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[–]_wingnut_2 Endorsed Contributor 16ポイント17ポイント  (1子コメント)

What do you have to offer a man looking for a long term monogamous relationship that men actually want? Start by asking yourself that

We are about relationships here, not single women fantasies

[–]Calla_ 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I asked what the proper response to "what do you have to offer" is and no one told me anything. What is the proper answer to this question? Nothing sounds good enough.

[–]cxj 10ポイント11ポイント  (7子コメント)

You won't be washed up at 23 unless you make horrible diet/lifestyle choices. TRP exaggerates to maximize rage.

[–]whatyearisthisagain 12ポイント13ポイント  (5子コメント)

I've yet to see anyone on TRP say women are "washed upped" by 23.

However, in today's society, by age 23 most women have rammed up a very high count of sexual partners, making them terrible at pair bonding.

[–]jules991 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

They say that we have reached our physical peak by 23 and that it's all downhill after that.

[–]redditmoose 2ポイント3ポイント  (2子コメント)

I'd put it at 28 just because of the life (not sexual) experiences that you've had by that point.

[–]truthiesttruth 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

Those experiences are not conditional on being single though. Married women can travel, study, whatever. In fact it might even be easier to accomplish these with a committed partner.

The reason TRP sticks to 25 is because we value women by the only thing they bring to the table, their looks.

[–]redditmoose 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

because we value women by the only thing they bring to the table, their looks

I think that's part of the shock you go through when you first TRP, along with woman hating, AWALT and PUA. Later you realize that you want women to be reasonably intelligent, well balanced, healthy, contributing, etc.

Married women can travel but if we're talking longer than 2 weeks, only if they're married to/are millionaires that don't need jobs.

[–]truthiesttruth 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

They say that we have reached our physical peak by 23 and that it's all downhill after that.

christmas cakes baby... useless after the 25th

That being said, we want to catch a few years on the run up to that peak as well so its best to go after 23yr olds.

After 27? waste of time, think about it, your physical prime was spent with someone else, why are you still single? What has been more important than finding your husband? Why should a self respecting man settle for anything less than your best years when trading away his. After 36 it becomes reasonable to chase 28yr olds.

Keep in mind these are generalizations. Some women look their best at 35, but we are talking a fraction of the population here.

As for OP: Look up the % of people that dont go back after a year off. All those things you listed can either be done in your spare time or will take more than a year to master. Travel after you graduate.

San Fran is one of the most expensive cities in the world. Unless your parents are loaded or you get a good job offer, expect to go completely broke there.

You sound directionless, if you chase two rabbits you will lose them both.

[–]scrawny_wrestler 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

The general opinion on TRP of women getting washed up is between 28-33. Not 23 ;)

[–]theladygourmet 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm 28 and happily married. You're young and you do still have lots of time to find a wonderful guy. I think at your age you should focus on making yourself the best person you can be and exploring your passions.

If you have glaring flaws (anger, manipulation, unresolved childhood stuff) now is a great time to work past those issues. You will not have a successful (RPW-style or otherwise) relationship if you bring a load of baggage. IMO like attracts like. If you're healthy, active, successful, loving, and interesting you'll attract men that are similar.

Learning practical life skills that you can bring to a relationship is important too. Learn how to manage a household budget and how to cook/meal plan. Learn how to host people in your home (dinner parties, etc.) and how to present yourself well (both physically and in interaction).

I also think learning the red flags in a relationship is important, especially since you haven't dated much. Go on dates, but learn to recognize a jerk or a dead end when you meet one. Many women end up single at 35 because they wasted their youth on guys who just couldn't get it together or didn't treat them well. Time is valuable, don't let anyone waste yours.

I think it's good to keep in mind a loose life plan as well. Women who end up past their prime and alone are often women who had absolutely no plan. They had lots of fun with zero thoughts about the future. You don't have to say, "I must be married by exactly age 22 and have kids at exactly age 24", but saying "I would like to be married in my 20s" is a nice way of keeping yourself on track.

Also, FWIW my husband and I don't want children either. There are plenty of men who are otherwise traditional but don't want kids.

[–]L7261 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

  1. Stay/get in good shape.

  2. Work on being feminine (courteous, approachable, friendly, dress nice, not a b****).

  3. Learn skills that are useful for life - cooking, another language, conversation, etc.

  4. Always look to better yourself.

You can't have it all, no one can have it all. Traveling is great but it's definitely pricey - but if you can do it, it's a great way to learn prospective.

[–]eatplaycrush2 Endorsed Contributor 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

I want to do it all.

Well, if you want an actual high SMV man you won't be doing it all so choose what you actually want.

[–]Pxzib 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

What should I be doing right now to prepare for a happy life?

What should you be doing right now to give your (future) man a happy life?

[–]j0hnan0n 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Know your ABC's. Always Be Coachable. Always Be Compassionate. Always Be Curious.

Find a mentor, or a few different mentors, and learn as much as you possibly can from them. Emulate their best traits.

Welcome to the community!

[–]HULKx -2ポイント-1ポイント  (0子コメント)

did you read the introduction in the sidebar?

The Difference between TRP and RPW