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megathreadA depressing megathread. (self.CasualConversation)

tizorresI made this subreddit. が 投稿 - stickied post

There's been a lot of sad posts lately. Lets try to be less sad.

I know it sucks when bad stuff happens to you, being depressed is horrible. It's cool express yourself.

We have just been getting a little too much depressing threads lately. So if you may, post w/e depressing stuff is happeneing in your life and let it out here.

We'll be removing new depressing posts for a while. Sorry for the inconvenience.

If you wish, check out some other subs in our directory.

/r/CasualConversation/wiki/megathreads

We may megathread certain topics throughout the year if the sub gets flooded with the same type of threads.

Don't derail this thread, this thread is for talking about your issues. If you want to talk about the context go to that other thread.

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[–]Teletoon [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I know this was made with good intentions in mind, but I still think it's a real shame when threads have to be removed because they're "sadder" than other submissions.

For me personally, I like contributing to the sadder threads since it's usually those OPs who need a good conversation. These threads deserve just as much attention, if not more, as the happy threads.

What I'm trying to say is, some transparency on this issue would be nice. Were users actually complaining about the depressing posts, or was this solely a decision of one or more of the moderators? Also, how long is "for a while"?

Here's a strawpoll I made asking users if they agree or disagree with this "depressing megathread".

http://strawpoll.me/4711322

EDIT: Even though this was the highest rated comment, it was removed by the moderators. Guess what? The poll shows the majority of users don't agree with this megathread.

[–]Kezoqu [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I'm absolutely terrified I'm never going to be able to fulfill my dream of being a freelance novelist. I'm worried I'm going to just languish in some terrible job for the rest of my life and do nothing. I keep seeing negativity around artistic jobs everywhere and I just feel scared. I'm turning 21 soon, I'm going to have my bachelor's degree, but I don't think it will really help me in the long run. People say I'm good at what I do but I'm worried that won't be enough. Stuff about networking makes my head spin and I don't know how to apply that stuff to what I do. I'm scared that I've screwed up college because I haven't networked enough.

[–]NickWaggs [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I got dumped a few months ago, we had been together for 2.5 years and out of the blue she just left. I found out from some friends later that she's already seeing someone else. While that doesn't really bother me, what has been rough is that I keep dreaming about her every night and it's really starting to undo the progress that I have made towards moving on.

[–]harcoleJe suis content 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't know where I am sentimentally. That's troubling !

[–]qlitterstormactually a viking shieldmaiden 4ポイント5ポイント  (5子コメント)

i'd love to have a great social life and feel like a normal person, but despite not having a panic attack since november, i'm way too shy around people. i still cringe away from eye contact, i still assume people are laughing at me. i have a best friend and boyfriend so it isn't all bad, and they understand me, but i'm just stressed out by the fact that i'm 18 years old and too scared to even smile at a stranger.

i try not to think about it, to be honest.

[–]MisterDrProfSupervillain at heart [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

Stuff like that you can work on. Start small, get yourself to smile at a single stranger every day. Doesn't matter if they see it, doesn't matter if they don't like it, just so something small every day. Eventually, it'll become easier and easier to do and before you know it you'll find it easy. If all else fails, fake it. Pretend you know what you're doing, because that works too.

[–]qlitterstormactually a viking shieldmaiden [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

i've been having a go! some days i've managed to walk with my head up and smiling at (a few) people, but i can't help but feel a bit frightened of the idea of it - even though i know that realistically, no one would be offended by a smile.

[–]MisterDrProfSupervillain at heart [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

That's good! You gotta start small and eventually you'll make big changes.

[–]bunnywhispersshywriter 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

i get the same way too. if i see someone laughing i assume it's about me.

[–]qlitterstormactually a viking shieldmaiden 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

i know that logically they aren't since realistically most people aren't that interested in other people, but i can't help but think they are or they're going to.

[–]ToppestOfHats*tips hats* this'll be a while 4ポイント5ポイント  (3子コメント)

A while back, I went to this workshop group in university to discuss/improve relationships with people. Anyways during this workshop, I said this thought to this guy/girl in the group and it made them feel better. So I'll say it here for you lovely people hoping that it might help somebody like how this sub helped me with other things. <3

"Like how all good things can come to an end, this could be said the same for how all bad things can come to an end."

[–]ZephyrantheaBoring person being bored [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I may add that good things can also grow out of bad things, so bad things are not necessarily just bad if you look at them later.

[–]tizorresI made this subreddit.[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

aw, that is a really nice way to look at it. I'm glad you made them feel better.

[–]ToppestOfHats*tips hats* this'll be a while 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thank you for the compliment, oh dear subreddit creator.

[–]throwout5202015 5ポイント6ポイント  (10子コメント)

I just want a girlfriend and a happy little social life and I don't know why it's so hard to get those things going in post-undergrad life. I tell myself it's because I have bipolar I, but I always had that and I had friends too.

[–]sayyaygirlblush [スコア非表示]  (6子コメント)

It's when you realize you don't need a girlfriend and you don't desire one so badly that one turns up.

[–]throwout5202015 [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

I would settle for a co-conspirator.

[–]sayyaygirlblush [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Still, when you realize you don't need other people is when you become more attractive to those people, and then they like you more.

[–]tizorresI made this subreddit.[S] [スコア非表示]  (3子コメント)

this is pretty accurate

[–]sayyaygirlblush [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

Hahaha you saying you don't need or desire me? XD

[–]tizorresI made this subreddit.[S] [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

what no. ahh now youre just twisting my wording around

[–]MisterDrProfSupervillain at heart 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

Meeting people is fucking hard. I have a friend who's bipolar too, he's a really good guy. Are you open about your ailment? (Is that a decent term? I don't like the term disorder)

[–]throwout5202015 [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

No, I'm not. I've gotten very good about hiding it too. Sometimes I think I should be more open. But I don't want people to look at me and wonder if I'm in a mood episode, especially since I'm unusual anyway. Also it's BP1 with psychotic features. It's intense and dangerous and bizarre in ways I wouldn't want people to know.

My parents were recently complaining that the Colorado shooter guy had told his therapist repeatedly that he had thoughts about shooting up lots of people, but she didn't tell authorities because he told her he wasn't actually making plans. (That's where the legal line is drawn.) My dad: "Can you believe that?" Me: "Yeah, who can believe that, I guess..." (I would be in jail with 20 life sentences.)

[–]MisterDrProfSupervillain at heart [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Ah I see. It may be worthwhile to let potential friends in on a bit more about you.

That's ridiculous, if you could get locked away for thoughts of murder EVERYONE would go to jail.

[–]bunnywhispersshywriter 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

I haven't hung out with a friend in over 2 months. I rarely have a friend to talk to besides my husband. My favorite band only does show's really on the west coast.. (and i'm very far away). I got rid of fb, tumblr, twitter on June 1st due to cyber bullying and i do wanna get it back someday but thinking about doing so stresses me out. i am sick every day. I have cruddy lungs. i have 27% lung function.

[–]MisterDrProfSupervillain at heart 6ポイント7ポイント  (3子コメント)

I really wish I had somebody to just sit down and talk with. What friends I have left have their own, objectively worse, problems. Plus, they're always busy anyway. I feel like I don't belong in this world. There is nothing I want to do, no goals I wish to achieve. This world is sad and depressing compared to what I and others imagine. I'm just wasting my life away doing nothing cause I don't want anything real. I have no passions nor ambitions. So I sit here, slowly rotting away, trying to keep my mind off the matter. Bleh, so much ranting.

Fuck, I don't even deserve to be depressed. I have no real problems. I have food and shelter and virtually unlimited clean water. I'm fairly healthy and don't have to worry about my well being. I don't get judged for who I'm attracted to or what color my skin is. I feel like such an ass when compared to those who do so much more than me in spite of having so many disadvantages.

[–]db_325The loveliest lies of all 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

Fuck, I don't even deserve to be depressed. I have no real problems. I have food and shelter and virtually unlimited clean water. I'm fairly healthy and don't have to worry about my well being. I don't get judged for who I'm attracted to or what color my skin is. I feel like such an ass when compared to those who do so much more than me in spite of having so many disadvantages.

This really isn't fair to yourself. Other people's problems have no bearing on your own life. It's very possible to be depressed even if there's not any other problems. Talk to someone, air out how you're feeling and see where that leads you. If you are depressed, seek help. Don't just tell yourself "Other's have it worse, I'm just complaining about nothing". It's okay to feel like shit. You're allowed to complain and be unhappy with your situation. See what you can do to make it better. Don't wallow in your own misery. You can do it :)

[–]MisterDrProfSupervillain at heart [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

I don't really have anyone to talk to though. What friends I have are largely not good at emotions. Often, I find myself helping them with their problems, and then I feel bad if I talk about mine. I'm mad at myself because I see so many people fight tooth and nail through awful situations and come out the other side. While I can't beat my own fucking brain. Maybe my brain is making it harder, maybe I'm just pathetic. I don't know, and I never will. It kills me.

[–]db_325The loveliest lies of all [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

If you don't feel comfortable talking to your friends, is there any family you could talk to? Parents or siblings? I don't know what stage of life you're currently at, but if you're in college or high school, most schools have professionals that could help you sort this kind of thing out. If you're older, then maybe make an appointment with someone if you feel a need to? Talking through your issues may be very helpful.

And you are most certainly NOT pathetic. You sound like you're going through a hard time. That's nothing to be ashamed about. And if you are depressed, that just makes things worse, as your neurochemistry is making you feel even shittier than you already do.

I really would recommend you talk to someone about this. It's best if it's someone you know in real life. But there are some online resources as well. Hell, if you ever feel a need to vent, or just to talk about anything at all. Feel free to send me a message. There's people around to help.

[–]sci_tech_saraHoney, please. 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'll bite.

I've been experiencing chronic pain in my upper back. I caught feels for someone and am pretty certain those feels are not reciprocated. I want to move from my current location but can't due to circumstances. I miss my old friends and a new friend completely dropped me. I think that's depressing enough for one day, because if I sit and think about it, I'll feel like crying.

Next?

[–]depressed_poet 5ポイント6ポイント  (4子コメント)

Blown off by an old friend, don't have too many friends atm.

[–]bunnywhispersshywriter 3ポイント4ポイント  (3子コメント)

I haven't hung out with a friend in over two months.I don't really have a social life.

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I'll be your friend, bunny!

I like booze...and...booze. And I like booze.

Booooooze

[–]bunnywhispersshywriter 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

i actually haven't drank alcohol since 2002

[–]Magoo111[̲̅$̲̅(̲̅ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°̲̅)̲̅$̲̅] Get your Lennybucks here 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Ah, well then.

I'll think of something else to bond on, just give me time.