I've (M,34) posted here over the years with the frustration of my wife (33) refusing to get off birth control and her anti-depressant. Since introducing the hormone-drug cocktail early in our 8 yr marriage, we've been a once every 3-6 month couple (that only after massive pressure, coddling, seducing from me)
After having a vasectomy this year and months of arguing she finally agreed to stop her birth control. Things didn't get much better due to her SSNRI. She was on it for anxiety due to a very brief stressful period at a horrible job 7 years ago. She quit the job, anxiety stopped but she wanted to continue Cymbalta. It had become a nuclear issue ever since.
Cymbalta killed her sex drive overnight when she started. She denied it, showed me internet posts that Cymbalta doesn't effect libido. Her gynecologist who gave her the script pushed back about the libido issues as well. It was "all in my head" and a relationship issue I "had to work out". This in the face of endless posts on the internet of girls losing their drive sometimes even permanently altered due to the changes in the brain.
8 years of this, at the end of my rope I made a late night wine-infused decision to wean her off of Cymbalta by adding sugar to her capsules.
After two weeks of weaning off, within her first week of 100% sugar pills, something magically changed: I caught her masturbating.
She claimed it was the first time in 4 years. She didn't know what had gotten into herself lately - all she's "been thinking about is sex". Next night, she wants it. She starts showing more physical affection, hugging me, groping me. A few nights later she mentions that she wants to order her first dildo. She's never owned a sex toy in her 33 yr life.
The sex is passionate from her end and not the typical starfish dead lay I was used to. Things have changed so quick that it's almost been difficult to comprehend and adjust to. She talks about how things are so much better in our relationship. She feels trust. She feels connected. She loves her job. She talks about how good things are lately.
I seemingly got everything I wanted and I feel terrible about it. The last thing I want to do now is break the truth to her and destroy the amazing positive momentum we have going. Am I going to really be adding sugar to her pills for the rest of our lives?
What she doesn't know doesn't hurt her?
What would you guys do in this situation?
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