I think I'm narrowing down what the problem is. Men who think that strong female leads are bad/amoral/unwatchable etc etc. are fucking nuts. They are a vocal minority who have major issues. Women who think that physical fitness tests for public safety should be arbitrarily lowered for women alone are fucking nuts. They are a vocal minority who have major issues. Remember we are talking about one woman, in a department of one city, one time (so far, which is an important topic of discussion and is not to be ignored). The actions and results of this one woman do not reflect or represent international women's rights issues and their proponents in any way shape or form.

The problem that I see here on reddit, and in many other places on the net and IRL is that when angry narrow scoped women's groups who want to emasculate men or isolate and eradicate them etc. etc. it is often labeled "feminism" or modern feminism and many people accept it as the face of women's rights.

When a bunch strange repressed men call for the subjugation and oppression of women it is always dismissed as a small fringe group of weirdo's who couldn't get laid in highschool and still live in their mothers basements watching snow on their TV's while sharpening their collection of SS daggers they bought on ebay.

The idea that "women can do anything a man can do... but not only that... they can do it better" is nuts, and no sane educated feminist believes that. For all intents and purposes it is a strawman, made up of a tiny fringe minority of people with mental health issues, and does not represent all women, or feminism, any more than the jack assess complaining about this movie represent me, men's rights and human rights.