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16 Questions For Men That Reveal The Casual Sexism Women Experience Every Day

The Huffington Post  |  By Alanna Vagianos
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Sexism can be hard to point out when it's so engrained in our everyday lives. Clementine Ford, however, found an awesome way to highlight casual sexism with a simple hashtag.
Ford, a columnist for Daily Life Australian, took to Twitter on Feb. 2 to ask a pointed question about the sexism she faces at work.

Question to the male writers/speakers etc out there. Is it common for you to be called an ‘attention seeker’? Or do just women get that?

#QuestionsForMen: When you have a hostile disagreement with someone, is it common for them to say you’re angry because no one will fuck you?

The tweet and hashtag inspired other women on social media to pose their own #QuestionsForMen. As smart feminist hashtags often do, #QuestionsForMen quickly picked up steam. The conversations ranged from how women need to approach their careers differently than men, to worrying about the dangers of walking home too late, and the fact that the government still has some control over women's bodies.
Both women and men began tweeting the hashtag with their own questions about catcalling, sexual harassment and other issues women are forced to deal with on a daily basis. Here are 16 of our favorite #QuestionsForMen tweets:

#QuestionsForMen Are you comfy with the federal government & Christian conservatives holding decision making parties in your "boy" parts?

#questionsformen do you walk home with your keys placed in between your fingers? are you constantly looking over your shoulder?

@clementine_ford #QuestionsForMen how often do you have to fake laugh at stupid/cringey/creepy/sexist things older men say regarding you?

#QuestionsForMen have you ever been late to work because you've had to change streets 5 times in 5minutes to avoid being catcalled by women?

Do women jump into your face calling you fat, ugly, or that you "should get raped" for expressing an opinion online? #questionsformen

#QuestionsForMen When out having a few beers, have you ever said "no" to a woman & then been hassled by her for the rest of the night?

#questionsformen In a job interview have you ever been asked how you will juggle work and home?

Do you get told 'you'll change your mind eventually' when you say you don't want to have children? #QuestionsforMen

#questionsformen anyone not hire you on the basis of "you're a man - you'll be having a family soon and need to devote time to that." ?

If you take a leadership position, do you worry about being seen as bossy? Are you called bossy? #questionsformen

#questionsformen when you achieve something great, do you expect the female reporter to say, 'give us a twirl, who are you wearing?'

#QuestionsForMen Have you ever been basically told that going home with a woman means that she’s entitled to rape you?

@clementine_ford #QuestionsForMen How often are you expected to provide an explanation for why you didn't change your name to your wife's?

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  • Daniel Radcliffe
    In an interview with Buzzfeed Brews in June 2014, Radcliffe discussed his views on the "friend zone: Have you ever heard a girl say she’s in the friend zone? It’s a thing I think men need to be really careful about using... Do I think men and women can be friends? Yes, absolutely. Do I think men and women who are sexually attracted to each other can just be friends? Eh, it will probably become an issue at some point whether you deal with it, and talk about it and just move on, but it will always sort of get dealt with eventually… I definitely think the idea of friend zone is just men going, ‘This woman won’t have sex with me.’
  • Patrick Stewart
    Having witnessed his father physically abuse his mother as a child, Stewart gave a riveting speech for Amnesty International UK in October 2009. Remembering the impact the abuse had on him as a boy, he spoke to the responsibility men have to end this violence: “Even if she had [done something to provoke my father to hit her], violence is a choice. And it’s a choice that a man makes. We can choose to stop it.”
  • Mark Ruffalo
    The 46-year-old actor penned a letter in August 2013 in support of reproductive rights. Ruffalo opened up about his own mother's experience of having an illegal abortion and used the letter to rally supporters: I invite you to find your voice and let it be known that you stand for abortion rights and the dignity of a woman to be the master of her own life and body. I invite you to search your soul and ask yourself if you actually stand for what you say you stand for. Thank you for being here today and thank you for standing up for the women in my life.
  • Eddie Vedder
    In a 1992 op-ed for Spin Magazine, the Pearl Jam frontman explained why a woman's right to choose to have a child is much more than just a woman's issue: Combat lines are drawn at clinics, and women must be escorted through trenches, which only adds to their trauma. This is not a game. This is not a religious pep rally. This is a woman’s future... There are people wary of the strength that young voters possess. Prove them right. Decide on the issues and vote -- male or female -- for this is not just a women’s issue. It’s human rights. If it were a man’s body and it was his destiny we were deciding there would be no issue. Not in today’s male dominated society.
  • David Schwimmer
    In a June 2011 interview with The Telegraph, the "Friends" actor discussed his close affiliation with The Rape Foundation in Santa Monica and how he first became involved with sexual abuse awareness activism: “I’ve had two girlfriends who were victims of child sexual abuse, and one was also later a date-rape victim. That sensitized me to the issue in a way that I hadn’t been before."
  • Ezra Miller
    In February 2013, the 21-year-old actor attended New York's One Billion Rising To Stop Violence Against Women campaign in Times Square, where he told the crowd: "One in three women in the world will experience domestic violence or rape within the course of their lifetime. To me, I grew up in a household of women and I feel that all revolutionary causes should start with addressing misogyny."
  • John Legend
    From his newest music video, "You & I (Nobody In The World)" which promotes body love and self-acceptance in women, to openly advocating for women on numerous public platforms, Legend has always been a huge supporter for women's rights. At the March 2013 Sound Of Change Live concert he told the crowd: "All men should be feminists. If men care about women's rights the world will be a better place... We are better off when women are empowered -- it leads to a better society."
  • Jon Hamm
    In a February 2011 Daily Mail interview, the "Mad Men" star spoke about how much progress we've made when it comes to breaking free of traditional gender roles since the time when his hit show is set. And Hamm made it clear that he is quite happy to see such a male-dominated society become a thing of the past:Men ruled the roost and women played a subservient role [in the 1960s]. Working wives were a rarity, because their place was in the home, bringing up the kids. The women who did work were treated as second class citizens, because it was a male-dominated society. That was a fact of life then. But it wouldn’t be tolerated today, and that’s quite right in my book ... People look back on those days through a thick veil of nostalgia, but life was hard if you were anything other than a rich, powerful, white male.
  • Seth Meyers
    "When you work with the sort of really strong women that I work with, the idea that anyone would want to make decisions for them is hard to wrap your head around," the "Late Night" host told ELLE magazine in a September 2012 interview.
  • Louis C.K.
    The 46-year-old comedian has a long and impressive résumé of smart, self-reflective comedy about privilege, race and gender. In his 2013 HBO standup special "Oh My God," C.K. preached some serious (and seriously funny) feminist comedy: How do women still go out with guys, when you consider that there is no greater threat to women than men? We're the number one threat to women! Globally and historically, we're the number one cause of injury and mayhem to women. You know what our number one threat is? Heart disease.
  • Prince Harry
    In a June 2013 speech for the CHIME For Change concert the second royal son said, "When women are empowered, they immeasurably improve the lives of everyone around them -- their families, their communities, and their countries. This is not just about women, we men need to recognize the part we play too. Real men treat women with dignity and give them the respect they deserve."
  • Ryan Gosling
    After the MPAA gave his movie "Blue Valentine" an NC-17 rating for depicting a woman receiving oral sex, the actor issued a statement slamming the media's discomfort with female pleasure: You have to question a cinematic culture which preaches artistic expression, and yet would support a decision that is clearly a product of a patriarchy-dominant society, which tries to control how women are depicted on screen... The MPAA is okay supporting scenes that portray women in scenarios of sexual torture and violence for entertainment purposes, but they are trying to force us to look away from a scene that shows a woman in a sexual scenario, which is both complicit and complex. It's misogynistic in nature to try and control a woman's sexual presentation of self. I consider this an issue that is bigger than this film.
  • Daniel Craig
    For International Women's Day in March 2011, the "James Bond" actor starred in a short video which featured Craig dressed as a woman and staring into the camera, as Judi Dench's voiceover explains: "Women are responsible for two thirds of the work done worldwide, yet earn only 10 percent of the total income and own 1 percent of the property... So, are we equals? Until the answer is yes, we must never stop asking.”
  • Andy Samberg
    If it wasn't enough to rock a National Organization for Women (NOW) t-shirt on a regular basis, the 35-year-old actor and comedian had some choice words for those who say women aren't funny: "It’s crazy. Since there have been men and women, there have been funny women... f**king idiot-ass men keep saying that women aren't funny. It makes me crazy. I find it disgusting and offensive every time," Samberg told Glamour magazine in an August 2013 interview.
  • Alan Alda
    Alda has identified as a feminist his entire career. He has spoken out for women's rights tirelessly on the Equal Rights Amendment Countdown Campaign where he served as an honorary co-chair with Betty Ford. He has written articles discussing women's issues in Ms. Magazine and was even named "the quintessential Honorary Woman" by the Boston Globe. In his latest blow to patriarchy, Alda spoke with HuffPost Live this past May where he said, “I think [misogyny] is like a disease that needs to be cured. And if we could eradicate Polio, I don’t see why we can’t eradicate misogyny."
  • Ian Somerhalder
    As part of the UK Women's Aid "Real Man" campaign in 2011, the "Vampire Diaries" actor explained why he cares about issues like domestic violence: I wanted to take part in this campaign because it’s so easy to forget the many women live their lives in fear because of domestic violence. Men have an important role to play in sending out the message that real men do not hurt or abuse their partners.
  • Ben Stiller
    In a May 2009 interview that appeared in Time Out Dubai Stiller spoke about the gender gap in the comedy world. "I think that in general, there’s a certain ‘men’s club’ sort of attitude about comedy in terms of how men see women," he said. "But it goes deeper than that. I think men want to see women in a certain light, it’s subconscious and they’re not even aware of it. It has to do with men’s outlook on women. Hopefully that will change.”
  • The Dalai Lama
    During a September 2009 speech at the National Civil Rights Museum, the Dalai Lama hit the nail on the head when commented, “I call myself a feminist. Isn’t that what you call someone who fights for women’s rights?”
  • Joseph Gordon-Levitt
    This past January the self-proclaimed feminist actor went on the Ellen Show and explained why he thought his debatably progressive film "Don Jon" was such an important story to tell: My mom brought me up to be a feminist. She would always point out to my brother and me that our culture does often portray women like objects... She wanted me and my brother to be aware of it because we see these images on TV, in the movies and on magazines all the time. And if you don't stop and think about it, it just sort of seeps into your brain and that becomes the way you perceive reality.
  • Will Smith
    When asked why he let his daughter, Willow, cut off all of her hair in a May 2012 interview with Parade, the 45-year-old actor responded perfectly: We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.
  • Richard Sherman
    Once known for his controversial rant leading up to the 2014 Super Bowl, the Seattle Seahawks cornerback proved he definitely has a way with words during January 2014's NFL Media Day. When asked how he deals with the "bad example" some athletes set for young women by glorifying strip cubs -- an odd question to begin with -- the Stanford grad replied: Well, I’ve never gone into a strip club and thrown money, so I couldn’t tell you. I guess trying to understand that there are other avenues, there are other ways you can make money, that women can do anything they want in this world. You can go out there and be a CEO of a company. Like I said before, the same can be said for kids in the inner city -- the ceiling is limitless and don’t limit yourself to those possibilities and those circumstances.
  • Jay Baruchel
    In a March 2012 interview with Vulture, Baruchel explained why he prefers writing female characters: I do [prefer writing women characters], just because I'm a mama's boy. I was raised by my mom, I have a little sister, and I'm constantly annoyed [by] how terribly written most females are in most everything -- and especially in comedy. Their anatomy seems to be the only defining aspect of their character, and I just find that untruthful and it straight-up offends me. A lot of the strongest people I know are chicks. And as a viewer, I get a kick out of watching real characters. So I take it upon myself to clean that shit up and write actual women. And I like writing strong women, because as a straight male, there's nothing more attractive to me than a strong girl.
  • Ashton Kutcher
    Kutcher stole our hearts when he discussed how poorly most sex education addresses female sexuality. He told Movieline in a January 2011 interview: The male orgasm is actually right there and readily available to learn about because it's actually part of the reproductive cycle, but the female orgasm isn't really talked about in the education system. Part of that creates a place where women aren't empowered around their own sexuality and their own sexual selves, and from a purely entertainment point of view, to create a movie with a female lead that's empowered with her own sexuality is a powerful thing. And if we can give teenage people something to think about from a sex perspective, I would say it would be to open a conversation where women are empowered with their own sexual experiences from an educational level as well as an entertainment level.
  • President Barack Obama
    President Obama signed Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Restoration Act bill into law on January 29, 2009, allowing women to file equal pay lawsuits against their employers for up to six months after receiving their last paycheck. In a January 2012 speech discussing the Lilly Ledbetter Act and why he supports the Paycheck Fairness Act, President Obama said, "Too often women can't access the information they need to fight the pay discrimination... Women can't wait for equal pay. And I won't stop fighting to address this inequality."
  • Joss Whedon
    At a 2006 Equality Now event, "Buffy The Vampire Slayer" creator and "The Avengers" writer took a creative and impactful approach to his speech. He discussed the frustrations of always being asked the question, "Why do you create strong female characters?" In the speech he gave numerous responses, including: Because, equality is not a concept. It's not something we should be striving for. It's a necessity. Equality is like gravity. We need it to stand on this earth as men and women, and the misogyny that is in every culture is not a true part of the human condition.
  • Blair Underwood
    During a 1992 interview at the March for Women's Rights in Washington D.C., Blair Underwood discussed why he is pro-choice: Basically it boils down to the government or legislative body telling me what I can and cannot do in planning my own family. So, if you are going to tell a woman what to do, that woman may be my wife, that woman may be my girlfriend. That doesn't sit well with me to tell them and to tell me what I can't do with my family. So, in a nutshell, that's basically why I'm here, and that's why it's important for most of us men to be here. Because, you can't live in this world, obviously, without coming into contact with women. I mean, a woman is my mother, gave me life, gave me sisters. I have a girlfriend I love dearly. All of that comes into play. It's not about abortion being right or wrong. It's about having that choice to decide what a person should do with their own body.
  • Antonio Banderas
    In a March 2013 PSA for the UN's Stop Violence Against Women Campaign, the 53-year-old Spanish actor urged viewers to end domestic violence: Two million women and girls are trafficked each year into prostitution, forced labor, slavery or servitude… These women are our sisters and our daughters, our grandmothers and our mothers. This is unacceptable. And it must stop now.
  • Donald McPherson
    The former NFL quarterback turned social activist has founded several outreach programs and regularly speaks at college campuses about ending domestic and sexual violence. In a March 2013 CNN article about men's roles in stopping violence against women, McPherson wrote: What can men do [to stop violence against women]? Men do not just need to stop being violent. The vast majority of men are not violent. But men do need to stop being silent. Calling violence against women, whether street harassment or sexual harassment or rape or murder, a "women's issue" allows men to ignore it as if we have no responsibility for it or stake in ending it. We all have grandmothers, mothers, sisters, daughters and female friends and colleagues. Our lives are inextricably interwoven; women's issues of safety and equality directly affect our lives as men. Beyond that, women are humans, with the same rights to safety and freedom as men. It is therefore our moral responsibility to not remain silent or passively on the sidelines, but to be actively engaged in confronting this problem in every corner of homes, communities, and societies.
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In an interview with Buzzfeed Brews in June 2014, Radcliffe discussed his views on the "friend zone:
Have you ever heard a girl say she’s in the friend zone? It’s a thing I think men need to be really careful about using... Do I think men and women can be friends? Yes, absolutely. Do I think men and women who are sexually attracted to each other can just be friends? Eh, it will probably become an issue at some point whether you deal with it, and talk about it and just move on, but it will always sort of get dealt with eventually… I definitely think the idea of friend zone is just men going, ‘This woman won’t have sex with me.’
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  • Margret White
    Please Paul and Rick, you are pathetic. You have absolutely no idea how prevalent all of these things are for women that we have deal with ignoramuses like you on a daily basis all day long. It is incredibly tiring and sickening. Have you been raped? Probably not, I have and most of the women I know have been sexually assaulted, but never reported. We have been harassed, pinched, had our bra straps grabbed and snapped and just generally being crapped on by society. Circumcision is not quite as life threatening as carrying a fetus to term. No one is "forcing" you to drive hundreds of miles out of your way for a circumcision, nor to wait 24 hours between appointments for your medical care, nor get your wife, girlfriend or parents permission in writing for one. If women are promoted to a leadership role it is always assumed (by men and even sometimes other women) that it must be because your a "Ball breaking bitch" or because you slept with someone. As opposed to you are QUALIFIED to do the job. Not things that are typically ever said when a man is promoted or hired for a supervisory or managerial position. So tell me again how unfair your life is made by the demand women put on your freedoms and life.
    • Lisa Lippitz · Top Commenter
      Also, circumcision is a decision made by parents, not by the government. He can be mad at his parents for making the decision, but no law laws exist that made them do it. Men, when asked what they feared women might do to them most often replied that they were afraid women would laugh at them. Women, when asked what they feared men might do to them were afraid men might kill them. HUGE difference there.
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    • Paul Richter · Top Commenter · North Harris County College
      Lisa Lippitz True no laws make parents mutilate their sons but there are laws that Allow them to do it.
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    • Robert Jackson · Top Commenter
      Never said it was unfair although life is unfair in general. Merely that these are not unique to women.
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  • Paul Richter · Top Commenter · North Harris County College
    "Are you comfy with the federal government & Christian conservatives holding decision making parties in your "boy" parts?"
    No more than being told that circumcision is the "norm" and there "health reasons" to have it done and "you won't get laid" id you don't it's "not as bad" as FMG so what's the big deal.
    "do you walk home with your keys placed in between your fingers? are you constantly looking over your shoulder?"
    No I carry a gun since I'm 3 to 5 times more likely to be the victim of street violence.
    "Do women jump into your face calling you fat, ugly, or that you "should get raped" for expressing an opinion online?"
    No but women do call me a "cisgendered white male who lives in his mother's basement and can't get laid" and "typical angry whit man who just doesn't 'Get IT""
    "Do you send your mates a message to let them know you've gotten home safely?"
    No because no one really cares the safety of men.
    "when you achieve something great, do you expect the female reporter to say, 'give us a twirl, who are you wearing?'"
    Yeah THAT happens a LOT
    "If you take a leadership position, do you worry about being seen as bossy? Are you called bossy?"
    If you're that insecure maybe you're not cut out for a leadership position.
    • Rick Martin · Top Commenter
      Well said Paul!
      I might add another one to your list:
      "When you have a hostile disagreement with someone, is it common for them to say you’re angry because no one will fuck you?"
      Yes, this is a typical remark from women when you disagree with their feminist, man-hating comments. It is usually followed by a "You must have a small penis" remark as well.
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    • Kesl Jules · Top Commenter · San Francisco, California
      Paul Your observations are great as they show you're able to relate and possibly move to the next level and cultivate some compassion (unless you've already got it, of course).
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    • Fay Trisker · Top Commenter · Head Bum at Bum
      I agree with many of your points Paul, but I do not agree at all with your assumption that no one cares about the safety of men. As a mother, wife, SIL, aunt and friend to men I care very much about their safety! Also not liking being called "bossy" for doing your job doesn't make one insecure.
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  • Lightning T Farm · Lufkin, Texas
    At my first job out of college for a major oil company, one middle aged man actually said to me "What's a pretty little thing like you doing in the oil business?". I replied, "Trying to make a living" and walked out. Not the first or last time I had to face sexism in the workplace.
    • Threesided Orchid · Top Commenter
      I work in the construction industry - once, at a business dinner where I was the only female, the man next to me was telling a story about a convention and the strippers who were there with some of the vendors. He got to one point and told me to cover my ears. I replied no, it was fine (but in a joking/tactful way). At which point he *put his hands over my ears* to continue his story (and not in a joking way).
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    • Anne Julian · Albany, Oregon
      Threesided Orchid Yuck, how patronizing and unprofessional...
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  • Jack Colon
    To be honest all of these things are pretty relatable for both males and females. How ignorant can these people be? Sometimes I wish men were more complacent so we can get a complete and accurate perspective on this issue, but then I realize that it makes us better for it not worse.

    Here are a few for the guys out there who might not want to say anything because we live in a sexist society who expect men to suck it up though...

    Have you ever gone to a restaurant and had the waiter give you the bill because you are expected to pay for the date? Have you ever had to go on a date and worry that the person you were with might consider you to be cheap if you decided to split the check?

    How many housewives are called deadbeats with no jobs because they were the ones to stay home to raise the child?

    Have you ever been asked to pay ...20 dollars to walk into a bar when the group of ladies in line not only got to go ahead of you but they got in for free as well? Is there a such thing as "guys night" where all guys get into the club for free?

    If you were on a ship that was going to sink and they say "women and children first" do you wait or do you get on the lifeboat?

    If you and your significant other both go to court for murder and he gets sentenced to life and you get 20 years for equal roles in the crime do you tell the judge and jury they are being sexist and you deserve life?

    If you are walking with your significant other and somebody offends them do you stand up for them, and if you do then do they carry the stigma of being a wuss because they didn't fight their own battles?

    Really the list goes on...I'm not going to say any of these scenarios are acceptable. They are all sexist in their own rights, but what I don't appreciate is when you try to turn these things into exclusive problems for women. If you want equality you have it. We all have the equal opportunity to face sexism in society. The only real difference here is you are trying to have your cake and eat it too.     See More
    • Chëna Ohanele · London, United Kingdom
      Noble men of the past made all these things you listed as what defines good men. It was called once called chivalry and they are elevate your dignity not lower it like what women deal with.
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  • Kyla Jean Thompson · Top Commenter · Shift Leader/Manager at Culver's
    Sure, I've had an older gentleman at work start to horrendously flirt with me while I was on break once. Sat down uninvited at my table, started talking about how much money he has and how he uses the "many motorcycles" he has to take "pretty things just like you out for a ride. And I do love giving women rides. *creepy wink*." Did I throw up? Well, a little bit, but I think I hid that well. I didn't want to drive away customers, and he was a regular there from what I understood, so I was polite of course, until one of my male co-workers whisked me away on an "emergency" since he saw how uncomfortable I was. I could have asked him to stop as I'm a manager, however the upper management would have been more worried about loss of sales than my comfort zone. Thing is, it happens. My friends look back and joke I could have married hi...m and since he's old in a few months I'd be filthy, stinking rich. (It was creepy then, but something to laugh at now.)

    Have I been sexually assaulted? Oh sure, though it was partially my fault, (everyone was WAY too drunk.) Called sweetheart by fellow co-workers or joked what's a cute thing like you doing working here? Of course!

    The thing is how women deal with it, and many of them deal with it wrong, because I can bet men DO deal with social pressures as well. How about this?

    #QuestionsforWomen - Have you ever been rejected at a physical labor job just because you don't look strong enough? -- Have you ever been made fun of for being sensitive, because your gender isn't socially allowed to be sensitive? -- Have you ever been ostracized for being a virgin, because your sex appeal and standard among friends is based on how many people you've been with?

    Men may not have as many equality issues as women do when it comes to work or sexual abuse, but they are for a fact, still there, and really shouldn't be ignored. If we want to be equal we need to act equal, and not act like one sex or the other is better.     See More
       
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    • Marc Sylvestre · Top Commenter
      Really "bossy" is coming up again? Look, "bossy" is not gender specific. Nobody likes people to be "bossy", even their boss.
         
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      • Bruce TheViking · University of New England
        have you ever cut a really good corporate video that was 9mins long and the client loved to have it trimmed to seven minutes to enter a national competition (length requirement of competition ) by the pregnant junior female editor in the company who then left the industry to raise her family only to have that shorter video win the competition and not even get a mention? she apologised to me but took the accolade, yeah i understand where your coming from...
           
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        • Jay Swanson · Works at Mayo Clinic
          Oh, I'm a man, and although I'm most undoubtedly misogynistic and evil, I think I can answer your questions.

          @ClematineFord - 1) I've been called a lot of things in my life, some good, some bad. Attention seeker has been one of them since I involve myself in a lot of conversations I believe affect me directly. Be the bigger person and realize they mock out of their self-confidence issues.

          2) This comment needs context to have meaning. If a close friend told me I need to get F-ed, it would probably be in a joke context and I would laugh it off. If someone said this as a purposefully disparaging comment (can't say I've had this one in particular used on me, but there have been many tossed my way) see last sentence of 1.

          @eleshep - No, but again context is important. I guess I don't suggest "cute" things. I have been told my "bu...siness ideas" were s#!t, crap, worthless, stupid, etc. so I guess cute doesn't sound that bad from my perspective.

          @ImtheChez - Nope, nope, nope. I believe in freedom and that goes for men and women alike. I don't much appreciate you judging me because of my sex either... (ironic isn't it?)

          @spiritualvodka - Why yes I do walk to my car with my keys at the ready (though usually hidden in my pocket so not to draw attention). I also have a CCW permit and am armed most of the time. I live in a sizable city and danger lurks in the unknown. I believe I'm prepared as well as I can be. Do you think the world is less dangerous for me because I have a penis? I think if you look at crime statistics you won't find any difference between men and women suffering from violent crimes in America...

          @ Mickey_Nicholeson - Not creepy old MEN per say, but if you wanna take the sexism out of your voice long enough for me to address you... I have felt uncomfortable around multiple people making sexual advances towards me; be it homosexual males, elderly women, or just people who want to give me a hard time. Again, be the bigger person and realize they have a problem and are venting. You just happened to be the closest person to them...

          @theamandaohmen - No, I'm not that insecure with my own body. I've gotten complements on how I look from strangers, as well as hostile threats and disparaging insults. I am who I am, I say to myself and sometimes aloud as I walk away and continue my day uninterrupted.

          @FedoraHippie - Unless you have superpowers that no one else has, I'm guessing you have no idea what sexual orientation or gender the people insulting you online are. I have likely been called horrible things by online trolls of all genders and sexual persuasions. No biggy...

          @IsabellaEscort - Yes! it's annoying isn't it? But, that's about it, an annoyance. The people who cling on like that usually have some personality issues they need to work on and make themselves less attractive to me anyways. You think just cause you're a women you're the only one who attracts wierdo's?

          Alright, I could go on and answer everyone of your questions but, I'm beginning to see a bit of a pattern. Maybe if you all just accept that we're just humans with our own individuality's, and can't be lumped into categories like "Men" and "Women", you might see that you may have been victimized by another person in some way or another, but it had nothing to do you them being male and even less to do with you being female, but everything to do with wrong place wrong time. #Whyarewomensosexist           See More
             
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          • Nick Nicholas · Works at FarmVille 2
            My answers: Cougars definitely exist & make awkward moves on younger guys that lead to polite laughs (though admittedly less frequently than it happens for women), if I were catcalled by women on the street on the way to work every day then I'd likely be late every from responding to each of them, Yes everyone online gets called dumb shit when they disagree with you, Yes I've been told I'll change my mind & eventually I'll want kids, While I haven't beentold that women inviting me home are entitled to rape me I will say that I could likely only fend them off so hard, & Yes I've had numerous coworkers refer to me by far more degrading & embarrassing pet names than sweetheart (by both women & other men). All the other answers were Nos for me
               
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            • Cer Can
              #QuestionsForMen Are you comfy with the federal government & Christian conservatives holding decision making parties in your "boy" parts?
              — Heather McChesney (@ImTheChez) February 3, 2015

              they do, its called circumcision.
                 
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