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[CAW] I'm absolutely fucking terrified right now.TW (imgur.com)

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[–]ToNeverland 172ポイント173ポイント  (18子コメント)

Honestly, I'm not the first to say to contact the police but in this instant, you really should. This is beyond threatening and scary. It's a serious threat that should be taken seriously. I do suggest you contact your local police as soon as possible. And I'm so sorry you're going through this, but you have support! 😊

[–]sinaxis 96ポイント97ポイント  (0子コメント)

Op, since you're a minor you need to show your mom. It might be hard, or a little embarrassing, but she needs to know. She can help you contact the police. Don't erase the message, you'll need the evidence. Do you have friends in that local community you can talk to?

[–]ReflectingPond 30ポイント31ポイント  (5子コメント)

I'm sorry this is happening to you, and I think you're right to be afraid. I wouldn't want to take any chances, and I echo the advice already given to contact your local police.

Are you able to go stay with a friend or relative for a couple of days?

[–]lilylizlane[S] 31ポイント32ポイント  (4子コメント)

I'm a minor and live with my mother so I don't know

[–]SaidIToMyselfpls respond 46ポイント47ポイント  (0子コメント)

Can you show this harassment to your mother? The cops will give it a higher priority coming from an adult looking out for their child.

[–]Sir_MarcusTexas me back 17ポイント18ポイント  (0子コメント)

If you're not sure how to tell your mom about what is going on, this might be a useful resource: http://crashoverridenetwork.tumblr.com/post/113748237272/guide-talking-to-family-police

[–]Tech-Mechanic 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree with the other people here. Show this to your Mom, and you two need to contact the police. Even if this person is just trying to scare you, you shouldn't take the chance. The level of that message is completely beyond trolling. Get your folks and law enforcement involved.

[–]SaidIToMyselfpls respond 25ポイント26ポイント  (0子コメント)

In some cases like this, you can contact the police and they can increase their presence in the area even if they can't track down the individual. You could also, if your doors don't have them yet, invest in some heavy duty deadbolts. Many places will be happy to install them for you. There are a number of innocuous looking self defense objects you could invest in, such as those cat shaped keychains that are actually knuckle dusters or maybe even a small can of mace or a tazer. If you have a friend that you trust and feel like you could reliably follow through, you could do departure and arrival notifications by text. Something like: "Hey, driving to ____. If I don't text you a confirmation in _ hours/minutes, call the cops." My friend did that when his ex started sending him rape threats. It gave him ease of mind at the very least.

Hope the suggestions prove helpful.

Also, if this harassment campaign carries on there are counselors and support groups that do worlds of good helping with the insidious psychological injury these situations can inflict. There's a bit of stigma attached to this option, but they've really helped me before. Just a thought.

[–]IronTitsMcGuintyInsecure Beta Female[M] 50ポイント51ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hi, OP. Because you are a minor, I would like to link you to our wiki, which has information about reporting creepers preying on minors.

If there is anything we mods can do to help you, please, don't hesitate to message us.

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

[–]iUsuallyDie( •_•)O*¯`·.¸ 43ポイント44ポイント  (1子コメント)

When you say 'community', do you mean your local area, or an online group of some kind? Just trying to establish context.

[–]MasterofShock 18ポイント19ポイント  (0子コメント)

Tell your parent(s) and call the police.

[–]Autumn-Moonlight(◕‿◕✿) 31ポイント32ポイント  (3子コメント)

Hey can you tell us if everything okay once this is dealt with? I want you safe.

[–]lilylizlane[S] 19ポイント20ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'll update if anything turns up :)

[–]chipthamac 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

RemindMe! 7 days this thread

[–]PaleoLad 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

RemindMe! 7 days this thread

RemindMe! 7 days this thread

[–]HedgehogWitch 11ポイント12ポイント  (0子コメント)

It sounds like he's tracked an IP address which usually can't be tracked to a specific address unless you're the NSA or some such thing. That being said I would definitely go to the police. This pathetic excuse for a human needs to be found and locked up. He's probably the type that's fine saying such things online, but couldn't so much as look another person in the eye face to face, but it's important to let the authorities know, to be safe.

[–]Walking_the_dead 5ポイント6ポイント  (0子コメント)

Absolutely eport to the police, even if they won't do anything, you will have paper trail if its made necessary, invest in self defense if you feel confident in using it (like pepper spray, nothing that would require direct contact), if you can, change locks, change your patterns, try not to be alone. LET PEOPLE AROUND YOU KNOW, that way if someone hear something out of ordinary, they'll thing twice before brushing it off as nothing

[–]NumeroDeux 5ポイント6ポイント  (6子コメント)

Based on the vague-ish comments about the area where you live, I think it's safe to say that this person doesn't actually know the exact place where you live. Have you ever made any comments on reddit that might have identifying information? If so, this person might have gotten that information from there. Or, if you have posted the photo you mentioned elsewhere, they might have reverse image searched it and gotten information from wherever else you posted it. If you haven't done so already, make sure all your online profiles (like FB) are only visible to family and friends. That sort of information is easily accessible if they aren't restricted like that.

Since you are a minor, I would recommend telling your parent or guardian. You can also report this person to http://www.missingkids.com/cybertipline/ as the messages are sexually explicit and violent in nature. You should also report to reddit and block this person if you have not already.

Finally, just try your best to keep calm. You're alright. This person is doing their best to try and scare you, but you are safe. This person is a bully. If you truly feel unsafe, however, you should try contacting your local police. Make sure to save any messages you receive from this person. I know it can be hard not to delete them but it is important to build up a document, especially if you are planning to go to the police about it.

[–]lilylizlane[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (5子コメント)

I posted from a throwaway and it was a photo I didn't post anywhere but Facebook, which is on the highest privacy level.

[–]NumeroDeux 2ポイント3ポイント  (4子コメント)

Was it a brand new throwaway or one you had posted on before? Hm. I'm not sure if people can get around FB's privacy settings. Maybe someone else can give some insight into that.

The only other thing I can think of is that this person managed to find your IP address. With an IP address, someone can find your region/city/town/etc, but not a personal address or name. Unfortunately, this sub sees people do this every so often. They're assholes and enjoy scaring people by finding information that is readily available.

There is one other possibility. Do you know anyone who might send you threatening messages? I think it's super unlikely, but there is the possibility that someone recognized you from your picture and is trying to scare you.

[–]lilylizlane[S] 2ポイント3ポイント  (3子コメント)

Brand new throwaway. I honestly don't know. It could be someone I know, but what are the odds? There is one person who I think might do it, but I don't even think he knows what Reddit is.

[–]NumeroDeux 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

If that's the case, then I think it's pretty safe to say this is an asshole who got your IP address. Just judging on the information this person messaged you, it's probably the only info they actually have and aligns with what an IP address search would give someone. This webpage should answer any questions you have about what an IP address search can get someone: http://whatismyipaddress.com/find-me

[–]NumeroDeux 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

Just to give you an idea of what a search on an IP address might do, I just looked up mine. It shows the first 3 digits of my old postal/area code and a location that is about a ten minute drive from my previous residence. It shows some cul-de-sac in another residential area. For all I know, one of the houses nearby was the previous holder of my IP address.

[–]fuckingnihilists 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've worked for years in community enforcement for a large social network and 9 times out of 10 abuse of this nature comes from a friend or family member. Well, if you don't count the instances of kids doing it to themselves to get attention, that is.

[–]CannaKProud Feminist 4ポイント5ポイント  (0子コメント)

Since you're a minor, you should talk to the mods here about how to report adults who are explicit to minors. Also, you should show this to your mom, and definitely go to the police. This person might just be making empty threats, but it's better to be safe.

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[–]RotBeamTICKLE TICKL PEE PEE LITTL ELADY 3ポイント4ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can and should contact the police but I doubt that'll accomplish much. If you want to do something concrete, buy some pepper spray/a gun and get better locks on your doors. Maybe a deadbolt. If you don't want to do these things, tell a trusted friend/family member about this and ask them to stay with you for awhile. Not much else you can do.

[–]ugottahvbluhair 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree with others that you should talk to your mom and together go to the police with this. I want to add that you should not be responding to anything this person sends you. Cut off any contact and maybe make sure your social media is protected so they can't find any more information. I would just delete your Facebook account if you have one. I hope the police can help you and that everything turns out ok.

[–]shypster 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm gonna echo what everyone has said. Talk to your parents/guardians and the police. They're the ones that need to know. Don't delete anything at this time.

[–]dustydiamond 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Do you know anyone who has a big dog that can stay with you for a few days or longer? That and call the police.

[–]KittehReigns 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Contact the police. That is the first and foremost thing to do. Especially with a threat like that! If they can track them(which, at this point in society, they should be able to), and press charges.

[–]hotspots_thanks 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

In addition, make sure that anyone who has your contact information (relatives, friends, school, work, any place you're a member of) knows not to give it out. Some well-meaning folks may not realize the implications of giving out your phone number or email address.

[–]conjunctionfunktion 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm so so sorry this terrible person has contacted you. I can't say anything different than what everyone else said; they all offered great advice. I just wanted to say you have my support and if you need anything please message me. Also please update so we know you're okay

[–]notadamnthinghere 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

I had a home-invasion threat two years ago and found a couple little things that gave me a lot of peace of mind- door/window alarms, and as many of them as you want- they can be set to give off a loud-blaring alarm, or a quieter door-bell sound. They're relatively cheap and come in four-packs at Walmart. Also, if you don't have a dog- if your living situation allows, it may be worth-while to borrow one for a little while from a friend or family member. They can do a lot of to dissuade people with simply their presence.

[–]riski_click 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is very scary. I hope you called the police and went to stay with a friend before you took the time to post this to Reddit! I hope this turns out ok for you, OP!!

[–]FlashTheGash 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Have you contacted the police yet?

[–]freudianasaurusCREEPS NEED TO STOP FUCKING SENDING DICK PICS 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

Please, for the love of God, report this. I want you safe.

[–]fieryhummingbird 1ポイント2ポイント  (1子コメント)

Is that Fetlife? Report it to them if it is and then the police.

Okay not Fet. Report to Reddit and police.

[–]berlin-callingpls respond 1ポイント2ポイント  (0子コメント)

OP is a minor, and this looks more like "night mode" on reddit.

[–]theshitlord00 -1ポイント0ポイント  (1子コメント)

200 bucks says this person isn't behind a proxy!! he is fucked

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    [–]Jmadartist 1ポイント2ポイント  (6子コメント)

    Does it matter?

    [–]scabdog 6ポイント7ポイント  (5子コメント)

    No, not at all. I didn't mean it any sort of 'oh, what did you do kind of way', not in the slightest. I simply wanted to know whether this person had decided to be so disturbing out of the blue or if they'd been having a friendly conversation before hand. I didn't mean offense.

    [–]lilylizlane[S] 11ポイント12ポイント  (2子コメント)

    This was from a throwaway account where I posted a picture of myself. Someone called me fat and that I should exercise and diet and I told them I already did. So I'm assuming that is what this is about.

    [–]flyawaylittlebirdie(◕‿◕✿) 9ポイント10ポイント  (0子コメント)

    And there are people who think the rampant fat hate (not saying you are, they target women who weigh maybe 5 lb over what they view women should weigh) here isn't toxic. Seriously, call the police, if they take you seriously, they will cycle around your area more or might even post some officers outside of your house.

    [–]scabdog 0ポイント1ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Damn that's horrendous. I really hope you're okay and have passed it on to the police so they have knowledge of it at the very least. I understand however that they don't always do anything about these things, especially since they might consider he's not 'doing anything wrong' (yeah right) but that's obvious evidence of harassment.

    [–]Jmadartist 2ポイント3ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I see. Sorry. I have a knee-jerk reaction about victim blaming.

    [–]scabdog 2ポイント3ポイント  (0子コメント)

    No, I can understand, I should have clarified more in my first post tbh. I know it's probably some creeper trying to make her feel bad but then you see the awful shit that people do and it makes me really worried.

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      [–]IronTitsMcGuintyInsecure Beta Female[M] 10ポイント11ポイント  (0子コメント)

      And you just reaped a ban, you pathetic, victim-blaming thing.

      [–]lilylizlane[S] 9ポイント10ポイント  (2子コメント)

      Excuse me?

      [–]IronTitsMcGuintyInsecure Beta Female[M] 9ポイント10ポイント  (1子コメント)

      They are gone. I'm sorry you had to see this.

      [–]lilylizlane[S] 6ポイント7ポイント  (0子コメント)

      It's okay, thank you for being so quick!