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Dear Mixed People. You are NOT half-Black. Sorry.

I just want to fill people w/ so much self love & self worth that they embrace 100% of BOTH & ALL the parts that make them a beautiful whole
— Ebrahim Aseem (@EbrahimAseem) June 19, 2015
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I’m so tired of these mixed, biracial & lie-racial women having the audacity to be labeled as “half Black” Ha! Y’all wish.
And when I took a mixed girl out on a first date, I told her just that. I met her at my niece’s dance recital. Coming off a break-up, not looking for a rebound. She was 6’1 in flats, tall-ass looking like a pretty giraffe grazing the savanna. I didn’t know whether to box her tall ass out for the rebound or ask her number. I did the latter. Her ass was fatter. Not that it matters. The most attractive thing about a woman is not a fat ass, pretty face, thick curves or slim waist. It is her resilient ability to get back up after falling, & push forward.
Not to be forward, but I asked her name, then her number. No need for game. I was enamored, not by her curvy frame. But by the pictures she allowed the brush of my intellect to paint on her canvas brain via her poetic mind. Drawn deeper the abstract thoughts she painted on mine. She was an artist. And they’re sensitive about their shit.
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Two weeks later was our first date. I planned the events. Dinner at a Haitian-fusion restaurant, Manje Ayisien, before the concert, Janelle Monáe accompanied by a live Orchestra. I orchestrated hand-holding & arm-wrapping around her waist, but before we could give our Poulet Aux Noix ak bannann peze a taste, the controversial topic of race, came charging out her mouth, slapping me in the face.
“I just love your freckles!” my date complimented.
“Thank you sweetheart,” I smiled, “my niece you saw when we first met always says my face looks like an overly ripe banana.”
“No way,” she laughed, “they’re adorable. oh my God, I used to want freckles so bad when I was growing up. I’d try to draw them on my face with mascara. So, what are you?”
“I’m Black,” I answered, assuming she was referring to my race.
“Really? Are you sure?” She asked, wearing a confused look.
“Well, both my parents are Black and all four of my grandparents are Black too,” I answered. “However, I’m blessed to have been raised in a culture where we learn our true West-African hebrew ancestry. It’s so dope. I get to teach the youngins our isi-Zulu langauge every sabbath.”
“That’s so cool you know your culture!” my date affirmed. “I wish I knew mine. I’m just mixed, but my daughter’s father is Black, so I’m always looking to get her into things that help embrace her Black culture too.
“Aren’t you Black?” I asked her.
“I’m only half Black, I’m a mixed girl, remember I told you? Honey you gotta listen,” she joked with a wink. “My mother is from the Dominican Republic and she’s half German. My dad is from Haiti and he’s Wolof, with Senegal ancestry. I like how you use the word ancestry, it’s so articulate.”
“Thank you queen,” I said with a slight smile, “but,
mixed people are NOT “half-Black”. They are Black. Fully. Period. By that I only mean, you have just as much right to embrace 100% of every culture you spring from, just as much as someone of your culture who is not mixed. Just because you spring from more than one ancestry, doesn’t make you half off it, half-Black or a fraction White. If you are biracial you are NOT half & half. You are WHOLE & WHOLE. One spirit wrapped in human clothes. The color of a diamond’s wrapping or packaging does not define its worth. You are a diamond spirit.
Your melanin makes you Black but Black is NOT a race, it is a color & a culture-substitute when you don’t know the specific country in the motherland your ancestor came from. #EbrahimAseem You don’t have to say you’re full Black, nor pick sides or choose one race to identify. No. Embrace all of you. Every racial ingredient. Just innerstand you partake in a regal ancestry & nucleus all life springs from. Melanin.
Black is a culture. Nigerian, Jamacian, Ethiopean, etc. are races & ancestries. White is a culture. French, Italian, German, etc. are races & ancestries. Know your ancestry. Define yourself. Embrace 100% of your cultures with 100% of you, not half of you.
“I needed to hear someone who’s Black tell me that,” my date confessed. “Ever since I was a little girl I was teased. Raised by a D.R. mother who identified as “White”. She didn’t know how to do my curly hair and I was always teased for being different. I was always told I was too light. Not Black enough for the Blacks. Not White enough for the Whites. My daughter is considered “too White” for her father’s family. I just don’t want my daughter to grow up feeling like she doesn’t belong the way I felt.”
“She won’t,” I reassured her. “she has you to teach her the color of her skin does not define her. Thank you for embracing all sides of your ancestry. Never slight any piece that makes up the beautiful work of art you are. #EbrahimAseem If you’re biracial. Own it. Just know you define you, not anyone else. Don’t be afraid to proclaim your own self identity. You don’t have to choose a side. Choose your spirit over your physical form.
Your race or gender does not define you. You define you. You are not a race. You are a spirit wrapped in a box. Who cares what color the box? The treasure inside counts most. Value spirit over body. You don’t have to divide yourself up to fit a category or mold. You are not in a universe, you are a universe. #EbrahimAseem No matter the matter that makes up the beautiful soul you are, you define you, no one else.
You dont have to say you're full Black or pick sides. Just innerstand u partake in a regal ancestry & nucleus all life springs from #Melanin
— Ebrahim Aseem (@EbrahimAseem) June 19, 2015
I’ve been mentoring since 9th grade. In my first week as a youth mentor, a self-proclaimed mixed Black girl wanted to commit suicide, because she had self-identity issues. I stopped her from jumping off the roof of the middle school. That’s when I realized I was blessed with the gift to speak life into genuine souls.
Black is not a country. Black is a culture. You can be “half Nigerian” or “Half German” as both are countries, but you can’t be half a culture. You are 100% of ALL your cultures. Embrace each one of your cultures with 100% self love. #EbrahimAseem
All those with melanin & African ancestry share the Black culture. No one has a monopoly on Black culture just, because they’re darker, lighter, or more “hood”.
You’re called Black, because they don’t want you to know The Moors, who conquored Rome, are your ancestors. The Queens & Kings who ruled Kmt. before he was renamed “Eygpt”, are your ancestors. The Olmec who ruled in the Americas centuries before Christopher Columbus ever steped foot there, are your ancestors. #EbrahimAseem The spiritually ascended, divinely favored Hebrews are your ancestors. They ruled the motherland before it was renamed after a Roman General Scorpio Africanus, who massacred women, men & children in Cartigage, for having Melanin. You can label a beautiful flower Black, but it will still grow from concrete, though it’s called by another name, it is still just as sweet.
Embrace every beautiful part of the make-up of u that makes u art. You are a gumbo. I want to taste every flavor & savor the substance u are
— Ebrahim Aseem (@EbrahimAseem) June 19, 2015
We ate our Haitian cuisine, snapped a picture of us hugged up together and made our way to the concert. I posted the picture of us on my Facebook, with the caption,
“Men, let’s start taking these loyal women OUT on a planned, paid for date, not just into your bed for sex & Netflix. What makes us a MAN isn’t giving our attention the 100s of pretty girls we see, or to InstaModels in our DM. No, it’s giving ALL of our attention to that sweet, caring, intelligent woman once she shows she DESERVES it. #EbrahimAseem
Being a single man does not mean sleep with every girl in your phone. Let’s kill that double standard. I am abstinent while single, because my mother raised a king, not a hoe. Let’s stop using “talking” as an excuse to sleep with every girl on Instagram. #EbrahimAseem
Do not “talk” to a loyal woman. Talking is for teens. It goes, Date her. Court her. Commit to her. Propose to her. Kings, take the virtuous woman who has a crush on you out this week! It is NOT “trickin” & you’re not “buying” her time. No. You are showing her you’re WORTH her time & not wasting it. #EbrahimAseem “
Just five minutes after posting the picture, there were 50+ comments. Mostly race related.
One beautiful brown skinned Black girl, let’s call her ‘Jamila’ inboxed me saying: “I am definitely NOT against interracial dating, as I have dated outside of my race as well. However, I don’t know why I thought when you finally did begin going on dates or seeing someone, it would be with a black woman. No hate on your date, glad you enjoyed yourself. Just wish more spiritual black men such as yourself invested their knowledge and time in a black woman. Just my thoughts.”
Confused, I messaged her back, saying: “Idk what you consider “black” but to me black means someone who has parents and/or grandparents who are of African decent.”
Jamila: “It appears we have different ideas of what black is. African-American or just simply African is my definition of “black”. It wasn’t my intention to offend you.”
Ebrahim: “Not that it matters, but my date’s father is African, from Africa. During slavery & Jim Crow times, all of us were considered black niggers, no matter how dark or light. It’s sad now that we are free we judge each other for not being “black enough”. None of us are full “African” which is why the term black is referred to in the “one drop rule.
Jamila: “But as you stated, “black” to you is having ancestors of African decent. If this is the case. Practically 85% of the world today is black.”
Ebrahim: “Exactly. Dominicans are Black. Conquerors from Spain force feed the African slave their Spanish language. Haitians are Black. Conquerors from France force feed the African slaves their French language. The Dominican Republic government has historic racism & xenophobia towards darker-skinned Haitians, whom they create laws to deport, despite the fact both Dominicans’ & Haitians’ ancestors descend from Africa.”
It's 2015 and they have straight up concentration camps set up for Black ppl in the #DominicanRepublic right now as we speak.
— Tariq Nasheed (@tariqnasheed) June 16, 2015
Africa is earth’s nucleus. Black is just a term used and created by Euro-conquerors to refer to anyone who has African blood in them, because historically they’d disown their own white family who’d slept with an African. Black is not a race nor an ethnicity. Africa is not a race, it is a continent. Chinese is an ethnicity. Greek is an ethnicity. Ethiopian is an ethnicity. All have their own countries. Black is a culture. Black doesn’t mean “dark”, it means, “child of melanin who exudes light.” – Ebrahim Aseem Darkness is the most powerful, feared light. We are the light of this world. Most emulated. Never duplicated. Out of eternal Blackness, let there be light.
Jamila: “I am in total agreement with everything you’re saying. However, race is one thing. Culture is another. From my experience, Latin or Hispanics (whichever you prefer) do not date outside of their race or culture. You probably are received better with families because you don’t look like the “typical black man” even though you have that sexy deep voice that sounds like a dark skin man ;) lol. Now This may be too forward, inappropriate or not good timing, but I would like to know if you would be interested in possibly going out sometime….”
Once I saw here angle was to holla at me, I stopped reading her message.
Race, transrace, gender, transgender & religion fueled events are being orchestrated to distract our mental ascension & attention against the current attack against all American civilians’ minds. They want us to be their drones. Wake up. Work 9-5. Eat. Sleep. Repeat. That’s not living. They give us money and steal our time. Time we could spend elevating our mind. Realize you are one of a kind. No race is better than another one. Because there is none greater than the spirit you are under the sun. #EbrahimAseem
I feel u have the right to identify your SELF as whatever the funk u want & I have the right not to give a funk, while supporting your right
— Ebrahim Aseem (@EbrahimAseem) June 19, 2015
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#DylanRoof before his massacre, "You rape our women. You're taking over our country. You have to go." Said he was there "to shoot Black ppl"
— Ebrahim Aseem (@EbrahimAseem) June 19, 2015
Stop using the "it's not about race" deflection. When u go to a church and say "I'm here to shoot Black people",it's about race #Charleston
— Tariq Nasheed (@tariqnasheed) June 18, 2015
This White man planned a hate massacre & police strapped on a bullet proof vest to protect him. But Black men, police shoot dead in the street, & neglect him. #EbrahimAseem
Oscar Grant & Michael Brown were shot dead before being taken into custody. Labelled thugs. Dylan Roof will be excused as “mentally ill” showered with love.
Some media outlets are referring to #DylannRoof as a "child" So 12 Y/o Tamir Rice =Man 17 y/o Trayvon Martin =Man 21 y/o Dylann Roof =Child
— Tariq Nasheed (@tariqnasheed) June 18, 2015
Another Black church was shot at in Memphis early this morning. So two church shootings on the same day in two different cities #Charleston
— Tariq Nasheed (@tariqnasheed) June 18, 2015
They train killers. Assign them a target. Apprehend them alive. Get them aquited as mentally ill. All to get gun laws passed on Capital Hill
— Ebrahim Aseem (@EbrahimAseem) June 18, 2015
Race is a label created by man to divide us, so we won’t see all our similarities of the spirits inside us. Your ancestry is the history of your culture. Like Italian food. French decor. West African Art. European folklore. Yet, that is only the history of our genes. By all means, we are not our physical form. We are the spirit wrapped inside, like a treasure gift wrapped inside a box. Treasure your self. Know your worth. Do not appraise the value of another. Exude light, peace & love.
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I’ve been a youth mentor for young men for 10 years, teaching them how to uplift & respect women & be men of confidence & valor. I make songs uplifting women. I speak isiZulu & English. I do motivational speaks at universities & private corporations worldwide. I am omw to do a motivational speak to a group of teen mother rape survivors at a wayward house.
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My mother raised a future husband 👉🏾💍👰🏾 not a future baby daddy. I am so tired of “talking”. Being in a relationship where the sex is so damn good, but there’s no growth or courtship is a waste to me. #EbrahimAseem I see your fine ass has curves, but are you nurturing? Kind? Patient? Spiritual? Goofy? Good with children? Finances? Home decor? I don’t date for a hobby. If we aren’t planning for forever I have no interest. What are your passions? Goals? Can WE stimulate each others spirit? Can WE align each others chakras? Can WE activate each others pineal gland? I don't care if you can twerk 💃🏾 or back that ass up 😒 Can we dine on each other's frequency as you digest knowledge my food for thought feeds your mind? What type of mother will you be? Where do you want to raise a family? Let’s stop asking these women for pics, ask if she’s a WIFE. Men let's behave loyal to our self worth before we even say I do. #EbrahimAseem I can imagine being married. Having children, spending time with them, Playing with them & making them laugh, teaching them about life, instilling confidence & self worth before giving them piggyback rides. Having a wife, spoiling her with love and attention, Being goofy with her, making her laugh & smile every second I spend with her. Providing for my family. #EbrahimAseem I honestly pray I have all this before my moms gets too old to enjoy a daughter-in-law & grandchildren. Everytime I see my moms, she talks about wanting grandchildren & saying she raised me to be a husband. Because I was raised by a queen, I know for sure, I am not looking for a girlfriend to date, I am looking for a wife to court, marry & raise children with. #EbrahimAseem Instagram: @Fuel4TheBODY #Excerpt from #WhyNoManShouldDATEaSingleMother #MARRYher 💍👰🏾 #OrDontWasteHerTime👉 RealNewsPaper.me
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Never allow a woman to go to sleep feeling unappreciated, like she's wasting her time. Men, we have to stop making the women in our life feel they must suffer in silence, because our priorities are mixed up. Don't always correct her. Hear her. #EbrahimAseem Innerstand how HARD it is for your woman, daughter, sister or mother to hop on her phone after a long day working, chafing her ambitions & fighting to hold her life together & see her life outlined in words, posts, memes & videos online, hoping one day you take the damn hint and GIVE to her your time & effort, acknowledging all she gives. #EbrahimAseem She shouldn't have to be on her phone, searching for quotes online to express how she's so tired of you making her feel she's being over-emotional, crazy, having an attitude, nagging or asking too much whe she expresses her feelings to you. Fight for her. #EbrahimAseem You don't know how hard she's fighting not to give up on her whole life right now. Listen. Understand her. And I know this, because I have sisters, primas & nieces who are so selfless, sweet & giving, & they all deserve our time & effort without them even having to ask us. Put down your phone bro. Stop liking pics of girls on Instagram & reach out to the woman in your life right now. Adore her. Reassure her you care how she feels deep inside. Shower her with love until she becomes it. #EbrahimAseem Ladies, if he cared, he call or come see you. Stop being more loyal to his potential than you are to your own damn standards. 😯😮 #EbrahimAseem
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I am a chef, writer & motivational speaker. I've been a youth mentor for young Black men for 10 years & I'm currently shopping my first book, "Why Men Cheat on Loyal Women"

13 Responses to Dear Mixed People. You are NOT half-Black. Sorry.

  1. Susie says:
    Shea Butter is super dope!!!! Wonderful idea…And I learned A few things about Moors…thank you.
  2. MzHope says:
    Here I sit. Tears streaming down my face. Man among boys and men, how did I arrive at this place? “This place??”, you ask. “This page!”, I exclaim! Never making your acquaintance still you are brother just the same. The words you extol… Gilead balm for my hurting soul. Thank you for touching upon many things. Thank you for the uplifting that knowledge of the true self brings!
  3. smntks says:
    Word. How can a whole person be half anything! Just more mind control. Black is black.
  4. Vern Trent says:
    One more comment about race and intra-racial discrimination. Just read up on the history of the island of Hispaniola that is split into 2 countries Haiti and the Dominican Republic with the Haitians being mostly dark and of African/French/Native descent and many of the Dominicans being mixed but of African/Spanish/Native descent. Then look at what is currently happening there. It’s a very good example of racism on an island with an artificial boundary.
  5. Love this read.. Appreciate all the responses and I even received better #innerstanding myself from this mind opening dialogue..
  6. Leah Vasquez says:
    Yes. Well written, I totally agree with this. I am a melting pot with a Puertrican father and a Jamaican mother who her self is comes from a melting pot of ancestry. This is beautiful.
  7. Kali Anj says:
    Blessings…. All beautiful words
  8. emiridbest says:
    just be yourself at All times. people should be judge by their content and not their body containers. great post.
  9. i just want to say thank you! This was not only an educational piece to read it was motivational. I read this entire piece from beginning to end and im encouraged. I often tell people life is short you will have negatives but learn how to change them into positives then you learn to live and live in the fullness. Encouragement is good for the soul there are still Kings and Queens in the world prayer and guidance will lead you to the right person not when you expect it but in due time, never stop or give up just keep the faith and don’t compromise! The true test of life is the willingness to LEARN! Knowledge is essential in every aspect of learning and living!
  10. Jesse Duran says:
    As a father of children with two distinct ancestories I have made it an imperative to help them embrace thier cultures. Never to choose a side for convenience, to be proud of everything they our. To combat the ignorance of people trying to figure them out they have called themselves “Afro-Latino” and are quick to educate anyone who tries to come at them sideways. The deal is as a parent I found it my moral responsibility to arm them with knowledge, to educate myself on aspects of thier culture that I did not know and to raise them to be proud of thier uniqueness.
  11. Rita says:
    Thanks young Man…I may not agree with everything you’ve said..but you have given our young men a diagram for monolog…
  12. zonabell says:
    Yes accept who you are not how people percieve you maybe. I am fair skined person with mixed heritage. Mum who is English Dad who is Nigerian. I stand out on both sides. So what the heck. Being bieracial can have its difficties too. Thank you for acceptance
  13. Prettig3rl says:
    My apologies this is well written article my response was based off someone who shared this article but made it seem a whole different way my apologies great article

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