From the word "basically" on you're just speculating. This woman has been charged not convicted. Everything you assert here has yet to be proven in court and until that happens, your opinions are just that.

I'm trying to think of other situations where someone can be charged with a crime for convincing someone else to commit a crime and I can't really think of anything. This case seems like it will be quite challenging to prove she is guilty of any form of murder/manslaughter. Involuntary Manslaughter is probably the only thing that could even stick, which is why I'm sure they are charging her with that as opposed to something else .

I tend to agree with the user you're arguing with in the first place-- it was ultimately his choice and it's a dangerous path to start going down if we can start blaming people for the choices of others.