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[–]niecy_lindsay 8ポイント9ポイント  (5子コメント)

Are you sure these are the right pictures? Because the person in these pictures looks 100% man and 0% woman

[–]horsedong420 5ポイント6ポイント  (2子コメント)

Work on the weight. I know it's tough, but you'll look better, feel better and live longer.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I know I need to, I take after my dad both in weight and how much we like to eat haha. I've occasionally started to work on it but as you said it's just difficult. Right now I'm concentrating on some stuff related to school as well as finding a job so it's hard to think about my weight but as soon as I'm a bit more stable in that regards I intend to work on it.

Thanks for the actual, serious response!

[–]spiderjuice 4ポイント5ポイント  (14子コメント)

So, you're "not a man" but you're trying your best to look like one. That's fine. But you can't really expect other people to understand that concept of yours and, what is more, even find you attractive "as a woman" if you're not even trying to look like one. Do I (straight male) find you attractive? - Well, I don't. For obvious reasons.

/Edit: P.S. Why would you even care what other people think about your appearance as it is right now if you're about to change your appearance drastically anyway? Is this something like "If >50% think I'm attractive as a guy, I might reconsider that sex change thing"?

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -2ポイント-1ポイント  (12子コメント)

I'm "trying my best" by doing just about nothing, that's the thing. It's part survival, part waiting until I have a stable enough living situation that I can go on hormones. And plenty of people understand this "concept of yours" as you call it in case you were wondering.

PS: I don't know how long until I can be on hormones and considering that I would likely date someone else who's LGBTQ+ I want to know if people think I'm at all attractive.

[–]1440024 0ポイント1ポイント  (11子コメント)

Wait? what? how are you growing facial hair as a female woman that isn't currently on hormone therapy? what gender is on your birth certificate?

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (10子コメント)

If you really can't tell by all these comments, I'm DMAB.

[–]1440024 0ポイント1ポイント  (9子コメント)

Sorry, what does that stand for?

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -2ポイント-1ポイント  (8子コメント)

Designated Male at Birth

[–]lolreallyno 2ポイント3ポイント  (7子コメント)

i.e. you're male.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

I don't identify as male in any way so hey nice try thanks for playing but no

[–]lolreallyno 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

Male is not an identity, it is a biological characteristic.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -3ポイント-2ポイント  (4子コメント)

sexes are social constructs and you are incorrect lmao

[–]emile20 8ポイント9ポイント  (14子コメント)

I don't mean to sound ignorant or rude but you look a fat man..?

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[–]eff-7 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Uhm... I'm fucking confused as hell... WTF are you now? And wear are you trying to become?

[–]lolreallyno 1ポイント2ポイント  (13子コメント)

As a woman ...

If you're not even making any effort to live as a woman, I am slightly insulted that you would even try to call yourself one.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (12子コメント)

If you don't see me claiming that label and being out and thus open to transmisogyny as "making any effort" I don't really care that you're insulted, mainly because you sound like a TERF lmao

[–]lolreallyno 5ポイント6ポイント  (6子コメント)

Sweet. Well guess what - womanhood isn't something you 'claim', it's something you live. Unless you live it, you are not "open" to "misogyny", you're open to people calling you a delusional twat.

[–]Anenome5 -1ポイント0ポイント  (4子コメント)

transmisogyny

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (3子コメント)

You quoted a word from my post as if it'd show up with 4chan arrows, the fuck is your point?

[–]Anenome5 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

Never seen the word before, thought was interesting, highlighted it by quote.

Have no idea what "4chan arrows" means.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

It's misogyny against trans women. That's it.

[–]PM_Me_Stuff_Please_ -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

You need to sort out your mental issues before anyone could find you attractive. I don't discriminate against anybody but you sound crazy like an embodiment of a parody of twitter trans people.

[–]iyzie 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

You have nice eyes in the first set of pics. Looking at your eyes, it doesn't surprise me that you are a trans woman. I can see it, and I bet that if you get involved in your local LGBT community others will be able to see it too.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm pretty involved in the one we have at the school I'm currently attending and I do my best to be out and about on the NYC LGBTQ+ scene but sometimes it's difficult to access, y'know?

Thank you though, I like my eyes a lot too, they're one of a few things I'm confident in.

[–]u3h 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

/trollthread

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

what do you mean? I'm honestly asking for opinions on how I look...

[–]u3h 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Do whatever makes you happy girl :)

[–]l-a-e -3ポイント-2ポイント  (6子コメント)

I think you're cute! Nice eyes and a lovely smile. :)

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -2ポイント-1ポイント  (5子コメント)

Thank you!! I actually like my eyes a lot, they're the one feature I'm really "confident" about I guess you could say. I need to brush my teeth more, they're not as clean as they could be, but I've had my smile complimented before too so I try to smile as much as I can. This thread is making that hard lmao

[–]l-a-e 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

Ignore the mean comments, you have a lovely face and I like your hair as well! Keep smiling! :D

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (3子コメント)

thanks! I was worried I'd get a lot of negativity about my hair, guess they have other priorities haha

[–]l-a-e 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

Your hair is lovely, and I like your dimples as well! I think losing a bit of weight might help you in terms of looking more feminine if that's what you'd like, alongside the obvious health benefits. :) You have a lovely face. :)

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

Thank you so, so very much for being the one positive and constructive person in this thread. <3

[–]l-a-e 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

No need to thank me - it's my pleasure and you're very, very welcome! :) <3

[–]Anenome5 -3ポイント-2ポイント  (4子コメント)

What makes you think you're a woman?

Lots of people who feel this way actually just have a personality-style more typical of women than men, and on that basis believe they are a "woman in a man's body" when in fact this isn't true at all, there is a masculine way to live out that less typical male personality in a male body.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

I think I'm a woman because I'm a woman, it's as simple as that.

I like hockey, can't stop talking about sports, have poor fashion taste, all that, I'm pretty stereotypically masculine. I still identify as a woman because that's how I experience gender and as a result want society to gender me.

I'm not mistaken about something as simple as this.

[–]Anenome5 -1ポイント0ポイント  (2子コメント)

I think I'm a woman because I'm a woman, it's as simple as that.

It's really not that simple. That is a conclusion you claim to have drawn. However you were born outwardly male, so the question is on what rational basis you've drawn this conclusion.

This shouldn't be a hard question to answer. You should deeply and exhaustively examine your motives before making such a radical life choice.

I like hockey, can't stop talking about sports, have poor fashion taste, all that, I'm pretty stereotypically masculine. I still identify as a woman because that's how I experience gender and as a result want society to gender me.

I'm not mistaken about something as simple as this.

What does that mean that this is 'how you experience gender'? This could be a case of simple gender-dysphoria.

I suggest that one possible root of gender-dysphoria is that men and women have different stereotypical personality tendencies, and you may have been born with one of the rarer personality types for a male, such as a caring, nurturing personality, and based on society's typical assigning of that as a feminine personality type you may have therefore concluded you're a man in a woman's body. But that is not the only conclusion that can be drawn, and that condition makes it easy to believe the statement that you're a "man in a woman's body" when in fact you're a man in a man's body with simply an atypical male personality that you simply have to discover how to grow into a express in male fashion.

For other people there is a fascination with the power that woman obtain from being beautiful, and a desire to possess that power over men by sex reassignment.

All I'm saying it, examine your motives. Make damn sure. There's no going back once they cut off your cock.

Also for some people, gender-dysphoria arises as a result of parental disaffection that gets transmuted to the child's attitude. Your mother or father actually really wanted a girl and you pick up on this and later it manifests as gender dysphoria. Not saying that's what's going on here but it's one of the typical possibilities that show up in counseling. In extreme cases kids have been literally raised as the opposite gender for a period of years as a child, dress, hair and all.

[–]nassaucoliseum[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

For fuck's sake, I get dysphoria and I identify as a woman despite being DMAB. I'm not doing it out of "fascination" or some shit, I do it because it's how I feel. I'm frankly kind of insulted by how much you claim to know about transness when you won't even let me have my own.

[–]Anenome5 -4ポイント-3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dude you're fine, I'm just pushing you to make sure you're sure. It's not something to enter into lightly.

Good luck with everything.