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am i at fault? (self.introvert)

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[–]WearWhatWhere 24 ポイント25 ポイント  (16子コメント)

Let's play perspectives :D

This is how you see it:

.... why cant they just ask me what they need right off the bat. whats the point of saying hi? it doesnt mean anything.

Maybe this is how they see it:

  • It would be rude of me to just ask for something. I should say something first.

  • It's habit. Like when you pick up the phone, you just say "Hello."

  • "I wonder if he's at his/her desk?" "Hi [are you there?]"

  • "Oh, s/he must be busy. S/he hasn't responded yet."

If they continue to do this and it bothers you, I think you should tell them. "Hey, [person]. If you ever need anything, you can just let me know. You don't have to say 'hi' and wait for my response! Tell me what you need and I'll get back to you ASAP."

I guess it's your fault, but it's not a big deal. It seems to be bothering you more than it is bothering them, so just let them know. They can't possibly know that it's bothering you if you don't tell them.

[–]micmea1 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

My general reply, "hey what's up?". It keeps in line with pleasantries and asks them what business they got without coming off sour.

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[–]88oo[S] -5 ポイント-4 ポイント  (13子コメント)

its not rude to just ask something. thats what i would prefer...

if im not at my desk or busy then it would be better to just get to the point. that way i can see it when i get back and just do it instead of just seeing a hi that i will ignore....

how can i just tell them it bothers me? thats kinda weird to say, right?

[–]WearWhatWhere 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (12子コメント)

From your point of view, it's not rude. But how do they know you see it that way?

"Hey, [person]. If you ever need anything, you can just let me know. You don't have to say 'hi' and wait for my response! Tell me what you need and I'll get back to you ASAP."

  • Sorry, sometimes I'm too busy to reply. Just leave a message, I'll get to it.

  • Don't hi me! What do you need? Smiley face, winky face, sunglasses face

If you feel that the "weirdness" of telling them outweighs the frustration that it causes you then you don't have to say anything at all. But place yourself in their shoes for a sec. If someone told you to stop saying "Hi" and waiting, and just get to the point, how would you feel? If you're not offended or weirded out by this, why would they be? And even if they are, so what? You're being honest and offering a solution to a problem. I'd say that deserves respect.