tasks, in that he does them to an exact standard that any of you anal-retentive engineers would appreciate. He gets visibly mad when something isn’t done right. This is key to their dynamic, as she wants to make sure he’s happy with everything, all the time.

Side note: My dad is in his late 60s and given the half-filled bottle of Viagra I saw on his bathroom sink, he’s not slipped into any deadbedroom bullshit. Get it, pops!

Now, this isn’t a post about how to have a happy marriage. Don’t fucking get married. I’d argue that my parents’ generation (Boomers) were instilled with social pressure to accept traditional gender roles. My mom wasn’t “empowered” to follow her dreams by the media and to explore the wonders of "open hypergamy". Most importantly, my father refused to derail his career goals or geographic preferences at any point in his marriage. This inherently gave him immense value as a man. He had a mission in life, goddamnit, and he was going to see it through one way or another.

The point is that, in my own marriage, I sacrificed too many major things and it was part of the death spiral of our relationship. I was willing to live somewhere, geographically, that I didn’t want to so that my wife could pursue her dreams. I tested out different career fields in my 20s and automatically axed any of the possibilities if they ran the risk of spending too much time away from my wife or would interfere with what she wanted to do. I was too wishy-washy about what I wanted, and let the ever-changing, manic visions of what my wife wanted dictate any moves we made. She needed to be led, and I failed to lead. Talk about a tough pill to swallow… Now, I’m starting over a much wiser man.

Small sacrifices are okay. Doing nice things for a woman that deserves them every once in a while is healthy (and necessary) for a LTR. Major sacrifices kill desire.

Not to mention, you’ll never realize your full potential if you allow the ever-changing dreams of women to dictate your major life moves. Women are notoriously poor long-term planners. They let how they feel in the current moment dictate their actions, which send them on trajectories of varying degrees.

This all points to the extreme importance of fully embodying Outcome Independence in all interactions and relationships with women. Outcome Independence means that you are taking actions towards your goals, and that your decision to take those actions is made independent of the outcome they will have on your woman.

As for me? Now I’m a man on a mission. I came into this world alone, and I’ll die alone. Nobody will ever look out for my life fulfillment, and that will only be realized by walking a road filled with huge, audacious challenges to overcome and goals to achieve. Women will probably want to join me at various points, but if they don’t then fuck’em. It’s still my mission.

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Lessons Learned:

• Create goals and commit to your mission in life.

• Never make a woman your mission. She will be fundamentally repulsed by this.

• Embody the IDGAF attitude like your life depends on it...because it does.

• If you have a Red Pill father, then pay close attention to how he runs his life.

• I regret listening to so much country music…”Anywhere With You” by Jake Owen can suck my dick.