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A Smile Isn’t an Invitation for Harassment – So Could You Stop, Please?

by Alli Kirkham
Women smile for a lot of reasons. So why is it that harassers always want to make it about them?
With Love,
The Editors at Everyday Feminism
Smile-Draft

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Panel 1

Text: Women smile for lots of reasons.
(A smiling woman in an apron and ball cap)
Woman: I smile at work because it’s good customer service.

Panel 2

(A cheerful-looking woman, smiling)
Woman: I smile when I make eye contact because it’s polite.

Panel 3

(A smiling, tattooed woman wearing a bikini top)
Woman: I smile when I’m dancing because I love my job.

Panel 4

(A smiling woman who looks worried)
Woman: I’m a nervous smiler – I smile to defuse tension.

Panel 5

(A relaxed-looking, smiling woman)
Woman: I smile on the subway ’cause that’s where I listen to my favorite podcast.

Panel 6

(A smiling woman who is shrugging)
Woman: That’s just what my face does when it’s relaxed – I’ve got resting smiley face.

Panel 7

(A resigned-looking woman, smiling)
Woman: It feels awkward if someone smiles and you don’t smile back – they might call you a bitch or something.

Panel 8

(A woman smiling widely with raised eyebrows and wide eyes)
Woman: I use this particular smile to tell my friends to come get me away from whoever cornered me.

Panel 9

(A sad-looking woman with a slight smile)
Woman: I smile when I get catcalled because if I ignore catcallers, they might follow me.

Panel 10

(A scared-looking woman, smiling nervously)
Woman: I smile when someone is scaring me because I don’t want to make them angry.
Text: Not the least of which is that they’re often told to smile.

Panel 11

(A smiling man)
Man: You’re so pretty when you smile!

Panel 12

(A man with a pleased expression on his face, smiling)
Man: Hey girl, gimme a smile!
Text: And yet this bullshit continues:

Panel 13

(A scowling man)
Man: Look, if you didn’t want me to talk to you, you shouldn’t have been flirting with me. I came over because you smiled at me.

Panel 14

(A sneering man)
Man: If she didn’t like what I was saying, she should have stopped smiling.

Panel 15

(An angry-looking man)
Man: I wasn’t bothering her! Didn’t you see her smiling when we were talking?

Panel 16

(A confused-looking man)
Man: If she wanted to be left alone, why did she keep smiling at everyone?
Text: So, as a public service announcement, please keep this in mind:

Panel 17

(A circular shield in which three women are smiling and hugging one another, with a banner above the shield and a banner below)
Top Banner Text: Don’t assume invitation is the correct interpretation of my expression.
Bottom Banner Text: I am under no obligation to talk to you.
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Alli Kirkham is a Contributing Comic Artist for Everyday Feminism and blogger, cartoonist, and intersectional feminist. Alli earned a BA in English Literature from Cal Poly Pomona in 2011 and uses it as an excuse to blog about books while swearing a lot. When she isn’t cartooning for Everyday Feminism or cursing at popular fiction, she posts cartoons and other silly things on her Tumblr. Check her out on Twitter @allivanlahr

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