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Words of Sympathy Phrases
You are in my prayers.
Please accept my condolences.
You and your family are in our thoughts.
We are here for you. Call when you need us.
We will miss "deceased name".
Other Common Funeral Phrases
You sometimes wonder what to say to family members of someone who has passed. Here are a few thoughtful comments that are fitting for relatives, friends or acquaintances to make:
I am deeply sorry for your loss
You are in our hearts
Our thoughts and prayers are with you
You have my deepest sympathy
He/She was a wonderful person
He/She will be missed
If there is anything we can do, let us know
Things You Should NOT Say
Sometimes things we say get misunderstood, or just don't come out right. Here are some common things people say, that are usually better not said.
It is part of God's plan.
I know how you feel.
It is time to get on with your life.
She/He is in a better place.
You should . . .
You will . . .
These words are not really sympathetic. In fact, most imply that you know how they feel, or are telling them what they should do. Never push your beliefs on someone or a time limit on the grieving process. Any sentence that begins with "You should" or "You will" should be carefully considered before you speak.
Also, it is usually better not to make statements like "I know how you are feeling". This may be painful to your friend who is grieving, and you truthfully don't know how they are feeling most of the time.
Sympathy and Finding the Right Words During a Funeral
Finding the right words to express your sympathy during a time of loss can be difficult. We want to say the right thing to help someone who is grieving. It is easier than you may think to comfort a grieving friend or relative. A sympathy card or heart to heart talk can be just the right thing. Those who are grieving simply feel thankful that you care, and that you take the time to comfort them. We are often hesitant to express our sympathy because of our fear of sounding artificial or saying the wrong thing.
Often, just being there helps immensely. Offer to be with them if they need someone to talk to or stay the night. Do enjoyable things with them such as making a lunch date so that they can talk about their feelings. Being there to listen and offer words of sympathy can offer so much comfort after a funeral. Don't be afraid or feel awkward about showing your sympathy out of fear you may say something inappropriate, because more than likely you won't say anything at all, which will look to your friend as if your don't care. Of course you cannot take away the pain, but there are many things you can do to comfort a friend during their loss. Just be there for them, offer your support and be willing to listen.
Here are some phrases that you may find helpful in expressing your sympathy:
"Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know that they are happy." Author Unknown
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal" From a headstone in Ireland
"As you comprehend this profound loss, let yourself cry knowing each tear is a note of love rising to the heavens" Author Unknown
"Although it's difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow" Author Unknown
"If the future seems overwhelming, remember that it comes one moment at a time" Beth Mende Conny
"My deepest sympathy to you at this time of sorrow. He/She is in God's care now and what better care could we ever ask for him/her? Now I pray for your comfort in the days ahead. God bless you and keep you in His tender care and love for all eternity."
Whether on a sympathy card or in a letter, these quotes offer comfort. Never wait to express sympathy because you are unsure if it will be taken the right way, and don't waste too much time. Send a card, letter or bouquet of flowers to show that you care. You may want to deliver your card or flowers yourself, so that your friend knows you are there to share the burden of grief. Give yourself, and your grieving friend will certainly know how much you care.
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