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/r/RedPillNonMonogamy is here (self.marriedredpill)

RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED が 投稿

By popular demand, I give you /r/RedPillNonMonogamy!

Edit: If you have no interest in non-monogamous relationships, please move along. No one is forcing you to join or even approve of this. Or feel free to talk shit in this thread, or go over to the RPNM sub and downvote everything. Seriously, get it out of your system. No hard feelings.

In the time I've been here in MRP, I've had dozens of people messaging me or replying to my posts and comments, asking about my open marriage, how they can open theirs up, or just wanting to compare notes on their own open/poly marriages. So here it is, the place to ask questions, post theories, field reports, advice on how to game women while being married, etc.

Note: If you are just now unplugging in your marriage, or are stuck in a deadbedroom and haven't followed the 12 levels of dread in order, then this is not the place for you. RPNM is intended for an "advanced" red pill audience. I.e., if you don't know what I mean about the 12 levels of dread, please stay here on MRP and keep following the sidebar material.

Also, I'm looking for moderators, so any well established TRP/MRP contributors are welcome to PM me or send modmail to the sub.

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[–]TrainingTheBrainMarried- MRP APPROVED 3ポイント4ポイント  (17子コメント)

"advanced"

Do you consider an open marriage 'advanced' Red Pill or just a personal choice?

When you say "dozens" do you literally mean that? I could never share my wife nor could I fuck other woman and stay married.

Obviously that's my personal choice, but redpillnonmonogamy..good luck.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR 4ポイント5ポイント  (1子コメント)

He started this in part at my urging so we can upload most discussions of non-monogamy to another sub dedicated to that concept.

I guess there you have one of your first posting guidelines- no MRP monogamy concern trolling :)

[–]TrainingTheBrainMarried- MRP APPROVED 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm not concerned about shit, I was just curious to the lifestyle.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (14子コメント)

I'm not saying you need to open up your relationship to "level up" your red pill. What I mean is, I don't recommend trying to open up your relationship, if that's what you want, until you have thoroughly swallowed and applied TRP in to your existing relationship. I.e., I don't want to give new guys the impression that they can just jump right in to having "the talk" with the Mrs just because they've read a couple of posts on here. Probably wouldn't go over well.

[–]TrainingTheBrainMarried- MRP APPROVED 1ポイント2ポイント  (13子コメント)

This is just my curiosity,

Do you fuck other woman and she fucks other dudes, or is it like a one sided thing? Or more like 3 ways where you both fuck other people together?

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (12子コメント)

We both fuck other people.

[–]TrainingTheBrainMarried- MRP APPROVED 4ポイント5ポイント  (5子コメント)

Dude, obviously to each their own & Alphas walk their own path and what not, but there's no way I could do that.

[–]restatic 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

You can't go into open relationships without a massive amount of RESPECT, trust, confidence, communication, honesty and support...and an almost complete lack of jealousy/control issues. It's a very difficult thing to navigate, and it's not for everyone...but once you can, it's actually a very mature way to have a fulfilling life. People aren't possessions. They're not in your life to be yours alone, and you're not in their life to be theirs alone. This is key. It takes a lot to get there, but it's possible, and it can be positive. It's damn hard though, and if you have problems as is...then it's probably not for you.

[–]TrainingTheBrainMarried- MRP APPROVED 3ポイント4ポイント  (3子コメント)

People aren't possessions.

I'd disagree, isn't Marriage binding one to another? It may sound harsh, but aren't you each other's possession when you're married?

I have absolutely no issue with /u/RPSigmaStigma having an open marriage, we all do our own thing and his choices don't affect me at all.

It's damn hard though, and if you have problems as is...then it's probably not for you.

This sounds pretentious as fuck. As if you're saying open marriages are only for the 'big boys'.

I don't want an open marriage just like I don't want to be in a gay marriage or a polygamous marriage.

I like the whole 1 dude 1 chick, that's me. It's neither better nor worse easier nor more difficult.

[–]restatic 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm not really sure how marriage works, technically. I always thought it was something you did before God...for Him. I've never even thought of marriage as something you'd do to take possession of someone, but I can see that point.

I also see your point about my comment being taken as pretentious. I wasn't trying to be. I'm also not saying it's better. It's just different, and very difficult...if you're in a relationship that's not already rock-solid. It takes a LOT of love/trust/respect to make open relationships work, and it just seems like a lot of the people here aren't really in those relationships...or that they've had to work hard at them. Polyamory isn't TRP on impossble mode, but it's pretty damn close...especially in FMF relationships, because there's so much drama and emotion involved (if you think PMS sucks, wait until both your partners synch up). It's not for the elite, it's just for a certain type of person who is capable of letting things go that maybe not everyone here would suggest letting go of. You really do have to be secure in your own happiness, to let your partner find theirs with someone else. It's hard to not go to some dark places, but it's important to be strong enough...and trust your partner enough...to avoid them.

Not trying to be pretentious though...sorry about that. To each their own.
Nothing is "wrong" or "right", "worse" or "better".

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[–]EnphuegoMarried 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

As if you're saying open marriages are only for the 'big boys'

Well if your SMV sucks, your wife is going to be able to pull all the dick she wants while you'll have a hard time finding a woman. Most women are chasing the commitment and you've obviously got none of that to offer. Plus, they could go fuck someone hotter if they just want dick. I've seen it in action and it can be difficult for the relationship.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 0ポイント1ポイント  (5子コメント)

I just subscribed to RPNM, then unsubscribed straightaway after reading this.

I dream of things being the way they were in the good old days. When men can have several concubines, and a loving wife at home.

Not where men have to share their women. That's just ass backwards and should not carry the TRP label if you ask me.

Create a sub with one sided polygamy that favors the male then get back to me.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

Not that I have any interest in catering to your demands, but one-sided polygamy is more than welcome in RPNM without "sharing" your wife. I promise, we won't make you.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

LOL, your first division in RPNM.

The one-sided polygamy people are on my team and it seems that should be the default Red Pill Non-monogamy solution- i.e., RP is male sexual strategy so that means the goal of having a harem with a faithful primary? Hmmm, I wonder what RPW's think of this (although I doubt you will have much participation from them :):)

I do think you will have to screen this very carefully to weed out the uber-Beta guys who are willing to let their wives fuck around or this will turn to blue puke just like the other poly blogs.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

Oh I completely agree. In fact, that's exactly why I started this sub, because 90% of the poly/open blogs are completely blue pill bullshit. Also, that's exactly why I have been very clear in the fact that you need to be sort of "advanced" red pill for this to work. I.e., you need to have upped you SMV/RMV to the point that you can actually get other women. As I've stated elsewhere before, the more RP I become, the less interest my wife has in even considering other guys, and the more she's ok with me fucking other girls. I actually plan on writing up a "plan" on RPNM that tracks closely with your 12 levels of dread, in tandem with Heartiste's post about how alpha-ness is directly related to how much your woman will tolerate you fucking other women.

Edit: Also, I have absolutely no interest in RedPillHamster's participation. In fact, I fully anticipate someone posting my sub on there and getting an influx of angry hamsters that I'll have to ban. :P

[–]_wingnut_RPW MODERATOR -2ポイント-1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Why would any of us give a fuck about your loser cuck sub? Lol you're not our husbands

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

you're not our husbands

Thank the gods!

[–]druganswerUnplugging 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

If your wife is decently attractive and / or under 30 this sounds a lot like redpillgetcuckolded or redpillstickyourdickinanothermanscreampie... because for every female you fuck your wife can fuck 100 guys

[–]somethingofvalue -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yep. Not sure why you were downvoted. Nothing wrong with unicorn chasing (MFF) but swinging basically means watching your wife get pumped, and polyamory is a joke.

[–]redpill-hardmodeMarried- MRP APPROVED 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

There are a few guys here following that path.

Unfortunately it's not voluntarily.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 1ポイント2ポイント  (11子コメント)

I don't mean to troll this thread or to disrespect anybody, but RPNM strikes me as heresy and a slap in the face to everything RP stands for.

It was said once that MRP is only a subset of RP as we stand for the same principles. With this in mind, could you imagine how some shit like this would be received in the main sub? Are we cool with letting other dudes rail our wives given the hypergamous nature of women?

Isn't this the very thing the feminists are fighting to achieve? Should we even be endorsing this shit here on MRP?

If I'm out of line here, please let me know.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

Are we cool with letting other dudes rail our wives given the hypergamous nature of women?

No, I am not and that is why I thought discussions like this can be offloaded to guys who are doing this type of thing.

To me it is a little bit like wife beating...I don't agree with it, but I understand it.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Look. Let them have their sub. Let them name it RedPillCuckold if they want. But do we have to endorse that shit here?

[–]Ryanami 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Who's endorsing it? Most, but not all people here are monogamous, so instead of keeping their cuckold fetish (favorite comment ever) here let them concentrate into their own camp so we can have our RP master race here. Putting it on the sidebar isn't an endorsement, it's the exit door.

Also, presumably their sub will will have much more men seeking harems than bulls, which sounds more "true" RP IMO.

Would you rather they stay here?

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 3ポイント4ポイント  (7子コメント)

RPNM strikes me as heresy and a slap in the face to everything RP stands for.

RP is amoral and descriptive, not prescriptive. The red pill describes the reality of female psychology, gender relationships, the state of modern western culture, etc. Nothing about TRP says anything about what you "should" or "shouldn't" do.

RPNM strikes me as heresy and a slap in the face to everything RP stands for.

Who gives a shit?

Are we cool with letting other dudes rail our wives given the hypergamous nature of women?

Who is this "we" you're talking about? I'm cool with it. If you aren't, that's cool too. That's why I set up a separate sub for it. Don't like the idea of non-monogamy? Cool, you have the rest of MRP just for monogamy, and you're welcome to stay right here. No one is making you do anything.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

Just to be clear. I have nothing against your sub. There are far worse our there. But I do take issue with your post here supporting the sub. Doesn't seem like it belongs in a TRP related sub.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Your objections are duly noted.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR -2ポイント-1ポイント  (4子コメント)

Explain why we should not put it on the side-bar in order to avoid non-monogamy conversations, advice, and suggestions on MRP.

I admit some of this sickens me (thus my attempt to offload this on our brother Stigma) but it has been a legitimate lifestyle since the beginning of time and in many cultures throughout human history.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

Explain why we should not put it on the side-bar in order to avoid non-monogamy conversations, advice, and suggestions on MRP.

Putting it on the sidebar would suggest an endorsement of cuckoldry.

I admit some of this sickens me (thus my attempt to offload this on our brother Stigma) but it has been a legitimate lifestyle since the beginning of time and in many cultures throughout human history.

Cuckoldry has also been a 'legitimate' lifestyle in many cultures throughout human history. I guess it depends on how you define legitimate

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

I honestly don't care if you put something like "and for you sicko cuck fags, you can GTFO to /r/RedPillNonMonogamy" in the sidebar. If that makes you feel better about it, that is... Or don't put anything in the sidebar. shrug

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

No sidebar mention would be best. Sicko cuck fags is a close second.

Geez. RP men endorsing and encouraging cuckoldry. Someone please restore my faith in this sub.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

No faith. This sub is over. What are you going to do with your life now?

[–]Terminal-Psychosis 1ポイント2ポイント  (10子コメント)

There are other places to talk about this type of relationship.

In my eyes, this is going WAY off the teachings from the main site, and cannot be affiliated.

Please do not call it red-anything.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Wow. I thought I was the only dissenting view here. Good to see someone else sees the lunacy of this new sub.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (8子コメント)

I was thinking about calling it Terminal-Psychosis-RedCuckoldry. Is that ok?

Seriously, what's with all the people coming in here to announce their disapproval? No one is making anyone join the sub. Don't want non-monogamy? Cool, keep scrolling. I seriously don't get it.

[–]Terminal-Psychosis 1ポイント2ポイント  (7子コメント)

What's with you trying to promote your private subreddit on a sub that has NOTHING to do with what you're trying to preach? Let alone trying to affiliate it with anything redpill...

There are other places for your ideas already. Anyone into it would be better off going to them in the first place.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (6子コメント)

First off, /u/BluepillProfessor encouraged me to make my own sub for open marriage discussions because he didn't want it to take place here. I'm posting about it here just so the guys on MRP can know where to take their non-monogamy posts. So, if anything, I'm doing you a favor by letting those guys know where they can go so you don't have to see it.

Secondly, 90% of the non-monogamy sites on the net are complete blue pill bullshit. RPNM is for men who believe in red pill theory, apply red pill style LTR game, etc, but who want a non-monogamous relationship. Why is this so offensive to you? Just downvote my post and move on.

[–]druganswerUnplugging 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Last post for me in this thread but I think the only way to be your wife's alpha while she gets trains run on her down on the block is if you get a portion of the proceeds. Again, sorry for the thread crap but that's why people are so against this post being here.

If you're a 10 and your wife is a 4 and you just want to SLAY pussy but you really have that emotional connection with the wife then sure, this may be RP...

[–]Terminal-Psychosis 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Non-monogamy posts probably don't belong in MARRIEDredpill. Some of us want to keep our chosen mates, in a redpill way.

I think it is a huge mistake to call it anything like redpill from the start. You are basically talking about having one main plate. (nothing wrong with THAT, but call it what it is.)

Whatever man, do yer thing. Much rather give you an actual opinion than just some random anonymous downvote.

I'll stop replying now. Nuff said.

[–]ruse_of_metacarpiUnplugging 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

RPNM is for men who believe in red pill theory

You sure about that?

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (2子コメント)

You're probably right. I'm probably confused.

[–]alphabeta49 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm in the middle of WISNIFG. Good one.

[–]RPSigmaStigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

;)