My TL;DR = career beta, married an 800lb hamster.

Two fridays ago, my wife was OTR but I had scheduled a "date night" to reward her for a couple nights of sex. When date night came, I planned to watch a TV show with her I knew she liked and to play some darts in the basement with her (an activity we enjoyed together before kids). She comes down at the appointed time and when I get her settled in to watch and she learns what it is she starts to complain - "I already know who wins" (she hadn't seen the show, just read about the ending). I A&A and redirect but the complaints keep coming and she says "If I have to watch something, I'd rather it be something else" but she doesn't name the something else. To which I reply "That's cool, I'm not trying to force you to watch something, we can try again another night." And then I proceed to leave the house and run some errands. She of course loses her mind and this initiates a week-long effort on her part to be mad at me. I never step into her frame, ignore, A&A and AM everything I can. About 4 days into it I decide I will make an attempt to end things, but it doesn't work. Finally 7 days into this I decide I will try non stop to end it, and I start teasing, touching, acting like absolutely nothing is wrong etc... After doing this Friday I can see Saturday I am beginning to crack her. Finally Sunday comes and major shit tests get thrown my way, and I fog and negatively assert for 2 hours straight. I never once step out of my frame and she is now lovey-dovey and I think sexy times are imminent when my kids who had been complaining of a sore throat spike 104 fevers, get sores in their throats, and she gets the same thing but no fever . I'm up until 2 am with her dealing with puking kids and alternating advil with tylenol. I did continue to make sexual advances since she wasn't acting very "sick", including a hard push last night but was denied. I acted like it was no big deal and rolled over and went to sleep.

Tomorrow will begin her ovulation phase.

If she is really sick, I feel like it would be being a dick, not an alpha, to continue to push for sex. Assuming you agree, do I also withdraw my availability due to being denied, or do I give this a pass and act like nothing happened due to the illness? I am inclined to give it a pass however I still feel so fucked up from being plugged in my whole life that I can't tell the difference between being reasonable vs being beta and being an alpha vs being a dick.

I have lost 19 lbs in the last 5 weeks, but I am still overweight so part of me wonders if her sore throat (which may be real) is just a "headache" since she is not yet physically excited by my body.

Other than the above and this huge fucking hamster I feel fantastic that I stayed in my reality and didn't enter hers for what has essentially been 10 days of harpy shrew madness.

Thanks guys!