Looking for a Date Middle of May
So, this is experimental. I’d like to go on a date in May. And for the first time, I’m going to try a bat signal: putting a call out on my blog. I don’t know anyone else who has tried doing that, so I have no precedent to work from as to etiquette or even arguments for or against doing it. So I’m just going to do it and see what happens and document and assess. If you know anyone who might have an interest in dating me, let them know. If you might have an interest, read on.- I’ll start by making sure anyone considering this is up to speed. I am polyamorous. I currently have many girlfriends. All I consider my friends. Some are just occasional lovers. Some I am more involved with. They are also polyamorous, or near enough (not all of them identify that way, but all of them enjoy open relationships). And I will always have relationships with them, as long as they’ll have me in their life.
- Many different things can be meant by the following terms, but just for the present purpose, if by a primary relationship is meant someone you live with or just about as good as live with, a secondary as someone you date regularly, and a tertiary as someone you date occasionally, all my relationships are tertiary, but only because of geography. I live just below Sacramento, California, where the rents are cheap, which means, where no one wants to live. And I’m unlikely to move anytime soon. So relationships with me, at best, are likely to be tertiary—long distance chatting with occasional being together throughout the year. Even so, I always take such friendships seriously.
- In person I am always very frank and open about myself and my life and wishes and feelings, and I prefer people be that way with me, although I fully understand most people aren’t as fully comfortable doing that as I am.
- I travel North America a lot. So far, particularly to Southern California and Ohio. But I range far and wide in my adventures.
The rest you can find out by
googling me
(along with your preferred keywords). Or checking out my body of writing
(even the writings of my enemies). But really, my religious status is obvious.
As are my politics.
And social views. I’m 0.5 on the
Kinsey scale. Not heavy into kink (but get along well with people who are). I have an unusual fetish or two but don’t expect any of my partners to share them.
I’m pro sex worker, and though I personally find strip clubs and brothels uninteresting at best (uncomfortable at worst), I like partners who are or who have been sex workers. I also like women who have or pursue a lot of partners or who love to boast of their sexual exploits, especially over wine or whiskey or equivalent. I’m not going to get all butt-hurt or angsty over how high
Your Number
is. It very much has the opposite effect on me.
-:-
Okay. So if all
that
hasn’t scared you away, read on. Otherwise, #RCIPNFY. Richard Carrier is probably not for you.
This May I will be in the Los Angeles area. I shall be spending time with several of my girlfriends, and family. But there is a hole in my schedule due to a date having fallen through, and I’m looking for someone to go on a date with then. It requires your taking at least one day off work (if you work a regular week). I’ll be free between noon the Wednesday of May 13th to noon the Friday of May 15th.
Within that window I’m flexible, but here is the date I had in mind: I was originally going to take someone really excited by the opportunity to see the
Dead Sea Scrolls, which are now on display at the California Science Center, and that is still my plan, especially as the same museum has the
Endeavor, plus tons of other cool science stuff, from
aerospace
to biospace. We could definitely spend hours there if not a whole day.
I am also planning to have a hotel room, and am comfortable sharing it platonically. Certainly I would enjoy sharing it non-platonically, but I don’t expect it. I can’t believe (even though I know) there are still guys who assume the other shit buys them sex, thus necessitating I say this: if you are going to have sex with me, it has to be because it’s fun and you want to, not because it’s something you owe me. On the same understanding, if you have a place for me to crash in town (platonically or not), and are happy to have me over to spare me the cost of hiring a room, that would be lovely. And yes, if you are poly or open and live with a partner or two, I’m comfortable with that as well.
This also means you don’t have to live in the LA area to join me for this. If you can get to LA, and don’t mind sharing a room (at my expense), the opportunity remains.
But I can probably only fit one woman’s company into my visit. And just as for you I’m sure, I’m only likely to say yes to someone who sparks something for me, and that’s too subjective and idiosyncratic to predict or define. So for both reasons, please don’t take a no badly. But if you want to at least inquire, please message me on
Facebook
… or email
if you are still that old school (hey, I can’t complain, I still have a flip phone…well, and an iPad…it’s a foot in both worlds for me). Just remember, it’s an unfair advantage you knowing a lot about me and what I look like, and I not knowing the same, so please do remedy that information disparity, at least a little, first thing. I would very much appreciate it.
Okay. Bat signal engaged!
Now it only remains to see what happens.