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Thoughts on casual sex? (self.OkCupid)

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[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (20子コメント)

You want to put on your profile that you're interested in casual sex but you're concerned about someone thinking you're interested in casual sex?

Seriously?

[–]2bABeeYour #1 best friend -4 ポイント-3 ポイント  (19子コメント)

She doesn't know wtf she wants.

[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (18子コメント)

She wants to have casual sex and wants other people to know she wants casual sex but she doesn't want anyone else to have an opinion on her wanting casual sex? People are fucking weird, man.

[–]2bABeeYour #1 best friend 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

My guess is she wants casual sex, but also that her super hot casual sex partner can also still become her magically emotionally supportive boyfriend of her dreams.

Maybe because she thinks she can't nab a super hot guy for a relationship, but she can maybe trick one to be her boyfriend if she can get him to agree to casual sex first.

[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. It sounds more to me like she wants to open the door for a relationship to other people who are just looking for casual sex by telling them that's all she's looking for too, and then she'll lure them into loving her.

[–]itstophman 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Surely what could possibly go wrong? /s

[–]hrjqo 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Isn't it possible the OP just wants to be able to get laid while still pursuing someone she can have a real relationship with?

[–]hephaestusroman35/M/SoCal/Skronking can't be wrong 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hey, don't interrupt their speculative, hate-circlejerk.

[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, except that's not what OP said, so.

[–]thursdaygirlBring Condoms -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (11子コメント)

Never been slut-shamed, I take it. Give it a few years, and enjoy it while it lasts. Or are you a slut-shamer yourself?

[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (10子コメント)

Uh, that's not slut-shaming, and I don't slut-shame. OP can want casual sex, I don't give a shit. I've said in this subreddit a hundred times that casual sex is all I use OKC for besides making new friends. Don't try and start a conflict where there isn't one.

[–]thursdaygirlBring Condoms -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (9子コメント)

but she doesn't want anyone else to have an opinion on her wanting casual sex?

What assumption should I then make re "opinion on her wanting casual sex", if not shaming? I mean, if people had good opinions re casual sex there wouldn't been an issue, which leads me to conclude you mean she shouldn't/isn't allowed to NOT want people to have negative opinions re casual sex.

Tell me what the alternative logical inference from your statement is.

And, do you want me to comment on your "lure them into loving her" comment here, or below? Also, feel free to spin that one positively, too.

[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything -3 ポイント-2 ポイント  (8子コメント)

OP said in her post that she wants to put on her profile that she wants to have casual sex but doesn't want anyone to know she wants casual sex. I said exactly what OP said, I just said it in clear terminology. People are entitled to their opinions, even if they're stupid opinions. They're still going to have them. We choose not to sleep with those people.

Are you stupid? You can stop now.

If you want to review my post history to satisfy your need to right-fight, that's cool, you'll see that I'm an extremely vocal feminist, I'm sex-positive, and I advocate for misogynistic narratives like slut-shaming to be shut down at all costs. You're trying to read into something that isn't there, which is why you're being downvoted as a result.

[–]thursdaygirlBring Condoms -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (7子コメント)

Too busy getting ready for my three-way in 45 minutes to check through your (copious?) post history.

I was responding to what you wrote here... which is also probably what's netting you down votes. I'm glad you feel you are a feminist and pro-sex. Probably want to keep that in mind the next time you post stuff like

she'll lure them into loving her.

etc.

[–]2bABeeYour #1 best friend 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Just because you are feminist and pro sex doesn't mean you can't call people on their bullshit.

Or do you think being those things mean you have to be 'judgement-free'?

[–]thursdaygirlBring Condoms -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (3子コメント)

No.... I call people on their bullshit all the time :). Obviously.

Also, clearly, I read OP's post differently.

I do think that assuming a woman can't truly be interested in BOTH love AND sex (or, LTR and Casual Sex) is sexist and/or misogynistic. Especially when it's gesturalized as

she'll lure them into loving her.

[–]stumblepretty22/F/uncomfortable w everything -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You're annoying the shit out of me. What OP's post said TO ME was that she wanted to list that she was interested in casual sex but didn't want anyone to know she was interested in casual sex and she wanted to list casual sex because she wanted to appeal to people looking for casual sex even though what she actually wants is a relationship. If you disagree with that interpretation, cool, but don't make judgments about my character based on your bullshit analysis of what I said.

You can fuck off now.

[–]thursdaygirlBring Condoms -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You are assuming a binary between relationship and casual sex which does not exist for everyone (It certainly doesn't exist for me), which led you to an ontological fallacy. People can want and/or be interested in searching for a long term relationship AND ALSO want to have casual sex.

Fucking someone regularly != luring them into loving you.

My reaction to your statements was.... your statements, which seemed to be somewhat naive as to why someone would be concerned with publicizing casual sex; and also catty.

Since I haven't called you stupid or anything else (I asked about slut shamer-ism), I'm not sure where your coming from with character judgement. Or, really, why you would care?