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[–]lebanesetraveller 4ポイント5ポイント  (2子コメント)

No burritos? Is that like no Latinos/Mexicans?

[–]DreadfulDread 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yes, or was that a rhetorical question...

[–]lebanesetraveller 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I didn't know for certain mate. Thanks for clearing it up for me

[–]marhigh 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

Part of me gets it, I can totally see why people would say they are attracted to or not attracted to a variety of things, race included.

The issue I think we have is that the gay community as a whole has this can do no wrong mentality when it comes to how it treats other minorities while systematically fetishizing them, we've also collectively allowed and done a good job of creating this ideal gay man that the further you're away from in race, body type, status, social standing etc the less value you're given in the community.

If you realize the problem it's important to be a part of the solution I don't care if you don't date black guys, asians, latinos etc for whatever reason, but we should all care when we have members that purposely or unintentionally allow their race, body type, status or social standing to stand on a pedestal and invalidate the existence of millions of people sexually and romantically because they "just don't do it" for them.

[–]Peer_Pressure-er 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

I look at it this way, i can't help who i find attractive. Now am i going to go out of my way to be a dick to black guys or put that shit in my profile? No, and i don't think that makes me racist either

[–]jpw5x4 14ポイント15ポイント  (12子コメント)

Ugh, do we have to have this same debate every single day?

[–]DreadfulDread 5ポイント6ポイント  (5子コメント)

I've seen multiple debates about this subject, I've never seen a definite conclusion though...

Or perhaps I've just never been content with the answer?

[–]jpw5x4 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Probably the latter. It's far too subjective a subject to ever be conclusively solved.

[–]somekook 7ポイント8ポイント  (1子コメント)

Let's just hash it all out.

Yes, it's kinda racist to have racial preferences for dating, but whatever: everyone's a little bit racist and you're not a bad person for not being attracted to certain people.

Just don't be that asshole who puts his racism out there for everyone to see. It's a bad look.

[–]_Norm_ 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I like how OP phrased the question. More why do you think what you think and less what do you think. Usually people stop at "it's just a preference" and leave it at that. "Something about facial structure idk"

[–]collegethrowaway_94 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think I gave a pretty well-considered answer. I'm curious to hear what you think, it's posted above.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Well I never been to this area of reddit. I've just wanted to know why people have such hang ups... well gay men in particular. I see it sometimes with straights and lesbian, but its NEVER as rampant as here. Some comments have said they don't see it... but I don't know if they never paid attention to it or not.

[–]BlkManX 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

For someone who's tired of this topic you constantly have to comment about it, what is it about having conversations on race that bothers you so much? Are people making comments that are hitting to close for comfort, comments that reflect feeling you may have but are afraid of owning up to?

[–]BestViktorEUW 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

It's an annoying and pointless topic that pollutes this subreddit.

[–]BlkManX 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

It's a topic you're afraid to address that's why you think it's annoying.

[–]BestViktorEUW 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

But why would I even be afraid to address it? O_o

I really don't understand your point of view.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

He has a point. No one MADE you reply. You could have easily just glossed over this topic and move on to the next. If you have some issues, its not a sign of weakness to want to hash it out.

[–]bifapaway 3ポイント4ポイント  (5子コメント)

I don't exclude any race a priori, but people from some races/countries are less frequently close to my "type" . Very simple explanation.

[–]BlkManX 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

What experiences have you had with said people that has drawn you to the conclusion they don't fit the type your attracted? From what understand of them are you working from if you've not had interactions with them, if you have had interaction with them the question them becomes what is it about them racially or socially that makes them not your type and wouldn't that reason be based around racism or classism......I don't think the explanation is as simple as you what to believe it is.

[–]bifapaway 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

I was talking purely about physical appearance. Although my type is far from rigid, sexual attraction is essential for me in a relationship. Generally it is very rare for me to see a black guy and think "I would like to have sex with him". I can acknowledge that he is attractive, but usually he is not my type. The problem is that black guys tend to have more masculine traits, while I like boyish guys. This is, I repeat, a frequency statement and doesn't mean that there are no sexy black guys. Last week I saw at a bar and saw a hot black twink; I would have fucked him there on the counter :)

[–]BlkManX 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Boyish traits can be found in men of all races, why is it that dude has to be a "hot black twink" and not just a "twink"? You claim not to be racist but you just proved you are, when you see a persons color first and judge them from there that's racism, is it that hard to understand. It's not about sex and no one is trying to force you to find Men of Color hot or attractive and don't think you're doing us any favors if you do because you're not. Who you're attracted to isn't the issue it's the reason why you say you're not attracted to MOC that you need to examine.

[–]bifapaway 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

If we want to talk about stuff beyond sexual attraction, I can go into cultural differences.

No matter what, I can rarely relate to black guys. The majority just lives outside my social circles and has different interests. Indeed, ALL my black friends are first or second generation African immigrants.

Instead there are many Asians in my social circles and I find Latinos culturally not very far from me as an European.

[–]Justsomeposter 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

I would think it has to be a mix as a whole, and vary by individual right? Some people say no [race] because they are genuinely racist. Some say no [race] because they have literally never seen a person of that race they've considered attractive, and are (I would say unwisely) generalizing to the population as a whole. To me their profiles say "I would rather say something that could hurt people's feelings rather than have to spend an extra 10 seconds a day glancing at an extra few profiles I'm pretty sure I won't be interested on." Comes off as douchey and unfeeling, even if the person isn't racist. But the issue is that people who are genuinely racist post the same thing under the guise of "just a preference" so now you've put people in the position of trying to tell you apart, which isn't a first good impression...

[–]canadski56 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Race preferences exist in straights too,ex. many straight friends of mine aren't into black women which I find weird because if I was straight there are totally some black girls I will be into.

The only thing in straight people is there are lots of people to go around,they can just choose which ones they are attracted to and just ignore the ones they don't,and since straight people are the majority,straight race prefrences aren't as noticeable

[–]RuralPride 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not attracted to another ethnicity due to biological reasons? Not racist.

Use food slang to describe others physical appearance? Racist (or at least, offensive).

Much like our sexuality, attraction to other peoples physical traits is largely determined by factors outside of our control. However, just because we may find some groups unattractive does not justify attempts to marginalize and degrade them.

[–]fluffhoof 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Straight people don't seem to necessarily care as much

Really?

[–]bruceville_road 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I see people mention race, but it's pretty rare.

[–]lachlansreddit 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't really see the difference with somebody writing "I'm not really attracted to twinks/bears" and "I'm not really attracted to Asians/Latinos"

Lets face it, you're not going to find certain groups of people attractive, whether that be a racial group or otherwise. Certain physical attributes that a group shares just may not be desirable for you.

Maybe just don't be a dick about it and post things like "No rice, no spice." If someone is talking to you that you don't find attractive, just kindly tell them that you're not interested. Isn't that just common sense?

[–]Chris770 2ポイント3ポイント  (14子コメント)

People just have their particular preferences, nobody's obligated to explain or justify them. Trying to tell anyone else whether theirs are right or wrong is pretty much a swan dive into a cesspool of hypocrisy. Nobody in their right mind who's ever been told they ought not to be attracted to other guys, or should be attracted to women, has an excuse for repeating that some sort of behavior.

[–]collegethrowaway_94 10ポイント11ポイント  (7子コメント)

There's a fine line between having a certain sexual preference, and then dismissing an entire race of humanity outright from consideration while using "no burritos" as a descriptor of this "feeling". The difference is that the first one is probably an innocent biological characteristic, and the second one is rooted in a vastly ignorant world view that perpetuates racial xenophobia. These people don't attempt to understand or engage other races, so they are entirely to blame for the outcome. Very different from someone who interacts regularly with other races, but just cannot sincerely form an attraction. Not all feelings are sacred and above judgment.

[–]BlkManX 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

PREACH MY BROTHER PREACH!!!!

[–]Chris770 1ポイント2ポイント  (4子コメント)

Ah, but that's not the question being asked, is it? The OP went out of his way not to ask why people turn others down, or ward others off, in some crude fashion or other. Neither did he directly ask anything about relationships between people which are unrelated to sexual attraction. Because those weren't actually asked, I'm not going to take the bait and allow myself to address them in an answer. If someone wants my opinion on those subjects, they're going to have to straight up ask without being coy about it.

Here, we're being asked to give "legit" reasons for whether we're attracted to someone else or not. So here's my answer: There are no "legit" or "non-legit" reasons, in any sense I can fathom. If I'm not attracted to you, I'm not going to sleep with you. No amount of suggesting that I ought to, for whatever reason you might come up with, is going to change that. People aren't entitled to anyone else's attraction, and it's not a thing anyone needs to justify to you. Fair enough?

*Typo correction, thanks /u/Peer_Pressure-er

[–]Peer_Pressure-er 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

Completely agree with you, do want to point out it is 'legit' as in legitimate.

Very well put though

[–]collegethrowaway_94 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

No, not fair enough, and you spelled legit wrong. Here's a good analogy, if you asked an anti-semite whether or not he was attracted to jewish women, would you take his answer at face value? If you asked a deeply closeted and ashamed homosexual whether or not he was attracted to effeminate men, would you take his answer at face value? Anyone with the slightest bit of reason would understand that attraction is not by any means this inherent, inviolable, completely distinct and separate part of the brain. It interacts with many other features of our neurological system and can be influenced by unjustified bigotry and xenophobia. I think bias is a very tricky thing to unravel, determining whether or not it is nefarious or simply a biological quirk. But just because you have a feeling, an emotion, or a preference does not make that sentiment sacred, and does not shield it from the scrutiny of other people, other people who have brains and are willing to confront uncomfortable truths that you may not be willing to admit.

[–]Peer_Pressure-er 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lol are you trying to force people to say things that are untrue about themselves?? Why are you assuming everyone is either racist or has other motives that are answering these questions, do you not have a type of guy you are attracted to? What if you don't like guys with blue eyes, do u secretly hate them? I'm sorry but your comment is ridiculous, of course if you ask an anti - semite they will say that, but what if in some crazy theoru there is some people out there that are just not attracted to jews, who happen to not be racist or hateful towards them.

[–]Chris770 -2ポイント-1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Well, there you go, got that typo all corrected for you. Anyhow...

Would I take anyone else's bedroom preferences at face value? As far as I'm concerned, it's a pointless question, as I have no interest in making myself a judge over anyone else in that regard. Obviously you do, so I'll let you have at it. Not that I regard you as having any authority to do so, but I'll humor you because it's harmless enough.

So alright, saying we can somehow unravel the mysteries of why any particular given person is attracted to any other given person. Since we're settled that a person's sexual preferences aren't something to be "corrected," and they can't be anyway, what am I to do if I find myself bearing the weight of some supposed flaw in the makeup of my libido? I suppose I should just accept the judgment of whoever or whatever and bear that guilt for the rest of my life, because where's the other option? I mean, I suppose I could spend all my days mulling over what went wrong in my childhood or whatever, but what good would that do?

[–]FdauditingGbro 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Best comment on this thread.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 1ポイント2ポイント  (5子コメント)

To dismiss a whole race of people seems sketchy though? I can't say the same for body type as being labeled a bear, muscular, or skinny. Those things can be changed.

I'm not demonizing anyone for who they want to sleep with, but you have to wonder WHY. I've seen good looking men from all kinds of background.

[–]Chris770 0ポイント1ポイント  (4子コメント)

Well, put it this way.

You could be asking a serious question about the psychology of sexual attraction, in which case the only good thing to do would be to refer you to however many thousands of articles on the subject that've been published in peer reviewed journals. There's your answer source, problem solved.

On the other hand, you could be asking toward the end of trying to make some sort of point about people needing to be more "open minded" about who they're attracted to, which is just ludicrous, because it's no more valid a suggestion than someone asking you to be more "open minded" about your gender preferences. In light of the latter, the former would just be nauseatingly hypocritical, as it implies that people are even capable of choosing their attractions. Are you sure you really want touch that?

Or (and I really don't want to believe this is the case) you could be asking toward the end of implying that people's preferences of others, in and of themselves, can be equated with racism. I won't even touch that one, because it's too ridiculous to even bear consideration.

[–]collegethrowaway_94 3ポイント4ポイント  (3子コメント)

That isn't true. It's like asking what comes first, the racial bias or the sexual attraction. Personal ignorance and ethnocentric ideology can influence the part of your brain that manages sexual attraction. Not being attracted to someone solely because of their race, or even more simply, the outright rejection of a certain race as a potential candidate can possibly be traced to certain racially bigoted predispositions if not interrogated fully.

[–]Chris770 -3ポイント-2ポイント  (2子コメント)

Uh oh, you're starting to imply that people can choose their attractions here. I'm going to stand WELL back from you while you try that one in a crowd of guys who've had that suggested to them at some point or other..

*Can't blame you for using a throwaway while trying to pick up that well-aged stick of dynamite.

[–]collegethrowaway_94 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

I've noticed during this entire thread instead of respond to peoples' arguments you have decided to ignore them entirely and dismiss them outright with some not-so-clever rhetorical flourish.

It would be smart of you to respond to my comment instead of intentionally misconstruing it and then deciding that it doesn't deserve a reply. This just illustrates the limits of your thought capacity.

EDIT: Just reread my original comment. Can you point out exactly where you feel that I definitively stated that people can choose their sexual attractions. It seems like you feel because you made that up, my argument is null and void. This is completely untrue. As it stands, I made some very valid claims that I backed up with common sense reasoning, and unless you can prove me wrong, everything I said is completely true.

[–]Chris770 -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hey alright then, I'll grant you that. You seemed to be implying that people ought to be capable of up and changing who they're attracted to for some particular set of reasons or other. That's what I inferred from what you said, and obviously I was wrong. Great, we're in full agreement, that's not something people can do, and it's good we settled that.

So, in light of the fact that no amount of "proper" internal correction, by whatever means someone might dream up, will make a difference in who I do or don't care to have in bed with me: What exactly is to be done, if some hypothetical person who's supposedly empowered by whoever or whatever to sit in judgment over what triggers my libido decides something about the structure of my brain or thinking is found wanting in that regard? I mean, where exactly else are we supposed to be heading with this line of reasoning, since we're not outright willing to start accusing people of proper racism based on who they want to sleep with or not? (...or are we?)

[–]static_snow 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

It's a preference fostered by the ideology of white supremacy, which promotes eurocentric ideals of beauty. In a sense it is racist, but we're socialized to feel this way. A lot of people manage to break out of this mode of thought and that's great. Progress. But I would also be equally weary of people interested solely in non whites on the other side of the spectrum; fetishism much?

[–]Peer_Pressure-er 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

Well i don't agree with this at all. I feel like that is like saying i was socialized to like boys and that it can be changed and 'fixed' so i start like girls. That's not going to happen, i know what makes my dick hard and i have preferences for what i like more and I'm not going to feel bad for something I can't change

[–]static_snow -2ポイント-1ポイント  (2子コメント)

My point is that white people form the standard of beauty across much of the world. Ever wonder why people in Asia, Africa, South Asia buy skin whitening products? Ever wonder why Asians get double lid surgery? Why black people get lip reduction surgery? My point is that we have a socialized "preference" for white features created by white supremist/colonial ideologies.

As for your example, explanations for homosexuality have strong groundings in biology. No where do I ever say it's entirely socially constructed.

[–]Peer_Pressure-er 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

My point is i cant change what my preferences for who i am attracted to are no matter how much you think its white supremacy

[–]static_snow 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

That's great. I'm just explaining why we have these "preferences." I noted some people are able to get over their "preferences" and date others, which implicitly implies that some, such as yourself, aren't able to do so. I'm not saying this is necessarily bad or anything, but it is what it is.

Personally I also have a preference for white dudes as well, but I'm totally aware of why I have this "preference" for them. However this doesn't mean I systemically shut off entire races of people. To say ALL members of a racial group (billions of Asians, billions of blacks) are not attractive to you is pretty insane. If you can't find one person in billions of options, then you may want to re-evaluate why that is.

[–]BlkManX 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

Captain-TomTom the question you're asking is one white gay men are afraid to answer honestly, maybe some aren't, but you're asking them why they have the preferences they do and for them to answer that question honestly will cause them to have to look deep inside themselves and question the very nature of what made them the man they are, and that my friend is something they're not ready or willing to do. To answer that question they would have to take into account their life experiences, what history they've been taught, how they were raised and what they've been exposed to. If you've never been exposed to People of Color (POC's) outside of TV & fast food and the history you've been taught is so diluted of actual facts you will grow up thinking that POC aren't as equal as you and that their looks are not as attractive as yours. Example [–]John2Nhoj's ignorant comment: "Race and skin color aside; I just don't find pubic-like hair on the head, big full lips, big flattened noses, scaly\ashy skin, perspiration that smells like stale popcorn, antique racial baggage and a culture I have no interest in to be sexy, not even on a white guy." He tries to be funny, but comes off ignorant, by using physical characteristics of a particular culture as a joke to explain why he's not attract to persons of that culture, what is does is expose the ignorant upbringing he had by the people who instilled those racist beliefs in him. The concept that your experiences and cultural exposure form you're ideals and beliefs is a foreign concept to them, they just think POC are too sensitive and need to get over past ills not understanding that it was those past ills that have helped form who they are and how they think.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, I kind of got that from his post. I can't take people like him seriously. He will have a change of tune when he is old and dried up then desperately trying to seek companionship from ANYONE who will take him. Seen that too. (When you are gay being past 35 means you are practically dead in the gay world anyways)

[–]CelestialBeekeeper 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

Hey, personally I'm not attracted to racists. It's not prejudice, I just can't help what my preferences are.

But to answer your question, yes, I believe it's a preference, it just happens to be a preference that's completely consistent with racist attitudes. Who says racism can't inform one's preferences? Surely you would expect a racist to prefer white people.

(According to the massive OkCupid data analysis that came out recently, though, straight people do it to. Straight people are just much better at not communicating their sexual preferences, racist or otherwise.)

[–]_Norm_ 3ポイント4ポイント  (1子コメント)

I've always found it utterly shocking that you almost never see and or hear "no whites sorry just a preference"

[–]umpteenth_ 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Although "no [insert minority here]" is more common, I have seen and heard "no whites" before, by black AND by white people.

[–]bifapaway 1ポイント2ポイント  (3子コメント)

Preferences don't always reflect racism. If I am so racist, why I have been in some sort of relationship ls with Asians and Latinos?

[–]BlkManX 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

You say that as if you're doing them a favor, that they should feel privileged a person not of their ethnicity dated them....

[–]_Norm_ -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

...not sure if you're saying you dislike Asians and Latinos outside of your partners or that you like both races.

[–]CelestialBeekeeper -1ポイント0ポイント  (0子コメント)

I can't offer a guess if I don't even know what about you would make me think you're racist.

Why don't you explain to me what you do that might make you racist and I'll let you know?

[–]snorbaard 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Straight people don't seem to necessarily care as much, nor do lesbians.

This is very much incorrect. I've see explicit instructions about the same stuff. It definitely isn't a gay thing.

[–]stilig 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

No. Preferences are flexible.

[–]brassware 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Preferences can be benign. They can also reflect prejudiced attitudes. These are racist preferences. Just because a physiological response is involved in arousal doesn't mean that social attitudes are at play. Plus, the idea that racial preferences are related to physical preferences is a farce given the phenotypical diversity within any racial group.

[–]GoGoGo_PowerRanger94 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

Simply put: No its not. I think alot of white guys(who lets be honest are the ones dishing out the preference prejudice/racism, mostly) deep down know that this "preference" talk is bullshit, but they don't want to change as that would require deep introspection & asking of some very uncomfortable questions about themselves. So they have this talk of "preference" as a defence mechanism, a disguise to hide from that nasty, ugly side of thier personality.. they can still think of themselves as that right-on, accepting & progressive guy then. But its simply a mask they don't want & can't deal with taking off).

Now personally as half black x half white guy.. i find i am attracted to one race the most... the human race. I find guys of all ethnicities, shades & creeds, bodytypes. Be they black, asian, white or mixed, purple etc...Attractive. Sexy is sexy in my book regardless of colour. Its all gravy, no biggie. I think its silly, if not dumb to limit oneself & be close-minded in such a way. I mean imo we're all related to each other on some level, we're of the same species, all related... connected to each other biologically, to the earth chemicaly & the rest of the universe atomically. Beauty is equally shared amongst all of us regardless etc... that having such hang ups is nonsensical to me.

Being open minded, seeing other people as individuals and not some monolithic block...removing yourself of your preconceptions and cultral baggage & not allowing media/society/culture(which of course it does play the biggest role of all. I mean we're not born with these "preferences" already in place, they come later after we've been conditioned. We live in a time where currently there's a hierarchical standard of beauty that puts whiteness & european features on a pedistal at the top as the epitome of beauty, (in the gay community you can also throw in muscled, tall, masculine n well hung as being highly prized) so the further you are from that the less attractive many will deem you as) to indoctrinate your mind is the best way to go :). So no i've no preferences. Though i do think there's a fine line between fetishising. Just as long as you treat the person with respect & as an sexual equal n not just a straight up servicing sex object i see no issue. But to clarify: No its not a preference.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree with everything you've said and it gave a bit more insight since you are of mixed race.

My question was innocent, at least I considered it as such because I keep seeing some pretty harsh things on profiles. It's clear this is an issue that gay guys are scared to talk about. When it makes you have to question your likes and WHY you got them is kind of scary. It opens you up and leaves you vulnerable. No one is trying to make anyone feel as if their preconceived notions of attractions is wrong (though it can be eyebrow raising), but they aren't hardwired into your genetic makeup like they are claiming. People's preferences are a result for social constructs and exposure.

Like for example, I like bear-ish type of men and adore redheads. Hell if you were to give me a combination of both in one guy I'd drop my pants in a heartbeat. But I know my likes for those type of men are a result of my exposure to them. I also know its not going to by my be end all for attraction. There was also a brief moment where I couldn't find anyone in my race (which is black) of being attractive until I asked myself 'why?' Turned out I had slightly internalized my self loathing of my race because I was always surrounded by white people. So now that I had identified the issue I was able to see that there are a lot of sexy black men just like any other race.

It left me vulnerable and damaged to admit that I had some self-hate but in the end it helped me and opened up my palette for more men. I also think this is why a lot of gay men wind up being alone because of their preferences as well. Everyone in here knows it is a sad and awful thing to be old and gay.

[–]Firecrotch2014 -1ポイント0ポイント  (4子コメント)

Its just a preference for me at least. I would never treat anyone different(better or worse) because of their race. Im just simply not attracted to certain races. Just like Im not attracted to women. Does that make me a misogynist? Probably not by most people's standards.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (3子コメント)

That's a typical cop out answer. You know your sexuality is something that can't really be changed, where as your likes are formed by your surroundings and interactions.

[–]Firecrotch2014 0ポイント1ポイント  (2子コメント)

Its not a cop out. You can apply it to almost anything. What if I like vanilla cake more than chocolate cake? Does that make me racist against chocolate cake? No i just simply prefer vanilla to chocolate. it doesnt make the chocolate cake any less tastey and delicious its just not what I prefer to eat. The same goes with who i date. Just because I prefer to date light skinned PoC doesnt make them any worse or better to me. Its just my aesthetic preference. To me to be racist youd have to think yourself superior to someone just because of their skin color and/or ethnicity. I don't feel that way.

[–]Captain-TomTom[S] 0ポイント1ポイント  (1子コメント)

After that first 4 sentences I refused to keep reading. Thank you for proving my point of my question.

[–]Firecrotch2014 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

And thank you for the strawman argument. "I have nothing to rebutt so im going to weasel my way out." Talk about a cop out.

The only thing i did prove is that it is a preference and youre just trying to rely too heavily on your race as a reason why people dont like you when its just tbat youre a shitty person.