>23 yo virgin>always was top of the class, good performer>good job, nice prospects>girls were always around me and liking me>lose interest in girls really quickly so I never really date them>I always befriend some of them and they simply can't believe I've never been with a girlWhat's wrong /adv/?I just don't feel the connection so I don't have the motivation to date them. Every girl who has fallen for me I always just wanted to be friends with her. How do I not lose interest in girls so quickly?>inb4 fag, I have no interest in men at all
>Be me, 16>Shit grades in high school >Honestly can't see a future for me, considering dropping out >In a long distance relationship but too beta to tell her >find out about French Foreign Legion, debating whether or not to enlist The Legion's only real requirements are to be at least 17 and a half, and have a BMI between 20 and 30.
Why not your own countrys military?
How to become smarter /adv/? I'm not outright stupid(at least I don't think so), more like just “slow”. Whenever I need to do something or make some decision it takes me longer than normal to figure out what to say or do. That leads to awkward pauses in conversations and low productivity. If I rush things, I fuck up. Sometimes I just zone-out in the middle of conversation or while doing something. There are 99 problems in my life but being “slow” seems to be the root of them all(and it did take me some time to figure that out).I've tried meditating every morning, but it seems to have only minimal positive impact. Are there any pills or other activities worth trying? I do stress out quite a lot in social situations or whenever I'm outside my comfort zone, so I think about trying some anti-anxiety drugs.tldr: How do I make myself “think faster”?
Unfortunately, the basic clock speed of your brain is pretty much determined at birth. Studies show that not even environment growing up has much of an affect. That doesn't mean you're useless, but it does mean that thinking isn't your strong suit. Figure out what yours is. Art? Music? Athletics? Craftsmanship?Society puts a lot of emphasis on intelligence but there are plenty of other things humans can be good at.
>>15744546OP here, so there is no magic pill to "overclock" the brain huh? Well i guess I'll just have to look in other directions, thanks for the tip.
>>15744542easy think smart dumb dumb. think thing big thing more. make fast dumb smart. eat all little trees.happy dumb dumb.
>>15744596it is weird and i wouldn't pursue anything with heryour SO is supposed to support you through tough times, not only come when you're doing perfectly well alone
To guys: To what point is pride important to you?
>>15744600I suppose that depends on how you define pride. For me personally I have a problem, which I'll confess openly, with arguing, I won't stop until I've 'won' and I suppose that could be a result of excessive pride. That said, I value my dignity and my autonomy greatly, they matter.
>>15744600Could you be more specific? What-would-you-do scenarios putting a man's pride at risk, perhaps.
>>15744603>>15744604>I value my dignity and my autonomy greatlyIn that sense it's a nice thing to hear. I actually meant, when someone offends you in front of your family or important friends, how do you react?
I met someone incredible recently. She's incredible because her ideals, her thought process, her personality, her interests and her future plans either mirror or complement my own in many many ways.We started talking because of these common interests, however I've been blown away by everything else that's seemingly been perfect. In terms of appearance, she puts a lot of work into her image, with use of makeups and very personalized fashion that looks pretty nice. On the overall looks scale though, she's not too pretty by most people's standards.I personally won't be letting this stop me from pursuing her because while I can objectively make that comment, I know that the most important things about her are utterly 10/10.How would you handle this, /adv/?
Beauty fades. You found someone fantastic, don't let that go just because she's not that pretty. At least she puts in the effort.
Unless she ranked Arya Stark or lower on the attractiveness scale, I wouldn't hesitate.
>>15744601Word. That's my feel.>>15744602I mean, Arya is kinda cute too. I'd give her a chance were she of age.
It looks like I'm going to be homeless for at least tonight. I could try to kill time at a 24hr Dunkin Donuts but I'm not sure if they'll kick me out eventually. Plus I need to sleep eventually and I'm already exhausted. A motel would just burn my money way too fast. Ideas about where I could spend the night and maybe even get shuteye?
I doubt any original repliers remain, but OP returns! DD wifi blocks 4chan unfortunately, but with the sunrise comes new locations. DD dude was a very hairtrigger dude but I stayed 5hrs with no issue. 4.10 for two coffees and I took a receipt survey for free donut. Please let me not jinx this.
>>15744553Welcome back OP! Where are you now?
>>15744557There's a bus stop within radio distance of a Starbucks. I can pass as a waiting rider for a bit. Once the sun is fully risen it's over to the park. I'm wired on caffeine for now but I would like a snooze. Also brushed my teeth on the move.
I should ask before I depart: If the park lends no safe spot to rest, where else might I rest my head a bit? The university would seem obvious but it's a $2+ bus ride away and puts me very far away from this proven safe night setting.
Alright I don't want to overstay my welcome or my battery. Current priorities are rest and a USB-AC adapter. Off I go.
>recently going to the movies a lot with a friend>we take the train to get back>he gets off at a different station>I get off>have to walk for 5 min through an athletic center at night alone to get home, it's really dark, no lights, quiet, no soul to be found unless there's a big athletic event which is rare>perfect location to mug someone imho>I always walk quick and anxiously look around and I'm really afraid>I have no clue what I'd do if I got jumped onSo my questions are:1. Am I totally paranoid?2. What do I do if I get jumped on/mugged?Note:>I'm 6'7'' well built and I've never been mugged because I look intimidating, while many friends have (not at the athletic center just generally) but you never knowComment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>15741919>6'7''Call Guinness, you might be the world's biggest pussy.
>>15743168Will do. Thanks, finally some good advice.>>15743182Spoken like a true "oh man if only I had your height" manlet.
>>15743217I'm 6'4", plenty tall enough. I already have enough trouble fitting in cars, you can have the extra 3".
>>15741919There's a lot of shit that can happen to you besides getting mugged that'll ruin your day or fucking kill you but you can't go on being afraid of the possibility of these things happening.Work on your anxiety by taking up some basic meditation, just sit still or lay down and breathe real slow, exhaling for almost twice the length of time you breathe in to chill out.Practice walking with your fists closed and finding a more assertive stride so you don't look so nervous, even if you're in an area you don't know you should look like you belong there and have shit to do.As for defending yourself, take up boxing or something, practice with that knife too in case you feel you need to use it so you're not fumbling with it.
>>15743451Excellent advice, thank you.
First time ever going out to drink with my friends, had 3 beers, hangout about 30 more min then decided to head home, parents always had a drink or two then drove home I figured I could do the same... I was going 8 over the speed limit, got pulled over got a DUI... now I have to wear the scram ankle bracelet... can it be fooled? Tricked? Dooped? It's quite uncomfortable... HALP!
>>15744508>infrared light>light that has even less effect on matter than visible light>skin cancerHoo boy
I have fucked up before too anon so I am not trying to directly insult you but you have fucked up doing two things you knew unequivocally are illegal and had this consequence. People do similar and worse all the time and get away with it but that is luck and chance and any time anyone ever does this these exact consequences can and may happen. It is unfortunate you were caught but consider for a moment that your actions were actually unsafe and the law exists for a reason and actually the scenario could have been worse like you dying or murdering someone. I am sure you believe the odds were low and they may be fairly low but the legal limit is set at an arbitrary point because that is the point where people begin to demonstrate notable judgment and reaction time issues. Similarly you were speeding a moderate amount while doing so. Your decision to speed right after 3 beers in 30 minutes pretty much demonstrates clear judgment impairment. In the future consult a sobriety chart to check your blood alcohol level. I think you should reflect on the fact that this is a consequence you've earned. Next time bring cab fare.And whether you believe you did something wrong or not or if you think the punishment is just or not you did in fact fuck up legally and if you respond to that by doing actions you also know are illegal then you are by definition retarded. That's why you're here. Just pay the consequence and come out of it wiser. You should never think that just because you know someone who gets away with something doesn't mean you will or they will forever.Anyway anon I hope you can chill and just deal with this and not continue to make stupid errors. If you take some time to think I bet you can come up with some productive things you could be doing.
>>15744513IR radiation definitely increases mass cell number and tryptase expression.
>>15744519>Google it>Get an article citing IR and UV radiation>Method involves shining sunlight on people's skinYeah, it was probably the radio waves that did that and not the fucking UV radiation from the fucking sun.
>>15744519Did you know that if you obey traffic laws and don't stink of alcohol you can easily avoid what is already obviously not a practical risk in anyway?Endangering the world with bad choices pretty much removes your right to fuss over what could at most be a insanely miniscule chance to get a highly treatable condition. I feel certain that drunk drivers are a bigger danger to themselves and everyone else than the preposterously unlikely idea that momentary exposure to it would make any difference in someone's odds at getting cancer.
my ex got a new boyfriend, and i'm a shut in that can't figure out how to meet even a potential new person to fall in love with.my dads literally going insane after losing his job and falling into drug abuse, he talks to himself all day long and after consistently says "You all think im crazy, don't you?" to literally fucking no one.my aunt has about a month left to live due to canceri feel alone and no one truly understands or cares about how i'm truly feeling and that I have no one to talk to.I've become a fucking vodka with the amount of drank tonight to the point where this is where i turn - where im so desperate for attention that i came here originally wanting to talk about how i'm going to kill myself but know i don't even have it in me. Whats the point of anything and everything? It's just eternally lack of meeting self expectations and suffering.
>>15744562Life has its ups and downs, mate. It's all part of growing up. It might not seem fair to you or anything, but we all have (or gonna have) the worst moments in our lives. It will be over, that is for sure. Be patient, Anon.
>gf is on pill>uses it only to regulate her cycle, is totally paranoid about pregnancy because of past mishap>insists on condoms>already have trouble staying hard because of years of excessive masturbation (lost my virginity at 24)>condoms completely deaden any feeling i'd otherwise have/adv/, what can i do? i'm in what feels like a serious relationship for the first time ever. she's super understanding of my problems but i still would like to give her a deep dick pizza. i have a normal dick, 6.25" circumference, 5" girth. any condom recommendations? also how can i undo the damage from years of masturbating? i've slowed down significantly (2-3 times a week down from 3+ a day) but i still go soft inside of her which feels pretty shitty.
>>15744285OP This post caught my eye because I masturbate +3 times a day. I've been doing so for about 3 years. Is there damage that I have now inflicted on future me? Also, have you considered taking medication for it? I'd think it would damage my pride personally, but you might be different. I hope everything works out, OP.
>>15744285Try and come to an understanding about condoms affecting you. Ask her about birth control pills. If she's worthwhile, she'll understand and try to help.I'm in the same boat as you when it comes to masturbation and I've been trying to cut down as well. Good luck, my man
>>15744579>Ask her about birth control pills.>gf is on pill>how is do i reading
How do I stop being scared and do stuff, rather than running to others for help?
>>15744340thanks, i never really thought about the dependency stuff
>acquire gun>feel scared>pull gun out>close eyes>start firing all around you>feel betterYou're welcome.
>>15744283Jesus Christ, has it been this simple all along?
>>15744272One thing I always hear is that we tend to want to run because we feel we have no control over the situation, which a lot of the time is true. You feel like you are useless and there is no point since you really can't do anything, so you have to find something you can control, and that thing is your breathing. If you control your breathing then you lower your heart rate, you lower that fight or flight reaction and you are able to better control your emotions/actions and act in a logical way. Something like that, just Google it.
>>15744272Being scared is totally par for the course. Just do the stuff anyway. Breathing is good advice.
What should I do if I'm ugly? Like honestly, sometimes it gets really hard to remain happy when I know that girls dismiss me just based on my looks. I'm In shape and I've been confident, but I gotta say, that Confidence is slowly being worn down. I don't know what to do anymore. I just need some words of encouragement or advice. Please. This is getting hard to deal with and I just need some assurance this shit gets better
It's about presenting yourself OP. I've seen ugly guys with a family of their own, and what makes them different from other ugly guys? Not looking like a chewed up rag on the side of the road. Wear nice clothing, exfoliate your skin, trim your hair, have good smelling breath. You gotta look and smell clean.
The fact is that although women certainly notice good-looking men, looks work very differently for women than they do for men. Raw sex appeal, while not insignificant, just doesn't carry the same kind of weight: more important is how a man's looks reflect his stability (in basically every possible sense of the term).The place I'm trying to go with this, OP, is that it's actually quite difficult for a guy to be unfuckably ugly: not impossible, but it usually requires the kinds of deformities and/or disfigurements that people don't even think it's fair to apply the ten-point scale to you anymore.Far more likely is that your looks are reflecting a very different kind of problem, and it is this problem that's pushing them away. Maybe you aren't taking care of yourself, and it's coming out in your hair, skin, or clothes. Maybe you're going out of your way to seem threatening when you shouldn't, or, conversely, going SO far out of your way to seem nonthreatening that it comes across as fake (which seems even more threatening). Maybe you express a single obsession beyond what's appropriate, and it looks like you have a one-track mind. Maybe the way you talk or carry youraelf makes you come across as a total asshole. I don't know.But the good news is that all of these problems can be fixed. The catch is that the first step is admitting that the problem is in fact on your end.
>>15743560No, I'm not threatening I legitimately am just objectively ugly. I have a crooked jaw so I have a crooked smile and to make it worse, my teeth need braces, but I've never been able to afford them. I always try to stay positive so I have a smile on my face and I'm certain I don't come off as an ass. I have a clean haircut and for the most part, I dress generally well
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You're probably not that ugly. Obese men and literal retards get wives. Even homeless people can get laid. Unless you are the fucking elephant man you're probably capable of getting some chick. You don't want all girls so stop freaking out about all of them. In my experience a lot of 4chan type guys have such poor self-esteem that they'll work out and get /fit/ but won't get a good haircut or nice clothes because that stuff is for hipsters or fags or they're just terrified somebody will call them out for trying to look good because they're so ugly. Try online dating, have a make over, go out and actually speak to some girls, go on a blind date or go bang a few hookers. You'll be surprised when these girls don't treat you like the Hunchback but rather just speak to you like a normal person they would go on a date with. You already feel like you've been rejected by every women without every really trying so why not actually be rejected? You can at least then just kill yourself honestly.
Am I OK looking?
You're an attractive person but the picture makes you look like an apathetic person and it's a bit off putting. Or you're just tired.
>>15743669op, I think you are gorgeous>big, pretty eyes>tan skin with a beautiful pink tinged complexion, not sallow at all>beautiful, sleek long hair>nice nose, nice mouth>great eyebrowsyou just look depressed as fuck op.
Wouldnt date because you look like the biggest bitch in the world.Would definitely pump and dump though.
I'm really surprised by all these high ratings here. I'm not saying this to be a dick, but OP is just an average girl, 6/10 or so. This really got me wondering whether I'm spoiled by the attractive girls in my country and will be really disappointed once I move to another country in a few months.
>>15744540Nah, /adv/ is just so desperate for female approval that they'd call a 4/10 beautiful.
>>15744060Nah.
To everyone, I am tired of putting up this front of being confident and strong for all of you. Dad, ever since gramps died you've been lost and it's been up to me to take care of buisness. Mom, Dad needs your help. Not more space. He doesn't know how to deal with grief. And I am not my younger siblings father. Stop treating me as such. I've got my own problems to deal with without having to come home and be everyone's rock. I'm about ready to break down.
Best friend wanted to fuck this chick tonight. It was obvious and his roomie told me later on. I tried to coach him but you can't make a cripple ride a bike.I knew he blew it and she had no interest early on. He's a very, very awkward neckbeard and she's an alright nerd girl.She and I fucked about an hour ago. She left. I'm sitting here just thinking about how they are both going to go to a movie tomorrow, him hoping to get something (he won't) and how she told me she wants to come over again afterward. Seems kinda clingy already shooting texts, but I guess my dick is alright.I haven't had sex in years. I feel like shit. What do I do?
>>15744560It'll hurt your friend but its better to tell him not to waste his money and just ignore the girl or decrease your reply time gradually
To M,I like you,I have done for a while now,I dont know if you know it but its probably best if you dont.I know you wouldnt pick a guy like me,you're too good for that but theres still this part of me that still has that hope but I guess I'll never know
>go outside to smoke a cigarette>girls acting like loud ass whores for attention (stripping down and going into fountain-college campus-)>whatever, i'm 22 and graduating at this point i don't care. just let me fucking smoke in peace>hear them talking about a "creep">"eww. he even has a cigarette"what did i do to deserve this? i don't bother anyone. i quit for a year to try and assimilate better (be more -normal- and outgoing/i.e. acting like people my age are supposed to-"health crazed" "happy" people). I can't even mind my own fucking business without shit on by others. Does this happen to anyone else, here? I pretty much feel like the world doesn't want me, and it doesn't understand me either. There's a reason why I have a cold and unapproachable demeanor: I'm afraid of getting hurt, because everyone in my life has tried to hurt me for some reason. I usually have thicker skin, but it hurts to know that nothing has changed. I just don't matter. to anyone, anywhere. Others can't even bother to treat me with the dignity of a human being.
>>15744364Honestly, the difference between him and you is that you express your shame by shaming other people.
>>15744167Liar
>>15744387Pointless vitriol for miserable "people"
>>15744092>cold and unapproachable>getting hurtI've had the exact opposite experience throughout life, OP. I've accepted that relations with other people will sometimes result in scraped knees; it's fucking inevitable. I've always been the warm, laid-back guy that sometimes gets shit on 'cause of my aloof and disconnected nature.Loud girls on a campus talking shit? I've had it happen before. Play it off how you want. I'm a boisterous asshole so I just called out one girl's fashion sense and it hit her hard. Felt bad afterward. People not treating you right? Well, how do you carry yourself or think of yourself?You're a human being. You do matter to certain people no matter what you think. Learn to accept your faults and strengths. Carry yourself like every step is your last and never sell yourself fucking short. Walk into a room like it's your house and own it.I just had a dozen people over at my house for a big dinner and had a girl I barely know stay over. I was a fucking NEET a few years back, jerkin' it to hentai. The way you feel about yourself is projected my man. Not everybody is gonna be a fan or a friend, so just accept that. There's my two (kinda drunk) cents.
Don't give a fuck about what the others say OP,however you are or whoever you are.And if you've done bad things in the past,who cares? You can always change who you are.