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Blue Pill ExampleBP "friends" don't want you to succeed (self.TheRedPill)

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Summary: I told a friend of mine that I got a job at a small investment management company. I hadn't been to university and I got the job thanks to being a self educated, interesting and well spoken person. The responses I got from him were filled with sarcasm, a mocking tone and a condescending attitude.

Body: I only tell my really close friends where I work and what I do but most of the time I just wait for someone to ask. When they do ask, I humbly say where I work and only if I'm pushed to further explain do I go into details. Anyway, this friend of mine asked, and so I answered. He's an extremely intelligent guy; high grades, a list of achievements, but this snippet of information bothered him. First off, I received a very surprised "really?" from him and then a list of questions that all basically asked "How the fuck did you get this job!?". He asked if I knew someone who worked there. Nope. He asked if it's being a receptionist. Nope. He asked if it's minimum wage. Nope. I don't mind it too much but I thought TRP could use a friendly reminder of the nature of such "friends".

Lessons Learned: Your BP "friends" don't want you to succeed. If you want to know who your true friends are just state an achievement you made and wait for the responses.

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[–]larrythetomato 5ポイント6ポイント  (2子コメント)

This isn't exactly RP related, but you should understand that some people are jealous (no shit). If you want to defuse such a situation, you treat it like a shit test. Quickly realise that he is cut because he thinks he is better than you (or some variety of the issue), so do an agree and amplify.

Actually now that you mention it, back when I was younger, around 10, I used to mow the lawn for his family, I did such a good job that they said that when I was older if I ever wanted a job managing funds, to call him up. [panface]. Nah man, I was in a lucky spot at a right time.

Remember the rule to arguing, when you make them laugh. It's automatically over.

If you hate the fella, then downplay all of your achievements, skills and personality and make it look like they made a mistake hiring you.

[–]wikipedia_cool 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

he thinks he is better than you

He thinks that he has put much more effort and got similar result to OP. Nothing wrong with that.

[–]nodiggity9721[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

A great friend of mine told me he received a huge amount of money from his parents as a present. He said he was ashamed to tell me but I congratulated him and was genuinely happy for him. The amount of effort has nothing to do with it.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

You should watch the old tv show The Office.

A great source to learn about office life and company politics.

[–]Magnum256 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Don't know if it specifically applies to BP, I think people in general are just jealous and hate to see anyone get something better than they have, or if not better, they hate to see the gap narrowed.

I guess it's more apparent in BPs because they might have fewer accomplishments, or maybe they feel empty in certain parts of their life or are otherwise "incomplete" so when they see a guy who seems to have it all, good looks, physically fit, successful, intelligent, wealthy, good career, it makes it that much harder for them to feel anything but jealousy because they feel like they're losing at life.

Personally I think being a jealous person is a waste of energy, unless it really fuels you to push harder to accomplish more and try and one-up the person you're jealous of, but even then you're basically just creating an arbitrary competition between you and a random person.

I had a talk once with a friend that was hyper competitive and very jealous of me. I asked him why he was always trying to outdo me on everything, and he just said "who else am I going to compete with?" which made me realize that often peoples ambition is directly tied to their circle of influence. If you only know a few losers, and you accomplish being better than all of them, you might stop trying, but there's still likely going to be millions of people out in the world who are way better than you, you just don't know them so you don't feel you have to compete with them. I guess the point to take from that is if you really care about being a successful person, don't worry so much about what your friends are doing, focus on being objectively superior.

[–]NewlyFoundAgain 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I was talking to this guy who was dating my wife's friend about working out. I said I had been doing well but hit a plateau for a bit. He was a fat stoner type and flat out said "dude, lifting wont matter unless you devote your life to it"

I just kind of looked at him and said "Yeah, well its done wonders for me so far, so Im going to stick with it"

Basically, people are quick to negate success of others, because it makes them feel like shit about themselves. Look at all those fat positive people.

[–]DK7096 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

This right here! I bust my ass in the gym, I lift, I run, etc. I'm not jacked, I know I'll never look like my friends who are bodybuilders and the one that's a semi-pro wrestler, I know this. I can't run great, I know I'll never compete on the level of my friends that are marathon runners. I'm told this constantly by the slobs I come into contact with who are like "you'll never be as big as X or run as far and fast as Y, it's pointless." Yea, you're right, I won't ever be as big or as fast, but I'm not that fat loser POS I was 2 years ago, and I'm bigger and better than you because I give a shit.

Betas have that crab bucket mentality that women do. I was considering about posting one day after I hung out with a few friends of mine I haven't seen in a while and how everything was going great until the conversation just devolved into an "ZOMG MUH FEEELZ!" argument. Beta dudes crab bucket the fuck out of you, they are guys so they are wired the way we are but wind up thinking and acting like women quite often, and they will gang up on you in a heartbeat if they are threatened by you. All insecure people do this, the important thing to do is to see through the bullshit and not let it affect you. Personally, I fucking love it. It lets me know I am doing everything right and am on the path I want to be on.

[–]NewlyFoundAgain 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

verything was going great until the conversation just devolved into an "ZOMG MUH FEEELZ!" argument

Cannot tell you how much this shit bothers me. Everyone feels their fucking opinion should be worshiped, and that their feelings should be on your mind 24/7.

My fathers generation had it right "Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one."

I literally do not get why I have to respect someones opinion, just because they feel that way about it. Who gives a shit? I wont be rude to someone for no reason or belittle them for being an insecure little fuck, but the ONE TIME they feel threatened they gang up on you, as if you even existing fucks with their lives so much that just being in their presence of them makes them feel like shit.

TL;DR: haters are great motivators.