TL;DR

Find positivity. Let all obsessions and goals go that are not in your immediate control. Women love assholes but if you're not in a healthy mindset to be the right kind of asshole, you'll go to far on the scale and come across as a total dick. A dick is a non-sexualized asshole, irritating, and not welcome.

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I'll see what I can do about snagging screenshots from him and I'll put mine up here to compare as well. (6/29/2015)

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I thought I got out of my anger phase. I feel like my normal self again like I did a few months ago after all. I watched my buddy line up three nights in a row with different women on facebook. He just met one yesterday. He's four years younger than I am but he has serious people skills. He has that exuberant energy I want again. The same energy that my LTR and 5 years of computer science at uni sucked right out of me.

Shut the fuck up. I'm victimizing myself. I realize this immediately. College didn't suck the life out of me. I let myself get bummed out. Could it be that I was never out of the anger phase before I started TRP? And not just with women, but with life? I'm miserable. I'm not working for a game development company, I have nerd friends who want to sit inside drink coke and watch tv all day, I'm not doing anything for myself. I tell myself that I'm happy but I'm really not. I went to college because everyone said it'd be worth it. Yet here this guy is flipping burgers at Waffle House banging girls from 6s to 8s on a daily basis happy as a motherfucking jay bird.

As far as looks go, I'm more attractive than him. He even admits having an ugly face. He cracks me up. I showed him my texting game. He liked some of it and shook his head at others. "You're a dick".

I was shocked. "What am I doing different?"

He shows me his texts. Filled with sexual banter followed by lmfao's, no big words (he pointed out I have a higher education and it comes across as talking down to people. I pointed out that's insecurity. He said that doesn't matter. Tell a woman that.), takes everything lightly even when they reject him, and not going too far.

He said I'm being an asshole without a clear intention. So I seem like a dick. I've never thought of this before. Otherwise, women aren't his priority and he's bubbly, socializes often (not with women unless to get their number), and gets sexual with women fast. Where did that energy and enthusiasm for myself go? I can be happy and crack jokes like he does and be selective with what I want from women. I reflected. I have borderline obsessed with getting laid since I lost my virginity at 19 and it only hurt my chances. That's why I'm so grumpy. Before sex I didn't give a fucking fuck, had fun, did whatever. Life was brighter then. I was more social too. This guy doesn't give a fucking fuck and he knows what he wants from women. That's it. That's the only difference. Sex co-exists with his lifestyle. Other than his baby momma and his momma, there's no other woman in his life he thinks about. Every other one is a potential lay.

He makes his life positive. He uses that positivity in his favor to make convos with women enjoyable and sexual and he succeeds. I haven't been positive. I considered myself a realist. Nothing wrong with that but I wasn't letting go with my obsession of getting laid and that's pathetic. Now let me clarify: I don't sit around thinking about it all day. In summary, I gauge it to base my progress in life and it's only brought me down. I compared myself too much and didn't happily learn from other men. I'd get jealous and that jealously would turn into anger. It only made me negative and made my asshole personality steer hard into being a dick. And that doesn't bode well with the ladies.

Learn from me.