TW: kidnapping and abuse, eating disorder behavior

Seems in the UK kidnapping children for being fat has become a thing. Since nothing inspires thinness like the trauma of being kidnapped from your home for “your own good”. Nevermind this is exactly how you program a starvation eating disorder in a child. I suppose causing a innocent child to be terrified they’ll take them away again if they become fat is a good thing?

I personally have C-PTSD from extreme stress and anxiety caused by public school and threats made that if I didn’t get to school on time I’d get detention and be unable to go home at the end of the day. I feel it is entirely underestimated how much terror is put in a child who’s told they can’t go home. I read one of the interrogation and compliance methods the US prisoner of war interrogators use is telling a prisoner they’ll never go home again. Particularly as children have a lack of compentancy in understanding time it’s child abuse to take a child from home for anything less than gruesome mental or physical abuse.

Telling a child they can’t go home teaches them they’re helpless and they develop learned helplessness. As someone who struggles with learned helplessness I can tell you it messes you up big time. You’re paranoid always waiting for someone to take advantage of you. You believe it’ll only be a matter of time before you’ll be abused again no matter how irrational that is. You fear authority the way people fear horror film villains like Freddy Kruger, and as a result are very compliant and terrified of standing up for yourself. This became a real problem for me after having liver surgery due to a rare side effect of birth control pills. They want you to give a pain number for how much pain you feel, if you say the wrong number they just tell you they’ll wait until you’re in enough pain to deserve help. I was crying begging to know what the nurses wanted from me so I could get help. You become desperate to know what will get you the help you need. I’m still upset thinking about it as I type this. You also blame yourself, because you believe as a desperate attempt to feel control that this wouldn’t be happening if you were a good person. To be honest I really regressed to acting like a scared child, even sucking my thumb, because I was so afraid to ask for help and only receive the pain of being denied it. It’s like asking for help and being ignored hurts more than suffering.

This is what the UK government think is good for this girl, a lifetime of having a starvation eating disorder because they were taught if they were thin they’d be allowed to have their parents and a home. I’d be surprised as heck if they weren’t starving themselves or vomiting daily from absolute mind blowing terror that if they gain weight they’ll be kidnapped again. All because they were a fat child.