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[–]Endorsed ContributorTheRedPilsner 16ポイント17ポイント  (8子コメント)

He takes a lot more trouble over his appearance, whether that means dressing better, a sudden heavy use of aftershave, or an infatuation with the gym and lifting weights.

The implication that married people are supposed to let themselves go is incredibly depressing. And to think people wonder why marriage rates are at an all-time low and dropping.

[–]thredditsowaway 6ポイント7ポイント  (2子コメント)

Great observation. Even totally single people are guilty of this. I don't see how it's acceptable to be any less than 100% presentable while out of the house unless you're at the gym or working a manual job. In fact, people are shamed for "overdoing it." Crabs in a bucket, etc.

[–]TheJessee 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

Pretty much, i don't tell people i go to the gym but it's pretty obvious with my physique so if they ask i'll just tell them, and then they are more inclined to throw me a "does that come with a protein shake" when i'm eating a healthy meal before they'd joke to the fat guy eating junk food, you know you're doing well when people start mocking you for it, it's pretty much the best validation you can get, because the main reason people mock/hate on you is because they ain't you, and i didn't believe that either until i became that person

[–]NimbleStorm 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

They hate us cuz they ain't us

[–]Linrraba 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

For years, I thought the whole point of marrying was letting yourself go. You know, not having to worry about impressing women, seducing and so on. Most people are raised that way.

[–]truchisoft 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

No, but the article is spot on, any married guy who suddenly changes like that, and is not particulary driven to keep the marriage is doing it because he is cheating, I know lots of cases like this.

If you never let yourself go, this article is useless, if you always go out with friends then going out with friends is nothing to worry about, but if you change your netflix weekends for "fishing trips" with friends you never used to frecuent before, it is a red flag.

[–]BadassRPMofo 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

That's the point. There's no better way to instill dread than doing exactly that. This particularly applies to those who are beta slipping in a LTR. It doesn't have a be a drastic wholesale change, because even the slightest changes in behavior (soft dread) are picked up immediately.

[–]truchisoft 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

We are discussing two different points.

I argue there is truth in the article, any male that suddenly starts doing everything in the article is almost certainly cheating or will cheat/leave his girl.

[–]_eskimo_brothers_ 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Or ya know, the AFC woke up and is bettering himself, not being a selfless shell of a man anymore. He's practicing self love, because he's not getting affection or charm anymore.

Obviously it's rare for BP men to internalize these things without the RP, but it does happen. OP is spot on, might not always be cheating, if you want a successful LTR of any kind you have to understand and use dread.

[–]Sember 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

"Woman changes man into someone she is no longer interested in."

I think many women do this and it leads to skewed world views, once a man decides to be himself and do good for himself, he's cheating, who the fuck knows if a man is cheating cause he's going on fishing trips all of a sudden, or started taking care of himself, maybe he wasn't happy with his life and is trying to get his shit together.

[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

We call it betafication; when your girl tries to bitch you up because she's insecure she'll lose you at your current value. Then when she sabotages you, she doesn't you for herself anymore either. It's a glitch in hypergamy.

[–]Johnny10toes 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

There are a couple of things that I am bad at in here. Things that are not me but a reprogramming over a long time. One I use to be a huge flirt. I have a hard time with the dial on that one. It's 11 or 0. I know it's a fear that if I turn it on I'll wind up cheating and need to start doing it again. But without going to 11.

The second thing is friends. I'm not incapable of making friends, I just don't take the time. The guys I use to run with back in the day wouldn't make good friends now, I'm in a different place. Some are still into drugs and shit like that.

So I'm not really bad at them as much as I am good at it but don't do it.

[–]GainzdalfTheWhey 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Wow this article is so bad that its good. It's textbook female crazy in mainstream.

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