I would like to preface by saying that I am not in here for marital advice, I apologize for the wall of text, this is a throwaway account, and we live in New York State. All of that being said:

My wife works at an all boys alternative high school. The kids get sent there for screwing up basically, being bad in school, committing minor crimes, because they can't function in a regular school, etc. She got very close with one of the students while he was at the school, and since then he has moved back home with his mother. It is worth noting that this kid is 16 years old.

My wife continued to have a relationship with this kid, trying to help him out as he transitioned into the regular school. Unfortunately, this relationship transitioned into emailing, text messaging, instagram, snap chatting, etc.

At one point, she ended up meeting this kid to tutor him a couple of times at the request of his mother. After this happened, the relationship evolved. She ended up telling me that she was going to tutor him again, but in reality they just spent the day together. She even drove him to her parents house (her parents live about 30 minutes from where this kid now lives). While they were there he apparently kissed her a couple of times and they laid next to one another on the couch.

After this occurred, she says that he convinced her to send several snap chats of herself in her underwear (with her face in them) and even sent a snapchat of her naked vagina. She is convinced that he didn't save these because you can apparently tell if a snapchat photo is saved, but she also emailed him a couple of these photos (the non nude ones) to his email address.

I found out about this whole situation and we had a very serious discussion (obviously). She didn't think it would go this far, she didn't know what to do, etc. etc. It ends up that we decide we are going to try to fix our marriage after this, so I make her tell this kid that it has to stop, it was all a mistake, and that he has to move on with his life.

Going back to why this kid was at the school to begin with - he is unstable and unpredictable. As soon as she said this to him, he started flipping out, telling her he was going to completely ruin her life, her life was entirely in his hands now. He said that he was going to call the cops and get her sent to jail unless she continued talking to him. He said that he knows where her parents live, if he sees either of our cars he's going to smash the windows in with a baseball bat, and if he saw me he was going to beat the shit out of me because I'm the one that told her she had to stop this relationship that they had.

It has been a couple of days now, and the text messages and calls are continuing. He will call for hours on end, sending message after message stating that he is going to call the cops and get her arrested, get her fired from her job, he's going to send these photos to everyone he knows that works and goes to the school and everything else.

At this point, I'm assuming her job is probably fucked anyway, if she loses her job we can live, but how is she legally responsible? Could she really be arrested for this? I'm guessing she would probably lose her teaching license as well, which would be very shitty.

At this point I would love to go to the cops or lawyer myself and get some type of restraining order/order of protection or something, but don't know if it's going to turn into her getting arrested. Is there a point when he will be more "legally wrong" than she is? Or does it not matter what he does now because of what she has done?

She wants to attempt to continue trying to "talk this kid down" but I keep telling her any contact she has with this kid is just going to make both of our lives even worse.

Any bit of advice someone from someone that has some knowledge on the subject would be greatly appreciated.