My so and I have been together for 5 years. Jan 2014 I was diagnosed with a major illness that prevented me from doing many things. Things seemed ok but as I recover more he seems to be less trusting of me.
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What is the problem? (Neutral phrasing: use words like "we," and "our" so that you aren't trying to off-load problems at your SO's feet when there's actually plenty of blame to go around)
I became unexpectedly very ill. He stood by me to the point of paying for everything. I'm still recovering and there is conflict about whether or not I'm doing enough to get better or pulling the max weight possible.
What are your faults? How have you contributed to the creation of these issues?
I know I was a huge burden financially and I wasn't able to keep up my usual good habits like cooking or cleaning. I gained a lot of weight. I am very emotional about critism because I do feel I mostly do my best.
I've not been much fun.
I whined alot
Why do you think this (these) problem(s) manifested?
Physical disease forced a lack of energy and motivation.
I think he might think that it was a bait and switch scenario.
What steps have you already taken to try and resolve the problem?
Mostly medical interventions. I am on the job hunt to pay him back the costs.
I'm working out but it's so slow.
How long has this been an issue?
Around 2 years
Are you making a mountain out of a mole-hill? If a woman you really despised came to you with this issue, would you still think it's a legitimate concern? Or would you tell her she's throwing things out of proportion?
No, I am not sure if he even likes me anymore. But I don't want to leave him since I feel I at least should pay him back something.
How's your bedroom life right now? Are you taking care of his needs emotionally and physically?
No. It's so hard for me to enjoy sex when I'm always so tired.
Thing is that my prognosis points to the likelihood of a full recovery - just need time and fitness.
What should I do? He bristles if I talk about leaving etc. But my attempts also are often criticized and I get all defensive.
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