Let me give a little background on my marraige. Started lurking on the redpill forums about a month ago. Nothing really shocked me about it, but I realized I needed to apply some more of the principals to my marriage. We are a young married couple with a 50/50 marraige. She always has had just as much say as me, but that means I was applying about 50 percent beta to my marraige, and I realize that's just not a good formula moving forward. Anyways, I have upped my alpha quite a bit and have been more assertive in my marraige. With the exception to sex, I have been getting shit test regarding my assertiveness. I hear quite frequently a version of: your not my boss, quit being bossy or something of that nature. My usual answer is something a long the lines of, you didn't mind me being boss in bed last night. When she claims that I'm being bossy it's usually regarding things that need to be done either way so it's not like I'm searching for ways to be unnecessarily assertive. She just doesn like me telling her when to do things, even though she is a huge procrastinator. I try and reward her with a thank you or a kiss when things go my way but her shit tests are at complete random. Anyways, I'm not quite sure if she's truly resisting or just wanting me to push through. What do you all think? Should I regroup and go about this a different way or stay persistant? On the flip side, I've been extremely agrressive during sex and she is eating it up. Our sex life was never bad, always frequent, but not rough or aggressive like now. So that's a plus!