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Amy Schumer's 'I'm Sorry' Skewers A Culture That Makes Women Apologize Constantly

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AMY SCHUMER
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 01: Amy Schumer arrives for the 'Late Show with David Letterman' at Ed Sullivan Theater on April 1, 2014 in New York City. (Photo by Donna Ward/Getty Images) | Matt Sayles/Invision/AP
"Sorry, did you want that?"
"Sorry, can I scoot by you?"
"Sorry, I'm just grabbing something."
"You wanted to talk first? Oh, sorry."
For many women, "sorry" is a filler word that just won't quit. You're sorry you're a minute late, sorry for interjecting, sorry for not looking put together enough, sorry for passing someone on the subway platform, sorry for sending back a dinner order gone wrong, sorry for making demands at all.
It's this culture of over-apologizing that Amy Schumer tackles in her sketch "I'm Sorry," which aired on Wednesday night's episode of "Inside Amy Schumer."
The scene is set at a "Females In Innovation conference" during a panel of "the top innovators in their [respective] fields," which includes Schumer as a scientist who studies neuropeptides. The other women on the panel boast similarly impressive resumes -- a Nobel Prize winner, a Pulitzer Prize winner, a woman who invented a solar panel water filtration system and a woman who built a school for child soldiers. What begins with the female panelists apologizing for correcting the male moderator's errors in introducing them, soon devolves into a constant succession of increasingly absurd "sorries."
"Sorry, I hated that. Sorry, I wish I hadn't said that."
"Sorry, is this coffee? Sorry, this is my fault."
Eventually, a male stagehand brings one of the women a coffee -- after she asked for water because she's allergic to caffeine -- and spills it on one of the other panelists. Even as she is dying from horrific coffee burns, she is apologizing, as are the women around her. The two men stand by looking perplexed.
The sketch is funny -- this is national treasure Amy Schumer we're talking about -- but "I'm Sorry" is more sobering commentary on the ways in which women are taught to constantly apologize than it is laugh-out-loud comedy. It's slightly uncomfortable to watch, because it feels too familiar. For many women, our default is to apologize without even realizing it.
"I'm Sorry" feels similar to two sketches from "Inside Amy Schumer" seasons one and two: "Compliments," which takes on women's tendencies to resist accepting praise, and "I'm So Bad," which skewers the idea that we should always scold ourselves for eating food. All three of the skits address a culture that encourages women to feel ashamed for taking up space -- socially, physically and professionally.
Amy Schumer's sketches remind us to say F**k. That. Sorry, but I'm trying not to be sorry.

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    This 1987 novel won the Frederic G. Melcher Book Award and the Pulitzer Prize for its stunning narrative of a mother haunted by her young child's death. It also contains violence, sexual content and discussions of bestiality. As recently as 2013, parents have tried to remove Beloved from high school reading lists.
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    In a dystopian society ruled by the religious right, a woman is kept as a "handmaid" by a family in the ruling class in the hopes that she'll provide them with a child. The Handmaid's Tale was considered too "explicit" and anti-religious to be read in a Texas high school.
  • <em>The Color Purple</em> -- Alice Walker, 1982
    The Color Purple follows the lives of several African-American women in the 1930s South. Racism and sexism are key themes, and the novel's violent scenes have made it a target for censors -- even though the book won the Pulitzer Prize in 1983.
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    After a teenage girl is raped and murdered, she watches from her own personal "heaven" as her friends, family and community come to terms with the tragedy. Parents at high schools in Connecticut and Massachusetts asked for the book's removal from libraries and reading lists due to its "frightening material."
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    The story of a sexual relationship between an upper-class woman and a working-class man was considered too scandalous for many. The book was banned by U.S. Customs from 1929 to 1959, and the full text was not available in Britain until 1960.
  • <em>Our Bodies, Ourselves</em> -- Boston Women’s Health Book Collective, 1971
    Written by women for women and intended to provide the basis for a women's health course, the book covers health and sexuality topics like gender identity, birth control, sexual pleasure, menopause and childbirth. Pretty racy stuff in the early '70s. The book was challenged in West Virginia in 1977 “because someone thought it was pornographic, encouraged homosexuality and was filthy."
  • <em>Their Eyes Were Watching God</em> -- Zora Neale Hurston, 1937
    In Neale Hurston's novel, an African-American woman tells her tumultuous life story to a close friend. The book has been challenged due to "sexual explicitness."
  • <em>The Awakening</em> -- Kate Chopin, 1899
    The Awakening's main character is searching for a role outside of that prescribed by society -- a wife and mother. The novel was censored for its "immoral" storyline and sexual content, and called "poison" in one of many critical newspaper reviews.
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    First published in France in 1934, Tropic Of Cancer -- which follows a young struggling writer's sexual encounters -- wasn't distributed in the U.S. until 1961. Even then, more than 60 booksellers in 21 different states faced obscenity lawsuits for selling the novel. When the Supreme Court ruled in 1966 that the book was not obscene, Pennsylvania state Supreme Court justice Michael Musmanno dissented, writing: "Cancer is not a book. It is a cesspool, an open sewer, a pit of putrefaction, a slimy gathering of all that is rotten in the debris of human depravity."
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    This YA novel about the aftermath of a teen girl's rape is a New York Times Bestseller, but has nonetheless been challenged in Missouri schools for "glorification of drinking, cursing, and premarital sex."
  • <em>I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings</em> -- Maya Angelou, 1969
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  • <em>The Well Of Loneliness</em> -- Radclyffe Hall, 1928
    This novel about lesbian relationships in the 1920s was just too much for some. A British court found the novel obscene for alluding to "unnatural practices between women," and the book was challenged immediately after publication in the U.S.
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Beloved -- Toni Morrison, 1987
This 1987 novel won the Frederic G. Melcher Book Award and the Pulitzer Prize for its stunning narrative of a mother haunted by her young child's death. It also contains violence, sexual content and discussions of bestiality.

As recently as 2013, parents have tried to remove Beloved from high school reading lists.
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