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[–]gcruzatto 147ポイント148ポイント  (7子コメント)

This keeps coming back so often that I wonder where this girl is nowadays... did she lose weight? Did she go incognito?

[–]twomongsmakearight 157ポイント158ポイント  (5子コメント)

Its been reposted so many times, that at this point, I think she has literally become a jpeg.

[–]kevinkat2 1991ポイント1992ポイント  (336子コメント)

I got made fun on the internet? MY LIFE IS RUINED! 😭

[–]The-Nard_Dog 1839ポイント1840ポイント  (266子コメント)

Always thought Tyler had the perfect response to cyber bullying

Edit: okay some people seem bothered by this, im sorry you got bullied and shockingly this wasnt a sneak diss at someone i have never met.

[–]byoonbyoon 583ポイント584ポイント  (54子コメント)

How Can Cyber Bullying Be Real If Your Eyes Are Closed?

[–]staminaplusone 289ポイント290ポイント  (31子コメント)

If God is real, why are there ugly people?

[–]MushroomedAnus 96ポイント97ポイント  (17子コメント)

Well if we are made in his likeness, maybe those people are like the butthole or gooch of God.

[–]UncleSneakyFingers 53ポイント54ポイント  (12子コメント)

So that's why my mom always called me "God's grundle" :(

Everything makes so much sense now.

[–]baggyzed 10ポイント11ポイント  (10子コメント)

Hm... My mom never called me anything with "God" in it.

[–]Unic0rnBac0n 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can't reference it yet! Give it time man..

[–]Amannelle 22ポイント23ポイント  (15子コメント)

To be fair, real cyber bullying is more severe than that. Threats sent to your email, your cell phone, every form of social media, your home phone, etc.

[–]cobraxe 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

To be fair a huge percentage of cyber bullying doesn't have all of that going on.

[–]dendenmoooshi 5ポイント6ポイント  (3子コメント)

Also, To Be Fair, Why Listen To A Kid That Caps Every

Oh god how do they do it for so long without noticing

[–]wharrgarble 78ポイント79ポイント  (7子コメント)

I could see it would be a problem if anywhere you went on the net you were hounded by haters all mocking you but that's virtually impossible. The real issue is very young children around the ages of elementary school and middle school aren't mature enough to understand that they don't have to take abuse and that they can control who is around them to a certain degree. When they don't see that there are other options to socialize then they may feel their "life is over".

[–]Darktidemage 45ポイント46ポイント  (69子コメント)

Ah so meek can just close his eyes and walk away and it will be just like Drake never dissed him, the rest of the world will just forget.

[–]Michael_Pitt 54ポイント55ポイント  (63子コメント)

Those are public figures. Nobody gives a shit about these people. If they walk away from their computer it's not going to follow them around in real life.

[–]Darktidemage 43ポイント44ポイント  (45子コメント)

Everyone is well known to the other kids in their high school.

[–]Kaboose666 24ポイント25ポイント  (43子コメント)

And once you leave high school you realize you really couldnt give a shit about any of them anyway, and you will likely never have to interact with them in your day to day life.

[–]Darktidemage 29ポイント30ポイント  (41子コメント)

once you leave high school

So.... say something to the kids who are currently in the situation. Advice that only benefits anyone that grew up already and left the problematic time period is some shitty advice.

[–]NinjaRobotPilot 32ポイント33ポイント  (22子コメント)

You must still be in high school then. What we're saying is that any drama and "meaningful" relationships you make in that time frame is 99% not going to follow you out of that school.

Edit: there's some angry high schoolers here. Summer reddit I suppose.

[–]tehgreatist 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

reddits average age has been dropping significantly it seems. even in the past 2 years this place has gone downhill, fast

[–]Zootification 9ポイント10ポイント  (7子コメント)

No it's not. "Suck it up, once you leave high school none of it will matter" is pretty standard advice for high schoolers.

[–]the_russian_narwhal_ 1089ポイント1090ポイント  (230子コメント)

Oh, so i can discriminate who i want to be with by height, but no one can not be with me because im overweight. Shit man people are dumb

[–]Steveohh72 877ポイント878ポイント  (170子コメント)

AND height isn't even something we can change. Weight IS.

[–]Dieselpoweredsybian 143ポイント144ポイント  (46子コメント)

I'm 5'7 and I had a woman, one time, look me dead in the face at a bar and say "if only you were taller." I was like bitch, nobody is even talking to you! If only you were getting hit on.

I didn't say that. I was real drunk and I don't think I said anything. Sad.

[–]Chingonazo 101ポイント102ポイント  (11子コメント)

5'6 here. Unprovoked and unsolicited this girl standing next to her friend at a bar said to me something like "Are you just mad all the time that you're so short?"

Looking at them in disbelief for a few seconds I was able to retort with "Are you upset all the time that you're ugly?" and just walked off with drinks. Thinking of that on the spot quick enough felt good.

Thinking about it a little more now, I realize that girls that feel the need to put down short guys obviously have their own insecurities.

[–]sumnewdguy 72ポイント73ポイント  (7子コメント)

I'm 5'7... I went up to a girl at a bar & said hi/introduced myself. She tells me to "fuck off midget"... so I called her fat (she wasn't fat, but I know that shit cuts to the bone)...then she threw a drink on me, and the bouncer kicked me out because he thought I started it :/ .

As a short man the fact that people consider weight to be the only physical feature about someone you can't comment on or judge someone on, but not height, even though weight is pretty much the most controllable aesthetic pisses me off so much.

I can't change my height...but you can for damn sure lose 20 lbs if you stop eating like a damn bull seal

[–]Corndawgz 32ポイント33ポイント  (1子コメント)

Man, it's one thing with girls at the bar, and it's another in the fucking workplace.

How is it socially acceptable to make a comment about someone's height, yet HR will have a field day with your asshole if you say almost anything else derogatory.

Expecting men to be tall, and degrading them if they're not, is sexist. Plain and simple.

[–]askolsunburcu 14ポイント15ポイント  (4子コメント)

As a woman, I don't get how it's ok for a woman to throw a drink on a man simply because she's offended. If the roles were reversed and it was the man throwing his drink on the woman, it would indeed cause a shit storm. People would think he's an unstable, woman hating, psychopath and maybe he'd even get roughed up by the bouncer before receiving a permanent ban.

Besides, why would you waste a perfectly good drink like that?

[–]MrStealYourDanish [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

One day she might do that to someone who has no problem with waiting in the parking lot with a tire iron so that they can discuss things further.

People can be very unpredictable; it's best to just try to be civil and avoid breaking each other down.

[–]sumnewdguy 11ポイント12ポイント  (0子コメント)

They know we can't hit them or really do anything back to them (or else we'd be labled an unstable psychopath), so there's no threat of retaliation. She could have straight up punched me in the face and the result would still probably be the same. Also, its commonly depicted in movies/TV as the "Go to" move when a woman is offended.

The women typically aren't buying their own drinks anyway so they don't care about wasting them.

[–]SerjoHlaaluDramBero 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

You still did the right thing.

[–]subtle_nirvana92 13ポイント14ポイント  (0子コメント)

Here's your response: "If only you were less of a cunt."

Of course this is why people always want to fight me

[–]nau5 21ポイント22ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm sorry that sucks. You should have said "Bitch, I'm not getting any taller and you're not getting any prettier.

[–]Cpt_Tsundere_Sharks 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

I just imagine you drunkenly looking across the bar trying to leer at her as hard as you can and then instead you end up looking like this.

[–]the_russian_narwhal_ 212ポイント213ポイント  (78子コメント)

Yea and you know im only 5'7" and if someone says they dont want to be with me because im short, i get it. But they better have something to bring to the table too

[–]styzr 231ポイント232ポイント  (22子コメント)

I think it implies they aren't coming to the table, nor bringing anything to said table.

[–]pig_master 118ポイント119ポイント  (15子コメント)

Unless there is food at said table. They will be there for food.

[–]NJDevil802 34ポイント35ポイント  (30子コメント)

I'm 5'4" as a dude. It could be worse...

[–]MattDaCatt 17ポイント18ポイント  (1子コメント)

Hi, fellow 5'4" guy here. I've been told "You know, you'd be really hot if you were taller" like it was some sort of compliment. What the hell do I do? Buy stilts?

[–]Erochimaru [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

You just translate it into "you are actually already hot but i am so insecure i need a taller guy so that's why i can't accept that you're short and hot" ;)

[–]Emsd 13ポイント14ポイント  (2子コメント)

My boyfriend is 5'4 (I'm 5'11) you just gotta weed thru all the judgy people & it'll happen eventually. :-)

[–]Thunderkiss_65 16ポイント17ポイント  (9子コメント)

You can earn millions as a jockey

[–]MisSigsFan 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah you could be my 5'2" friend...

[–]PAO_RT_IN_THE_KISSER 23ポイント24ポイント  (2子コメント)

better have something to bring to the table too

I'm sure she'd bring that big appetite of hers

[–]Ruck1707 12ポイント13ポイント  (5子コメント)

why would they need to bring something to the table if they already don't want to be with you because you're short?

[–]ChestBras 52ポイント53ポイント  (12子コメント)

And that's why talking about weight is more insulting, and people get butthurt. It says something about who they are, not just how they got it handed to them.

[–]Steveohh72 21ポイント22ポイント  (10子コメント)

Very true. I'm fully grown at 5'6" and so I was always the short one and I got made fun of for it. However, it really never bothered me because I knew I couldn't change it.

[–]WavyGlass 22ポイント23ポイント  (7子コメント)

There are short girls like me who think 5'6" isn't short. It's the right snuggle size.

[–]The23rdPains [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

There are tall girls like me, (5'10") who prefer shorter guys over 6foot+ ones. In my experience they tend to be more fun. Not to say anything bad about tall dudes I guess, but I think a lot of them take themselves too seriously.

[–]VanillaDong 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah but not if you really like Snickers bars.

[–]timag 24ポイント25ポイント  (31子コメント)

Damn, I'm 6' even. I'm barely past the threshold of datable. Thank god I'm out of the dating scene.

[–]akatherder 42ポイント43ポイント  (20子コメント)

I had to look it up. Only 14% of American guys 6' or taller. At 6'2", it's down to 4% of American guys.

I mean... I guess it's her prerogative if that's what she's into, but I don't think she's going to have much luck finding a guy when she's cutting 86% of them right out the gate. Of the remaining 14% how many are single, live anywhere near her, find her attractive, are straight, etc.

[–]LoLThatsjustretarded 15ポイント16ポイント  (4子コメント)

Women saying that they won't date someone below 6' is statistically the same as a man saying he won't date anyone below a D-cup.

[–]bmc2 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

Only 14% of American guys 6' or taller. At 6'2", it's down to 4% of American guys.

Here are the stats for weight and height of the American populace from 2008:

https://www.census.gov/compendia/statab/2012/tables/12s0209.pdf

I'm kind of amazed the average American male is ~190lbs.

[–]DoubleDot 24ポイント25ポイント  (7子コメント)

That's the point of the post...

[–]akatherder 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

OH, so you can just point out that his comment was a completely redundant summary of the original picture??

[–]MCMXChris 123ポイント124ポイント  (7子コメント)

fair is fair.

I don't have a problem with tall women not wanting to date men shorter than them. As long as you don't have a problem with me not wanting to date a girl who's heavier than I am.

Unfortunately, this gal looks short and fat. Sooooo

[–]_caponius 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is my reasoning 100% especially since I'm a somewhat lean 6'2" dude. I always feel like If I brought this up around females I would be crucified even though It's perfect logic.

[–]kevinthebaconator 58ポイント59ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yeah this is a pet peeve of mine. I'm 5'7 and on dating sites it's not uncommon to see "5'11+ only". I don't get mad, I'm just not their cup of tea. But it pisses me off that if I were to say "no girls over X weight" I'd get hounded by people for being a superficial cunt. Having double standards is the ugliest quality, other than double chins of course.

[–]WindamEarle 493ポイント494ポイント  (71子コメント)

I'll bet my next paycheque that she's probably the type who complains that guys are all, "shallow assholes who only go for skinny 'rexie blonde bimbos!"

Y'know, the female equivalent of neckbeard "Nice Guys"TM who always whine that girls are shallow and only go for "douchebag Chads" while always saying, "thin or fit petite girls only, I'm just not into fat chicks."

[–]JohhnyDamage 333ポイント334ポイント  (39子コメント)

female equivalent of neckbeard

We call them 'legbeards'.

[–]MisterHousey 86ポイント87ポイント  (33子コメント)

A legbeard is also a name for a militant lesbian.

[–]thebeginningistheend 61ポイント62ポイント  (31子コメント)

I think we just call those 'angry lesbians.'

[–]MisterHousey 14ポイント15ポイント  (29子コメント)

Thats another term for them, yes. But legbeard refers to them refusing to shave their legs, something about icky gender norms

[–]WindamEarle 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

But still expects a tall, ripped, hot guy for a boyfriend.

[–]Slyndrr 22ポイント23ポイント  (27子コメント)

Honestly don't understand why people care about other people not shaving their legs, for whatever reasons.

[–]mastigia 21ポイント22ポイント  (10子コメント)

I don't generally care unless it is the first thing you learn about them after meeting them.

[–]Veggiemon 33ポイント34ポイント  (4子コメント)

This has been reposted so many times she's probably a middle aged housewife by now

[–]WindamEarle 12ポイント13ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm guessing she probably settled for a guy who was under 5'.

Or found a guy who was over 6' who was willing to settle.

[–]NinjaRobotPilot 19ポイント20ポイント  (2子コメント)

Or find a guy who was over 6' who was willing to saddle.

FTFY

[–]NateJC 19ポイント20ポイント  (13子コメント)

They're called legbeards. Like neckbeards.

/r/justneckbeardthings

/r/niceguys

[–]KayakBassFisher 268ポイント269ポイント  (32子コメント)

It's O.K. to make fun of or discriminate against someone for their height, because they can't help that. You can't make fun of someone's weight, because that is their "life choice".

[–]Sortech 111ポイント112ポイント  (13子コメント)

Hey I'll have you know I chose to be 5'7

[–]pointlessvoice 25ポイント26ポイント  (2子コメント)

i have always wished for just another inch. 5'6" just doesn't cut it.

*yes i know there's a dick joke here

[–]tdt0005 46ポイント47ポイント  (2子コメント)

That's how I justify being racist. They can't help it, so why should I not be able to make fun of them?

[–]socsa 113ポイント114ポイント  (24子コメント)

When his salary starts with $100,000.

[–]Rydo1888 204ポイント205ポイント  (13子コメント)

She looks like Miss Piggy

[–]ElvisAndretti 79ポイント80ポイント  (8子コメント)

not for nothing, when I was in college I dated a (reasonably attractive) woman who really did look like Miss Piggy. Same hairstyle, same over made up blue eyes and the slightly orange skin tone. I kept the thought to myself until I was at a family function where her little 5 year old niece said "Aunt Anita, you look like Miss Piggy" and it was all I could do not to piss my pants.

[–]bobcat 98ポイント99ポイント  (1子コメント)

Did she reply "Moi?"

[–]ElvisAndretti 27ポイント28ポイント  (0子コメント)

That probably would have killed me on the spot.

[–]westphall 9ポイント10ポイント  (3子コメント)

You wouldn't be green, would you?

[–]StopClockerman 146ポイント147ポイント  (21子コメント)

This girl looks barely old enough to drive a car. I'll give her a pass on being a little immature and not really appreciating the irony.

[–]Dilsnoofus 85ポイント86ポイント  (7子コメント)

You can always tell when girls just became old enough to drive because they will churn out the driver's seat selfies like no tomorrow. Last summer I was sitting out and saw the teenager next door come out of the house, sit in a car, and hold her phone up for a few minutes before going back in the house. I can only assume it was an intense photo sesh.

[–]DragonTamerMCT 20ポイント21ポイント  (4子コメント)

Holy shit you're right...

I've never payed special attention to it... But all the girls I knew years back did this...

[–]Dilsnoofus 33ポイント34ポイント  (3子コメント)

Back in my day, before smart phones, it was all about making your car keys visible. You never put them in your bag. You have to clip them to the outside of your bag, or hang them off your pants, or just carry them in your hand as you jingle them down the hallway.

[–]DomesticChaos 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree with this. She looks no older than my 13 year old daughter and her friends, which, bless their hearts, are stupid as the day is long. This is why teenagers need friends, so they don't have adults rolling their eyes at them all the time. It's going to be a long eleven years until all my kids pass through these years...ugh.

[–]TH3BUDDHA 36ポイント37ポイント  (0子コメント)

What an ugly person. Inside and out.

[–]Erin2512 73ポイント74ポイント  (75子コメント)

What is the backstory to this?

[–]EastInternetCompany 728ポイント729ポイント  (40子コメント)

Fatty thinks she can do what 8+ chicks do. Some dude is savage and puts her in her place.

[–]phasers_to_stun 54ポイント55ポイント  (8子コメント)

"Height shaming" is still just as shitty when a hot girl does it.

[–]Occams_Lazor_ 16ポイント17ポイント  (2子コメント)

The real problem is the shaming part. Like yeah, some guys are short and it's 100% acceptable to not be into them because of that, but flaunting your preference on that or worse, straight up telling someone they're too short is rude. It's never happened to me yet at somewhere between 5'9-10 but it depresses me that it is a reality for so many guys.

[–]Gamps_ 58ポイント59ポイント  (1子コメント)

person body shames. then she has it done to her. then it's not funny.

[–]Explorer2138 25ポイント26ポイント  (12子コメント)

Hilarious. So she can ridicule someone on their height which they can't change, but gets pissy when someone ridicules her on her weight which, unless she has a genuine genetic issue, she can change through diet and exercise. What a piece of work.

[–]MrStealYourDanish [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

"Thank you for ruining my life.."

I'm pretty sure that she did that part to herself already.

[–]shaolin_cowboy 22ポイント23ポイント  (0子コメント)

The fact that she is overweight and height shaming, shows that not only is she overweight, but she also most likely has a shit personality. She might be dateable if she were actually a cool person.

[–]Stickyballs96 66ポイント67ポイント  (18子コメント)

There is a difference!!!!!!! Weight should be shamed because you can actually change it :D :D :D

[–]Eqqo 7ポイント8ポイント  (0子コメント)

thank you for ruining my life.

This is the best part imo. She blames the guy for calling her out - not herself for saying the thing she is being called out on.

[–]KungJonas 26ポイント27ポイント  (6子コメント)

Stuff like this really makes me sad, I have always been that short guy, not untill when i turned 17 i started to actually be taller than people in my age. I was never really bullied because of this but I was being picked on from time to time from random people at my school. And when I was in an argument the other part would 80% of the time mention my height like I had done something wrong. Yeah the teachers cared, but all they did was like "stop that, you can't do that" but as soon as someone would get picked on about their weight (not by me since i kinda knew how it felt I would never do that) the whole school would be involved and the person who were saying the words would get into so much trouble. Don't get me wrong, picking on someone because of their weight is wrong and you shouldn't do it, but picking on someone for their height is atleast as bad.

Edit: Grammar

[–]Alpha_Catch 31ポイント32ポイント  (2子コメント)

...not untill when i turned 17 i started to actually be longer than people in my age.

At least you got it where it counts eh?

[–]_Tank_ 84ポイント85ポイント  (98子コメント)

Isn't like 80% of the male population like over 5" though??

[–]kavso[🍰] 440ポイント441ポイント  (15子コメント)

100% of all people are over 5 inches.

[–]Joe_Vahkiin 103ポイント104ポイント  (11子コメント)

Check your non super-powered privilege. There are dozens of us Pimm particle users! DOZENS!

[–]MarcAlain 77ポイント78ポイント  (0子コメント)

Five inches? Yes.

[–]Downvotesohoy 50ポイント51ポイント  (15子コメント)

Yeah 80% of the population is over 5 feet. But not over 5'10. Basically what she is saying is that she won't date guys under 6 feet.

[–]akatherder 24ポイント25ポイント  (6子コメント)

Just to fill out some more info here... only 14% of guys are over 6 feet tall (in the US).

[–]Hades_Re 16ポイント17ポイント  (7子コメント)

As a european my brain explodes if I try to calculate that in cm.

[–]Downvotesohoy 27ポイント28ポイント  (5子コメント)

She won't date guys shorter than 182.88cm Even though the average height in males is like 176cm in USA.

[–]buu11235 63ポイント64ポイント  (19子コメント)

Maybe. But she's suggesting that anyone with a height of =<5'11'' is unattractive.

Edit: missed an =

[–]HolyCringe 29ポイント30ポイント  (15子コメント)

Maybe im suggesting 20 minutes on a treadmill for her....hourly.

[–]hatramroany 24ポイント25ポイント  (14子コメント)

Diet is more important for weight loss

[–]Vadoff 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

Less than 15% of men in the US are 6 feet or taller.

[–]helpprogram2 15ポイント16ポイント  (12子コメント)

I think 5'6 is the global average

[–]Graceful_cumartist 25ポイント26ポイント  (11子コメント)

5'8 is the global average but it most likely is skewed because of people who have it rough probably are not taken into all around the world. Also self reporting and sampling bias might skewer it.

Edit, I'm sticking with skewer.

[–]Jonas223XC 14ポイント15ポイント  (0子コメント)

sampling bias might skewer it

"skewer it" hahahahahaha

[–]Jumba 12ポイント13ポイント  (4子コメント)

I'm 5' 8", I feel fucking short here in the Netherlands. Hell even a girl I've been seeing is about an inch taller than I am. It's fucking weird, but she's cute so I'm rolling with it.

[–]carbonnanotube 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

To me that just means you have enough game to bag the gazelle.

[–]Kalcoholic 15ポイント16ポイント  (2子コメント)

Shes saying everyone below 6 foot is disregard worthy.

[–]styzr 35ポイント36ポイント  (1子コメント)

She is also fine with anyone 4'11" or shorter.

[–]MisSigsFan 6ポイント7ポイント  (1子コメント)

I never understood really short girls (5' 3" and under) going for dudes that are like 6'5". That is just the weirdest couple ever.

[–]levon14 20ポイント21ポイント  (9子コメント)

Im 5'11

Damn, never knew that I was considered small. This bitch is probably 5'6 and 235.

[–]cnot3 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

Really? I'm the same height and I've been called too short many times.

[–]levon14 3ポイント4ポイント  (2子コメント)

What country? Cause 5"11 is above average and anything but short.

I live in the Netherlands where its average, got people at 14 or 15 who are 6'. Shit is insane.

But 5'11 is tall for an average human being.

[–]MindlessFruit 34ポイント35ポイント  (26子コメント)

My height starts with 6', where is my prize?

[–]VanillaDong 11ポイント12ポイント  (2子コメント)

Find your nearest fat chick and start trading candy bars for sloppy pussy.

[–]Dilsnoofus 19ポイント20ポイント  (5子コメント)

You've taken the first step towards modern western women treating you like a human being.

[–]MindlessFruit 8ポイント9ポイント  (1子コメント)

Ayyyy. I like taking steps that don't require me to do anything, but are based around my genetics.

[–]raisedbysheep 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

You get endless fat-girl pussy now.

[–]kidbudi 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Implying she has a choice of who to be with and she isn't desperate

[–]ElBiggles 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

One can be changed and one cannot, bitches need to sort themselves out

[–]kingkoons 17ポイント18ポイント  (2子コメント)

jesus. you'd think that a girl with a significantly less than perfect body would at least be smart enough to know not to judge. Especially when height is uncontrollable but her weight is. I guess this is what we have to deal with in the 'Love Yourself the way you are/Everyone is beautiful' age. Fooling yourself into thinking you are better than you are leads to an unhealthy lifestyle and serious emotional/mental pain down the road.

[–]FarmerTedd 12ポイント13ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is old as shit. I'm also /r/all too much during weekdays.

[–]Sudo_hipster 5ポイント6ポイント  (1子コメント)

in the version where all the information is not blacked out the meninist twitter is not the same account as the one she is responding to