not a feminist: ugh muslim women shouldn't be able to use hijabs/veils etc. because opression!
feminist: if a muslim woman chooses to wear a hijab/veil, that's great, but if she's not given a choice by her society, it's oppression.
not a feminist: ugh don't shave your legs, wear makeup, or wear revealing clothing because opression!
feminist: if you choose to shave your legs, wear makeup, or wear revealing clothing, thats great, but if you're forced to by society's expectations, that's oppression.
not a feminist: ugh you're a piece of scum go get a career and stop being a housewife because oppression!
feminist: if you choose to be a housewife and look after your family, that's great, but if you're being forced to, that's not okay- that's oppression.
not a feminist: ugh go and have sex with people you virgin because oppression.
feminist: if you don't want to have sex, go ahead, that's great, but if you're forced into it, that's oppression.